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The art of attraction isn't just about colour or creed, it's about chemistry and a whole bunch of other things. Swirling author Christelyn Karazon discusses.

Critics Coming Around to Swirling... After Trashing Us.

Posted by Christelyn, 13 Jul

There have been a lot of prior critics of this platform and the general idea of black women entertaining the romantic overtures of non-black men as of late.

I find this interesting. Especially after said people have been years disparaging and deriding this platform as a bastion of self-hating white-men worshippers.

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There have been a lot of prior critics of this platform and the general idea of black women entertaining the romantic overtures of non-black men as of late.

I find this interesting. Especially after said people have been years disparaging and deriding this platform as a bastion of self-hating white-men worshippers.

So after reading Ralph Richard Banks’ book, Is Marriage for White People and watching his YouTube videos, she came away “a little bit more open to interracial relationships.” Let’s not forget that she realizes that she’s 28 and what looked good at 21 is looking a bit tarnished seven years later.

And while this beautiful, no doubt, brilliant black woman was evolving to find herself, she, all the while, snubbed my platform and threw not-too-subtle shade at it. Articles like this and literally hundreds of others have deeply tarnished my platform, made my work a mockery, and contributed to the misinformation distribution that has made pro-black zealots literally call for my death.

And NOW you have an epiphany because a black man told you it was okay to date white men and other races? Ralph Richard Banks has been a colleague of mine in this space since the beginning and even wrote a post for NoWeddingNoWomb.com back in the day. He has also been previously featured on this blog and more recently added to a module in the Pink Pill.

Nothing…absolutely NOTHING that Dr. Banks has said is any different than what I have said, and he goes even further than I would even think to, by asserting that the way black women can help the black community is by dating and marrying out.

There is simply no way the For Harriet blogger missed this but purposely omitted me simply because she doesn’t like me, and despite her feminist leanings, continues to give more credence to men imparting information–especially if he is black.

How do I know? Because of this exchange under her own video about the subject.

So if the “issue” people had ” with Christelyn” isn’t about black women entertaining their dating options while acknowledging the crappy situation that got us here like Ralph Richard Banks has, then…WHAT ELSE COULD IT BE?! The cornerstone of my platform is mounted on this.

Doesn’t seem very “feminist” to give more validation and acceptance to a man, simply because he IS over a woman who looks like you, knows your pain and frustration, and wants earnestly for your self-fulfillment, does it?

Why am I pointing this out? Is it just to be divisive or find something to complain about? After all, the mission is being accomplished–black women are beginning to feel free to see what the see with their own eyes and shift their behaviors based on the facts in a fully-informed way. What is the problem?

The problem is that the very people who have disparaged people like me over the years and contributed to the countless damage to my reputation, safety and that of my family. They think that they can write one thing meant to malign and then take it all back when they have their “come to Jesus” moment of enlightenment. Well…that’s all great for you, but what about the cost to others who helped pave the way for you to speak freely about how you’ve changed your mind? They make no apologies, and still nurse a harbored resentment towards me they cannot fully articulate or understand.

The very idea that it took a black man to tell you the exact thing I and others have been saying for nearly a decade is proof you’re not really ready.

Maybe in another 10 years?

I won’t hold my breath.

I enjoy living.

Christelyn Karazin is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. She also operates the popular blog, Beyond Black & White, and operate the first forum dedicated to black women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships.