Interracial relationships and ridicule
Have you ever been discriminated against or ridiculed for being an interracial couple?
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What was your reaction to your haters? Do you think people will ever get over the "Eeew!" looks they give interracial couples?
Well, let us know how Americans are treating interracial couples in this century.
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Member says:Posted: 11 Aug 10
u cnt live by the basis of waht ppl tink about you or you will never b happy. i tink call africans black is just a racist term even tryin to explain dat african ppl arent black is just stupid. soil is called dark brown as dark as it is but africans r called black ..honest trees barks r dark brown no one ever says its black my eyes is brown my hair is black how does dat make my skin black? funny no way r we black ive drawn african ppl i use the colour brown. black is more of a label than is our skin
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Member says:Posted: 23 Jun 10
people of disrespect, lack intellect. need to adjust, their own disgust,turn their mentality, to reality, accept the fact, white or black, as a fact, we are of the human race, you are the only disgrace, look at how your misery, from your own history, with your fingers pointing my way, ignorance is all you got to say, can't state nothing positive, skin color ain't a negative, why you fronting now, trying to draw a crowd, "oh look at me". spreading hate and it philosophy, while all i can do, is not react to you, ignorance begets getting violent, no one likes to beat down bigots, to level i want step, move on to what's next. if dr. king were here, he'd tell me not to fear, because one day dreams will become real.
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ebonycap says:Posted: 28 May 10Growing up, I was always passed over by black men. At least the ones I was interested in anyways. It bothered me a little at first, but then I got over it and moved on. The first time I found myself attracted to a white guy (when I was a teen in the 80's), I was really concerned about what everyone would think. I eventually outgrew that concern. Throughout my life, I have dated interracially. My ex-husband is white. I'm on this site because I find myself attracted to white men. I think men are beautiful in every color of the rainbow, and although I definitely look and appreciate the view, I'll probably always date white men. I gave up caring a long time ago what people think about me and my choices. Attraction is what it is and it can't always be explained. I follow my heart. Life is too short to worry about pleasing other people.
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oct0809 says:Posted: 26 May 10
Wherever u might go inlife,our race will be looked at.It's a shame that people don't care abt u until they want to know,why and how u got him or her?I think that me being single is becuase,I don't want 2feel like my race got 2do with who I'm with.Being mix up on what my race is not what I watch or care on.I like what I like,Love when I do get to Love.And whoever is with me will feel special to me and ur race is not my issue.My issues r not how you look but is how u speak to me and how u treat me and how good u can feel me.No one can change how u feel abt a person and when u inlove u will do your very best to protect that person and keep them save.U also would think on what prayer's u could pray for ur lover.Being safe and loving that person and being in a relationship in everything.Safety and being Strong for one another.But being different is what we do when we date outside our race.Yes we r activity whether we like it or not,yes u got to create your own hand motions when someone speak ill word 2u.Whether we hear with our ears or see with our eyes we got to b strong.We expeced that we can date whoever we want to with out the fools not looking or speaking to us but there amazing ways call being a fool.Dated that person that would make it interracial each other there.I'm looking for that guy who won't be shame of me.That would let me love him for who he is not what his race is!!!!!
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homesteader says:Posted: 03 Apr 10
I married my wife because she was a Ladie . Before we got together , me being disabled at the age of 18 / then again at 52 because of a massive heart-attack . I found the Lower forms of Life in my own Heritage constantly . Color has totally ability to form the lives of Decent people . As a whole , people are more intelligent / friendly than you can imagine , when given the chance . Yet , I have Experienced Discrimination my whole life because of a pronounced limp due to a shorter leg and speach problems from a broken voicebox . This form of Discrimination was never openly talked about . Help came from using my own mind and hard work . " Ridicule " is life / each must learn to survive as an individual every man woman and child will have their own times others judge them unfairly . Being of a Passive Nature / I have managed to stay within the law . Using it to Report these people / alas they did knot stay out of jail . Each must Enjoy / those that create problems , these are Their problems . Dismiss them as Foolishness and mind your own business / Life with an inter-racial partner , is still "just Life "
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kissime says:Posted: 03 Apr 10I almost suffocated from reading these comments. I had to stop and inhale. Loving a man or woman from another race does not mean you should treat your own as insolence. I'm attracted to white men-I was married to one and we have a beautiful son. He is a great father. When we were married he took care of us. He is a hard worker. He is very involved in his child's life. He bought a house for us in the suburbs because he is a family man, and wanted our son to be safe in his own yard. We traveled together as a family. We worked together when possible, grocery, shopped, danced together. He loved me. So does my father; a Black Man. The men in my family have never been in trouble with the law. They are educated, family oriented and are productive to society. They are respectful. They love their wives, their girl friends of whatever race or ethnicity, and they love and takes care of their children emotionally, and financially. They have values. Your experiences are your own: Stop Insulting Black Men. Enough with the DAMAGE! Every race has it's pride & it's failures. Do not allow a few negative opinion ignite the hatred manifest in you for whatever reason. If you must make your point for the sake of argument: Do The Math-correctly. In America:-White 80%; Black 13%; Hispanic and Latino who could racially be black, white or other compose 15%. I'm not making excuses for all, but some are influenced by certain circumstances. Yes, it matters. Sometimes change is hard-and as hard as we may try to do different at time we fail. Have you ever tried to lose weight? Have you ever wonder of the universe? Some--of whatever race are paralyze. And, my dear, pouring alcohol in an open wound hurts. How would you feel if someone demeaned you especially based on a few experiences with you or someone else. The men in prison were the boys in that daycare center. The rapist, I believe should be punished to the highest form. The murderer (not from self defense or defending innocence) I believe in the Death Penalty. If you prefer to be with another race-good for you. Do it because you are attracted to him or her. Do it because of love: But make sure you love yourself as well as you should in any situation. If this is a curiosity make sure you are honest to that person-give them the option. Be righteous. Self loathing is 1 of the 7 deadly sins. ~Good Luck In Finding The Love Of Your Life~ Kissime
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kenyandude says:Posted: 02 Apr 10
Hey Member is right. I am offended by his comment that black guys just date white women for conquest or trophy symbols. That is to imply that black men are somehow incapable of falling in love. I have met loads of white women, attractive ones too who have wanted a relationship and I've turned them down because I didn't feel in love with them. So no, black men don't just date white women as trophies, there are white women we fall in love with and forge loving healthy and full relationships with. There is some sort of attitude that we need to be 'allowed' to date white women either by white men or black women. Guess what. We don't. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a black man dating a white women it's perfectly natural.
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Maxhb says:Posted: 06 Mar 10When I was married, my wife was black. We lived in the so-called chocolate town of New Orleans and even though that city is born of racial mixing there is a lot of social and professional scorn at black women who are with white men. My wife was harrassed and abused verbally by those who passed judgemnt. I think that the incidents collectively made her withdraw from our marriage and run from it. As a partner of a spouse who receives this ind of stuff, it is hard to cope. You are sympathetic abd compassionate, but you cant always get through. You become associated with the scorn. She looks at you and it reminds her of horrific incidents. I wish I had known how to help her more, it was a very trying time and though we talk, there is that intangible distance...that after 10 yrs together doesnt fit. Hopefully someday this will be pass. It requires looking into oneself and acknowledging that maybe one needs to back off and cleaning up the upsets within.
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Wonka says:Posted: 26 Feb 10
I have alot to say about this subject,however I don't have the time to sit here and write a book-so I'll keep it short and to the point.First of all interracial dating is not my 1st choice(I'am bi-racial by the way[Trinidadian & Irish]),secondly I think that interracial dating and relationships are overrated,Why? because EVERYBODY is doing it,it's kind of annoying to be honest and many of these people in these types of relationships(if you want to call it that)are only experimenting and some are probably so DESPERATE that they'll date basically anyone or anything LoL!!.It's OVERRATED!!.
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cowboy says:Posted: 31 Jan 10
There's nothing wrong with loving a woman. Years ago family pressure forced me to seperate from the one woman I really loved because of racial differences. I found her recently, we reconnected, got married, and have been as happy as clams ever since. No one has the right to tell you who you should and should not love..
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canadiangc says:Posted: 05 Dec 09For those who are curious about dating other cultures/races go for it. No sense in not finding out the reality. Just don't mistake the male or female being an ass as typical of everyone. Only thing that is sure to span all cultures and races are that their are asses in all of them. I've been fortunate and have never been ridiculed and have been dating inter-racially all my life. Sure I get black males initially apprehensive and protective of the female until they realize I am a nice guy and not just looking for a black girl fantasy sex. last person I was involved with was a bartender at a predominantly (99%) black nite club and as I travelled a lot for work i would stop at the club if partner was working. She would see me coming, fun from the bar to greet me, jump into my arms, legs wrapped around me and we would give each other a passionate kiss. No issues from anyone there, most likely because she was very respected in her enviroment and wouldn't put up with anyone's shit and had male and female friends that backed her 100%. Having friends that support you and your choices makes a huge difference
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Vicanola says:Posted: 05 Dec 09
This will be my last entry...1st date...outing as we like to call it... was great. There was absolutely nothing I would change. Our environment was welcoming and tranquil. Curiosity does not only kill cats it kills prejudices. There will be a second outing this Saturday, and to that, I will keep between Steven and myself. Great chat-site, I do hope you all find what your curiosity and hearts are longing for. Take care you lovers of all that is good, Vicanola
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Vicanola says:Posted: 27 Nov 09
Appreciate your perspective "breezy". Perhaps I will be honest with him. I will tell him I agreed to the date out of curiosity. And then I will ask him his motivates...Does that seem too pushy? I usually am a confident person when it comes to the opposite sex; however, in this case, I do not want to be offensive...there should be a rule book about these types of interactions. I think the best thing to do is to just bite the bullet and call him...perhaps tomorrow. Thanks again, Vicanola
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breezy1968 says:Posted: 25 Nov 09Vicanola, There is nothing wrong with your curiousity, it is the only way to find out whatelse you might like. Most of us on this site have had the curious thing going on at one time or another.. Obviously, he has eyes for you or he wouldn't have asked you out. Would it upset you if his was just curiousity, also? Then based on this question, you have your answer. I hope this has helped alleviate your fears just a bit. Enjoy your date!!
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Vicanola says:Posted: 25 Nov 09
Quick posts please...there will be no wrong answers just your perpectives please. Thanks, Vicanola
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Vicanola says:Posted: 25 Nov 09
A dinner invitation came my way today from a man that was white. I am not sure how to respond because I think my motivates might be impure. This is my motivation and I would like your honest opinions about the matter: I am curious. Nothing more or less. I want to know if he will hold my hand differently, kiss differently, and overall treat me differently that the Black guys that I have dated. I have not been ill treated in my past relationships. We have always parted ways amicably. My curiosity has got the best of me, I fear. So for you experts in interracial dating is this the wrong reason to accept his invitation and should I tell him of my intentions up front? Take care you lovers of all that is good, Vicanola
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Member says:Posted: 31 Oct 09
I've had to deal with comments from both blacks and whites. I do find myself attracted to mostly black men.I live in north carolina and here a lot of older people are very racist. but most of the people my age ( im 30) dont really care. my best friend is asian, my man is mixed, im white, and the sky is blue,LOL. who cares what others think.as long as your man treats you good it doesnt matter what color he is.
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Brazil says:Posted: 22 Oct 09
I am from Brazil (South America) and, actually union between diferent races people is the most normal thing in world around here. I do not know why the north American care so much about it. The life is short and it needs to be lived...let´s live the beauty of life without seeing the black or white side of things. After all, the happiness does not have colour. It is like the air...you do not see it, you do not touch it, but you just feel it...because it is inside you! When God come to judge people, He will not ask you about your colour skin
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lovingstar says:Posted: 16 Oct 09Hey reneelucy7, Congratulations on the wonderous event. On a side note, I hope you don't live in Louisiana, because there was a Justice of the Peace that decided to deny an interracial couple their marriage license.
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reneelucky7 says:Posted: 05 Sep 09
My name is Renee Sanders. I am getting married to a wonder (and sexy) white man on Oct the 25th of 2009. His parent love me- his mom and dad are counry types- and they tell me that they love me every time I see them. My parents also feel the same way about my fiancee. I have not faced and racism because of I am with a white man and I live in the country.
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Enigma64 says:Posted: 02 Sep 09Let me just preface this with saying that I have always been attracted to white and Hispanic males...long before I developed any attraction at all to black males...@sobers200. However, I agree with sydnee on this: "Black men feel that white man HAVE to respect black women, but black men don’t." I think most black men take advantage of black women and have no respect for them, but show excessive respect to white women. I'm not mad or hatin', but don't hate me if I choose someone from another race because they show me more respect. You don't have the right, especially to say I should stick with my own kind, which, btw, is multiracial anyways. When a large percentage of "my own kind" is wasting away in jail due to stupid/pigheaded decisions (as a result of behavioral issues like sobers200 clearly displayed), or is hooked on drugs or alcohol, or are deadbeat dads, then I don't have much to choose from in the first place. On top of all of those bad choices, I then have to choose from the 10% that's left and in so doing, deal with being disrespected by at least 5% of what remains of "my own kind?" I think not. (Hi-five to Superlite27 & lol @ Glock) And btw, it has nothing to do with how much they make, although most people want someone who is motivated and career minded or passionate about what they do. The majority of black men have a habit of sittin' around the "stoop" a bit too much for my taste. Speaks volumes about no drive or ambition. So I date who I please, and I never give a hoot as to what anyone else thinks or has to say about it. But that (above) would probably be my response to any black male that makes the type of subtle derrogatory comments that Glock described was made to his girlfriend. Btw, two snaps up to HoneyKissed6 for attitude & puttin' them in check. My very first boyfriend (high school) was apparently from somewhere up North, and had those blonde hair, surfer boy looks. When we met, the attraction was so obvious, but he asked me how people down here responded to mixed couples. I told him I didn't know and didn't care, but it was an issue for him, particularly because of the "burnout" who lead his social group. That guy looked like Howard Stern with straight black hair and sunglasses, and he always stared at me from behind the sunglasses. He never said anything derrogatory to me or in my presence, but I believe he influenced Chris, and probably said things like "n-lover" and so forth. Being that it was high school, and Chris was weak, we ended up breaking up, but I always was of the impression that the Stern lookalike secretly was into me and just wanted Chris out of the way. He just spent too much time staring even after he and I broke up, and that's not common unless there is some interest. From that time, I have never allowed anyone to dictate or influence who I date. I go after who I find attractive, and most often it is not black males. Peace & blessings.
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BootyQueen says:Posted: 01 Sep 09You know its so amazing how in this day and age people are still so close-minded and ignorant. Its kind of pathetic however you can't sweat the small stuff.I have lived all over the country and have experienced racism everywhere.I think it just comes with the territory of being non-white in America. And,it hurts yes but, in reality that kind of negativity doesn't have to exist in "my everyday world" B/c I'm not letting that BS dictate my life.So WHO CARES. I date whoever the hell I want to date and hold my head up high in doing so b/c I stick by my decisions.If we all continue to do that then maybe some of it will rub off on those who are less confident in themselves. Luckily I have only encountered minor annoying "incidents" when with a man that wasn't black like me and yes, they're annoying as hell and the worst part is they were either coming from black men (and you wonder why I wasn't with you) or white or Spanish women. With that being said I don't think its fair to put yourself in a box and say you fear dating anyone but whom your heart tells you to...even if their skin is tie-dyed. Beauty is not only skin deep. There is a beauty within all of us that's what makes us human beings.
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allikat says:Posted: 22 Jul 09
me and my boyfriend were at an applebees one night, and i was pretty much the only white person there besides the staff..but i could really have cared less...but there was a group of black girls sitting at a table right across from us, and they kept staring at us, and i heard one girl say "yea, these stupid white girls need to stop taking our men." i was pretty offended, yet not suprised, people are so closed minded still this day in age...i love him, he loves me...all the haters can keep walkin
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Member says:Posted: 14 Jun 09
And sharkie...I pray the Grandmothers watch over you, your woman and your precious little baby. I am burning sage and lavender to carry my prayers to the Creator for all of you.
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Member says:Posted: 14 Jun 09
The most interesting part of this discussion is that most of the comments are posted by black women and white men. Where are the white (or apparently white) women and black men in all this? Oh, wait...here I am! I am a biracial (Apache Indian and Caucasian) woman, my appearance is white. I guess I'm white on the outside, red on the inside. :-D Anyway, I am seeing a very obviously and dark black man. I have not yet met his family and that's what I'm the most nervous about. He says his mother (in her 80's) is okay with it, but the proof is in the pudding, as they say. Maybe I'll make her some frybread tacos and show her how to do the Shawl Dance. I have dated almost all races and have found that white men want a maid, Indians want a mother, Hispanics want a virgin and black men (at least this one, anyway) want a PARTNER. For the first time, I feel like my man actually listens to me and is interested in what I have to say. I know, it's a generalization, but we only have our experiences to work with, yeah? I could give a rip how others view us when we are together and I'll even kiss him in public in the middle of the deep south. Let 'em stare. Maybe they'll see what love is supposed to look like.
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sharkie says:Posted: 13 Jun 09
Just got a call this morning from the doctors, and our little girl is now sick, they say she needs a blood transfusion, I dont know what to do at this point, I am scared.
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HoneyKissed6 says:Posted: 12 Jun 09
Sharkie, This is so tramatic! I feel your pain but I congratulate you and your woman on being strong. For what its worth you are in my prayers.
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sharkie says:Posted: 11 Jun 09
Thanks Honeykissed and Homesteader. It has been a long road the last week. My girl went into labor friday and gave birth to a 1.2 pound baby girl. She was only at 27 weeks gestation. All is going ok right now, but it is such a stress. I am really praying all goes well. I keep thinking that this is a test of my faith, but I really want to give props to my girl she is a fighter. Peace
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HoneyKissed6 says:Posted: 29 May 09
Amen to healthy and naked babies! Truly a blessing!
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homesteader says:Posted: 29 May 09
sharkie ; Congratulations , May your baby be born Healthy and Naked . Amen
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HoneyKissed6 says:Posted: 28 May 09
Peace and blessings to both of you, Sharkie! Hopefully, soon, My Girl will be changed to My Wife!
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sharkie says:Posted: 27 May 09
Honeykissed thank you so much for your kind words, that means alot. To update my posting, My Girl and I are now engaged and she is six months pregnant, I am very happy and am thankful that she came into my life. thanks sharkie
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blackstorm69 says:Posted: 17 May 09I was once engaged to a white german guy who came to my country for carnival one year, we attended a party with some of my black male friends and they started getting kicks ( making jokes and laughing ) at him because he was not moving in time to the soca music. I simply pulled one of my black friends aside and told him I was quite displeased and that they should not be making fun of my friend, he subsequently went back to the group and told them to stop it. I guess in the end our friendshio was worth more to him than humiliating my guest. I on many occassions have gotten looks from poeple when I was with men of other races, people especially black me and women of all races would give us the disapproving look and when they do I just look them staight in their faces and smile and wave that really pisses them off.
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HoneyKissed6 says:Posted: 15 May 09
Sharkie, I know your family's opinion means alot to you. I can tell but you have to live for you. The woman your family WOULD approve of would not be the one you would be happy with. This beautiful woman makes you happy and she's black. Black is another beautiful color to complete your rainbow but you already know that. It's a shame that your family can't see that and get to know the woman. If this is the woman that you can see yourself with, the go with that. You have to live with her, no one else. You can't be miserable to make other miserable people happy. People with be miserable no matter what and you'll have lost and joined their sad party. And your girlfriend will be fine. She probably is full of confidence and self-esteem. As long as she know how much you love and cherish her, you guys will get through anything. Keep your love foremost, and everything else is gravy.
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HoneyKissed6 says:Posted: 15 May 09
And back to the topic. I haven't experienced any ridicule until this past year. I had a few dates with this really cute white guy (Jazz musician, tall, brown hair/ bright blue eyes, loved my thighs *sigh*). Growing up, this was as normal as breathing. Moving somewhere else and everyone has an opinion. Fortunately, I've been blessed with a forceful personality so many people will not try to step out of line with me. Check the face, I don't play that! Anyway, on one occasion we were out eating at the bar area of a restaurant and three black women were eating. One had the nerve to make a comment to her friends, "What is she doing with him?" I turned in my seat, looked her dead in her face and told her, "Its obvious what I'm doing, minding my business and leaving yours alone. No one asked why you were wearing that busted ass weave!" On a second occasion, we met up on a Friday at a bar and the place was packed. I was getting hit on by all kinds of men. The guy I was dating showed and we posted up by the bar. We were confortable and he was "tapping" a beat on my thigh *sigh*. We were very close, flirting, laughing, touching, hands through the hair, the whole thing. I noticed 2 black men directly across from me trying to get my attention, making gestures for me to leave my date with this puzzled look on their faces. I just smiled real seductively, turned my head, pressed my breast closer to my date and kept right on talking. The best thing he did for me that night (he's extremely unobservant about things like this) was when we were leaving the bar. We were outside, waiting on our cars, some white girls was getting closer to him, not sure if he was with me and the black guys were still gesturing. He bundled me up to his chest so I didn't get cold and when his friend (who's black by the way) pulled up with their car, he grabbed me by my nape, and gave me the deepest kiss ever. I swear I still feel it! All I could do was smile and turn and say "run, tell that!" and walk off, of course with a sassy sashay! Aint nobody ever gonna dictate who I should date because they have problems. I wouldn't be a real woman if I let them get to me but again, I hardly hear the comments. Most people aren't that bold around me. And Sober200, I'm half black half Jew. I guess i'm not worth the effort to DE-MAN my date because I'm white too, huh?! Racial purity is long gone so it seems your argument doesn't hold water anymore. Food for thought, little man.
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HoneyKissed6 says:Posted: 15 May 09
Sobers200, seriously man...you got one hell of a complex. I go for white men. I go for black men too but it wouldn't be you. Needing to DE-MAN another man? You're an f-ing CHILD thats a long over-due ass-whooping! The white men I date are very much MEN and you'd quickly see what would NOT be going down! And if they can't take care of the job, I'd do it myself - Jersey style! Golden Gloves baby! No hater will ever get the best of me or mine..please believe! And FYI - this is an INTERRACIAL dating site, DOUCHE BAG!!! If you have issues with this, then you shouldn't be here. I don't date white men because blacks wont have me or they are all taken. Its because I can and I will. There's a true attraction and if you don't get that, you never will. And its not your GUT telling you that its wrong. Its a combination of the B.S. you ate for dinner and Jealousy corrupting your system. Flush all that toxin out of your mind and body and start your day fresh. Seriously, before you run across the wrong one.
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Sobers200 says:Posted: 05 May 09
Esmayali You go for white men ? I can honestly that’s just terrible…just terrible, this is a black man speaking here and if you were over in the UK and we seen you out with ur man…..something not very pleasant would happen to your B.Friend.
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Sobers says:Posted: 05 May 09
Esmayali You go for white men ? I can honestly that's just terrible...just terrible, this is a black man speaking here and if you were over in the UK and we seen you out with ur man.....something not very pleasant would happen to your B.Friend.
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TOYOTACAMRY says:Posted: 04 May 09People who care who is dating who , and what race is going out with what race are LOSERS AND FAILURES AND UNDERACHIEVERS AND MUTS. If you are a white male dating a black woman, be ready to throw down if you have to. Black men think that white guys are punching bags for them., NOT ME. I would rather live like a hero than die like a coward any day of the week. I have been involved with 3 black women over the last 8 years. I had a problem once, only once and i took care of it, enough said.
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BrownB09 says:Posted: 18 Apr 09To southernmoca, That is so true, let me tell you, when we left the bathroom and went back to our tables, she and her girlfriends were staring, whispering and laughing. I got so angry,my friend and I ordered our food to go! After I left I was mad at myself for letting them get to me, but they were so loud, Im quite certain rhings would have escalated.
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Esmayali says:Posted: 18 Apr 09Small minded people ridicule. Why should any attention be given to them and the malicious comments. When I am getting the "stare" it's usually because of something good. Who enjoys looking at something that is not pleasing to the eye? So, the next time that you are out with your partner and someone is having a difficult time not looking at you; think that they are wishing that it was them enjoying your happiness because when you're happy it shows and that's most important. Think that; if you looked like hell and the person that you are with looks the same...would they care? I don't think so.
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homesteader says:Posted: 18 Apr 09
To Each His Own , Only the seconds on a clock Change with Similiar Movement in Time . I am Caucasian / it was Caucasian who stole from - vandelized - terriorized Me , can't you see all people have their own Lower Class as bye " Actions " in Life Ignorance shall forever be Equal to All , as they Desire to show .
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southernmoca says:Posted: 18 Apr 09
I have read the responses and wow..the more time passes the more things stay the same. My husband(rip) family despised me because I was black. I have lost jobs because my husband or SO was not black. 95% of my grief comes from Black men. I have had my car vandalized and I have had people stop talking to me at work and outright refuse to speak to me. I have had friends abandon me and the rude comments (oh brother) But that does not deter me from dating white or non-black men. I think its funny how some ignorant people will say why are you with a white man?, what a shame and you're so pretty too as if to say if I were ugly it would be okay to date another race. Pffffft. If I have said it once i have said it 100 times...It may be 2009 and there may be a black president in America but racism is alive and well and staying right here among us.
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BrownB09 says:Posted: 08 Apr 09
I agree with most of the comments posted, if you meet somebody and you like this person, don't worry about what other people think. The behavior of some people leaves me flabbergasted, the snickering and rolling of the eyes. I was out with a friend of mine, I mean, not even on a date, and some(black) woman had the nerve to ask me, why you with dat white boy? What he got money? She was lucky there were kids in the bathroom because I was gonna check her, I couldnt believe she would say such a thing to someone she doesn't even know. LOL, she saw the look on my face and she got quiet real quick. How dare she!
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edward, says:Posted: 08 Apr 09
I see alot of small town hippocrites saying or thinking things, i mean so waht if your honey is black and your white, if you happy then whatever, let the other people dry up if they want too they will only curse themselves and cut their throats by judging someone the wrong way, I see alot of black woman id like to be close too they have a quality that is way more personable and real that most white woman i know, alot of white woman out there are soo flighty or clickish that its really sickening, God dont have any favorites,what he does for one person , he'll do for another, and God dont look at color and man does and is a hippocrite alot of the time,
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homesteader says:Posted: 02 Mar 09
Enjoy who you are with , We got bad looks in the beginning of our partnership . Have met many new friends with time . Allow the ones who act funny their time to stand in the rain . Others shall make you laugh , Growth in society is through Education . Some will never learn , We have seen what we want to see Together . We will Walk Proudly with who We are . We Desire to be with each other and that is Nobodys Business save our Own
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madeyoulook says:Posted: 02 Mar 09
I've been dating a Black man for four years now (I'm Chinese) and we always get looks from other people, especially Asian men and Black women. It's funny how Asian men never checked for me when I was single, but the minute I get a Black boyfriend, they get mad because I'm not with "one of them". Either way, me and my man shrug it off because we could care less what they think. Haters will be haters, regardless of race.
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sharkie says:Posted: 02 Feb 09
Good day all, I have been dating a very nice, well educated black woman for 6 months now. She is a great girl, very loving and very much someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. I introduced her to my sister, who pulled me over to the side and said she has many black and gay friends, but told me that am not welcomed around her children and I am not to come around when she is with her husband. I tried to introduce her to my mom, who just said I have some nerve to date outside my race and she will never accept her and will never want me to come around when I am with her. We want to have kids, and now I just dont know how to feel as my family has abandoned me, now please dont get me wrong, I love this girl, and she comes first no matter what but to be honest I was just floored. I guess I am sad, because how is my girlfriend to feel knowing my family is not wanting her around. Peace.
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gettin to the relationship ,we kno waht it brings us. discomfort nd all dat shit but u hve to bark back to let them kno u arentin phased by their comments. dont take shit. ever. dey give u a comment u give one back doesnt hve to b a angry one but u cnt stare and let a dude bring u down