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Cocky funny online dating

Posted by Ria, 03 May

Is your online dating style cocky and funny? Is this the style you use to woo men or women by proving that you have been around the block?

Most people especially men use this to prove some point. That they are comfortable around members of the opposite sex while in real sense, the only time they can be comfortable and smooth, is behind that computer. But the question for those who use this as their ‘cupid's arrow’, does it really work?

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I know women and men who are attracted to the arrogant type. The type that don’t waste time thinking ‘should I make the move or not’. Its just in them. They got to have the nuts in the relationship. And they are some of us who would be like ‘What a self-absorbed S.O.B’

So depending on who you are dealing with, funny may get you a mate coz then there will be nothing cocky about it. And then again it may piss the living daylights out of your ‘conquest’ and end all your chances of ever getting that email address.

Assuming it worked and you actually got yourself an offline date and then the person realizes you aint all that? Then what? Do you have your bad date and wait for the next time both of you are online and swing back to your style? Coz this will be like regressing I think.

I think we should all try and be who we really are in person, coz you may never know what lies ahead. if you end up meeting in person, will you be able to maintain all that? Cocky and funny online? Then use that cautiously.

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  1.   Bellara says:
    Posted: 28 Apr 10

    ahahah i love this article! i've read some pretty pathetic profiles on here. you see a guy who obviously spent his rent just to dress up and take pix and post on his profile to make himself look like something he isn't. for me arrogance begats ignorance, if you have either or both you are OUT! am cockyness intolerant and its amusing because when those guys that portray themselves like aholes contact me & i say not interested, some of em show their real attitude by acting like little............need i say more?

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  2.   ladylight says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 07

    Hey, Better cocky in a selfconfident way than the git who never takes a step and degrates himself. But anyway, which lady here hasnt come across a man who writes in his first email that he wants to start off with a long term relationship -ahem- and get your ass over to him and marry him!>??!??!. Onetime a guy actually started off with:'Dear future wife". If he was serious? I hope for the damn bugger he wasnt, my friends and I pissed ourselves laughing!

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  3.   Waylon says:
    Posted: 22 May 07

    Hmm... I think back on my internet dating and how it has faired for me. I do not think of myself as cocky, but rather confident. All of the information I put in my profile is patently true. I was just lucky enough (in my opinion) to have a lot of traveling and real world culture at a very early age. That experiance ground into me some confidence I probably would not have had if I had just stayed in the US and gotten a job after high school. That being said, I am more at ease talking online because inside I am still a tad shy. In real life, yes I do go up to women, but it takes a bit more courage on my part than writing an email to someone letting them know I am interested and why I am interested in them. So the fear of rejection is less. Lets face it, being rejected online is nowhere near as hard as it is while your standing in front of the person. Once I do get an offline date, I am much more comfortable and myself because I know the other person is actually interested in me and there is no patent rejection. Its a simple date where two people are actually interested in getting to know one another. That does not mean it will lead to something, but I dont have to be fake, either online or in person. That person wanted to be sitting at my dinner table because she was interested in me. I would never consider blowing myself up or acting more than I am online, because that would just ruin any chance I had with someone who "thought" they were interested in me. All in all, online dating has worked well for me. In all of my offline dates I had fun. Some worked out, some didnt. But I can say I was true to myself and didnt need to exaggerate.

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  4.   Homesteader says:
    Posted: 19 May 07

    Bottom Line don 't quit lookin '

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  5.   Homesteader says:
    Posted: 19 May 07

    I chased over 10,000 women on the internet and One Very Special Ladie came to Me and I can say I Love you many times a day cus I am Retired King of the Road / Interstate Motor Freight Driver / Transportation Engingeer and I was Marvelous at my jobs / Got Awards to prove it .

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  6.   Homesteader says:
    Posted: 19 May 07

    She came to me on the Big Dog Express , and I thanked the Driver for her Safe journey home too me .

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  7.   Homesteader says:
    Posted: 19 May 07

    My wife and I met here and we shall be Happy and are plan ning on raise ing babies , with Gods Will Be Done

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  8.   fala says:
    Posted: 15 May 07

    Good point Jungle.

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  9.   Jungle says:
    Posted: 14 May 07

    To massimo Fala and Chaos we all headed on the right track and here the the same reasons. being cocky and obnoctious at times does draughs attention but attraction lasts longer and is more heart felt when barriers break and we get to see the person who we naturaly are.

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  10.   fala says:
    Posted: 11 May 07

    You're right CC. People can pretend to be anyone they want online. You never really know what you're going to get till you meet face to face.

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  11.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 07 May 07

    I agree Chaos....its fun to a point...extremes are bad though

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  12.   CleverChaos says:
    Posted: 07 May 07

    As much as some of us hate to admit it, most of us are drawn to the cocky, comedic type of guy or girl. That confidence is attractive and gives us a taste of their personality. We just have to kinda hope that this is the REAL them when and if we finally meet them in person.

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  13.   laugh_sailor says:
    Posted: 06 May 07

    Cocky and funny, as mentioned here, is something that both works and is counter-productive: This is different from respectful flirting and exists to counter specific (women's, commonly found) demeaning dating behavior. If most women don't find me exciting in a little bit of a dangerous way, there's no way I will look attractive to them. I think this is because they are not confident in themselves and are looking for, as well as pushing limits negatively, much the same as a naughty child. Examples abound and center around increasingly controlling behaviors, as in the femme fatale (having the guy do everything for her, turning chivalry into servitude). Cocky and funny is a relatively harmless way to treat their immaturity, keep them from behaving badly and control their behavior. For these women, cocky and funny is wholeheartedly welcomed and even necessary: You will see it in many dating profiles. As you noted, Ria, it can backfire in being unauthentic or unable to maintain this cocky and funny behavior, over the long run, having built expectations of that, or of the woman becoming tired of being treated like dirt and wondering why they always go for the jerks. Unfortunately, this process, on both sides, created jaded people, lacking in respect for the opposite sex and encouraging more immature behavior. Both of these sets of behaviors, I feel, stem from a view of dating as a competition for power. The real problem with both sets of these dating behaviors is that in either case, the person exhibiting this behavior is not fundamentally respectful of their date. I am looking for my best friend, lover and partner in life and as such, can not conceive of having either set of these immature behaviors in our relationship. Yes, I am looking for a rare woman - One who accepts, treasures and respects me as I do her.

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  14.   fala says:
    Posted: 06 May 07

    lol@Mossimo

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  15.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 05 May 07

    Fala, I was just thinking of you when I read this article! ;) How could I hold anything against the lovely Fala!!!

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  16.   fala says:
    Posted: 05 May 07

    I'm naturally funny and cocky - I can't help it. Don't hold it against me! Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeze Mossimo!

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  17.   Madea says:
    Posted: 05 May 07

    Too true Mossimo...and i personally do not think that the cocky ones really want to meet.

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  18.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 04 May 07

    Interesting article.....I would think all of us have run across this type person.

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