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  1.   shaffer75 says:
    Posted: 27 Mar 11

    I feel some of these comments are ridiculous obviously people have their own opinions, but I am very young and have more in common with late 20 yr old and young 30 yr old women. I listen to soul music such as Motown music, I still like to create romance, hold cars open, am verbally efficient, work, school, and etc. Most people judge age as a certain person is immature at certain ages which isn't always true. Older women or men don't promise maturity. So be open to the possibles, isnt that why we are on an interracial dating site?

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  2.   Bellara says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 09

    I agree Mossimo36 is too funny. Some age difference is kinda scary and gross like 60yr old guy w/a 19 yr old>it looks more like a pervert & his victim rather than a couple. But hey, who are we to set age boundaries? My take is>so long as the two are ADULTS then age shouldn't be a factor.

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  3.   JZee says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 08

    Mossimo36...:o) Your comments are so funny. You crack me up. I am for the mature man but he most definitely cannot be grandpa.

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  4.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 08

    LOL..you all need to stop playing. COUGAR, a suga momma looking for some real good sex. Panther a Suga Daddy looking for some real good sex. Nah but for real thou. I see the trend younger men with older women, I think it's more, younger dudes, are learning more about loving and understanding women. Young girls are a bit immature, no real substance if you will. (sorry young bloggers) Older dudes, well, I find that a sexual thing, they always say, I prefer young, for what, you're old. Truth be told a man who is in his early 40's can get away with dating a women who is 35 and up, makes sense. You can both learn from each other and that actually works. Once you hit 45 okay..it's time to really start looking at women in your own age. Perhaps that is where the cougarism have come from, women in their late 40's early 50's looking for men who are in the same age bracket, but men in their own age bracket don't want to deal with them, they want YOUNG WOMEN and for what. So a young woman can rob you blind, or hump you under the table. Get Clued in men of distinguised age, a woman hits her next sexual peak at 50 so, YOU"RE missing out, YOU"RE letting, young men fill in the blanks. Keep in mind older men chasing, young skirts, Viagra sales are up like 100% now. Women of Cougarism, you are changing the dating cycle, and it's cool. The blogger who said "their stuff always works", that was cold blooded..lol and the way Viagra is selling it seems to be a factual statement. Hell I'm tempted my damn self to try out a young buck 21-26 after reading some of these cougar blogs..hail to the COUGARS, scratch on sisters scratch on. NO JIBBERISH RETURNS SHOTS PLEASE I'm out.

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  5.   jellybean577 says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 08

    Personally, it is a just a matter of taste. I'm 31 and I have dated both older and younger men. At 20 I was dating 40 year olds and was perfectly comfortable due to the ability to communicate much more honestly and openly about the things that matter most. I think that many younger men are still trying to figure out what a real "woman" is and tend to test drive rather than commit. If that is what floats your boat, go ahead and dive in. I prefer men between the ages of 38-48 simply because we tend to have much more in common. Again it is a personal preference based upon where you are in your own life's journey.

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  6.   worthurwhile says:
    Posted: 09 Jul 08

    @hotrod2009 - Yes Girl! I hear you.. those young bucks are something ain't they!

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  7.   hotrod2009 says:
    Posted: 09 Jul 08

    I've been a cougar and love it. Age is just a number, each person is on a different maturity level. I have a hard time picturing myself dating someone much older.

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  8.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 08

    Can a panther and a cougar date? Are there kittens? or cubs?

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  9.   Morningflower says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 08

    @ Nubian84 - It's the same for me. The initial attaction or connection has to be there and for some reason; I have always found older men very attractive - actually..it's a huge turn on for me! Younger guys hit on me all the time and have attempted to date a couple but there is a level of "baby sitting" that I will not do. Oh no honey - I just don't have the patience for it.

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  10.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 08

    Welcome back Laugh_Sailor.You have been missed here.Good comments.Not all have the same thoughts when it comes to dating someone older or younger.Having an open mind is a good starting point for both in the relationship.

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  11.   laugh_sailor says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 08

    I date younger women because I want to start my family and the active life of travel and adventure that requires an open mind and someone not set in her ways. I look for common goals, values, personality traits and general likes and dislikes in finding a good match. Men generally mature much later than women: There are some good evolutionary arguments for that. I have found an eagerness to learn about each others' cultures transforms differences, much as learning about interracial dating. In this light, dating from a different generation is really a cultural issue: How open are we to other cultures? When I have asked those who have looked down their noses at me for my dating preferences (black women from mid-twenties to early thirties), I have found unconsidered jealousy and racism. Fortunately, good communication is usually enlightening and often ends such prejudices. There are a number of women who are delighted to find a considered life, appreciation of and devotion to family, backbone, self-confidence (as opposed to cockiness), exciting, worthwhile and achievable goals, balanced life, emotional maturity, awareness, commitment and communication, etc. in a partner - Most traits I didn't have in my twenties!

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  12.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 03 Jun 08

    Date who you like, and how old or young you like 'em. Nothing wrong with two consenting adults making a connection

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  13.   mechee2008 says:
    Posted: 03 Jun 08

    I've never heard the term cougar or panthers. Interesting... I personally prefer younger men and have no problem posting that on my page. Im approached by men between 18-24 most of the time and we usually get along as well as when Ive dated older. It depends on the man. Men are not as afraid or against dating older women as society is trying to portray. It is happening more and more. It really isn’t that big of a deal. Honestly, I have dated 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s, and have seen a lot of similarities and differences. I try not to limit my options nor discount my preferences.

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  14.   Nubian84 says:
    Posted: 03 Jun 08

    I believe if two people enjoy each other's company then so be it. I mean, it is just a number. However, I will admit, there will be major differences in music, political views, etc, but if it is meant to be, the couple can work through it. I am in my early 20’s; I am attracted to men who are closer to their 30's and sometimes their 40's. I don't know why that is. Maybe because by that time a lot of men of those ages are already set; they have gotten their education, etc. But, yeah, I don't think anyone should limit themselves to dating people of a certain age. Who ever said the one we are supposed to be with is in our age group? You never know.

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  15.   frenchyboo says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 08

    love this topic..there are so so many different views..i just turned 51, and still i get hit on, asked out made passes by men in their early 20's..yikes, for me that is where i have to draw the line..i can have a relationship w someone 15-17 yrs younger, as i have and the maturity level was right on..i cannot for the life of me do the 20 yr younger thing..not even casually..i just dont feel that comfortable, but i love the compliments from 25 and up..below 25 it makes me like sick..for my youngest is 21 and i cant imagine him w an older woman..lol..funny huh.. but to reiterate , i feel depends on what you are both looking for...i date up to maybe 60, if their body is in good shape and nothing is falling or shriveled up, men like their woman looking good and having hard bodies, well i think its the same for me..

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  16.   outpass35 says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 08

    I feel the same if you like the person company and you have something in common than that is fine I am 36 and have dated men twice my age and always found in that I learn a lot from them. We found things in common and things to do together and afterward have remain great friends after so age is just a number.

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  17.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 08

    Hmmm, maybe I should try this panther thing out. I am always mistaken for 30...lol

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  18.   chaacha402 says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 08

    I agree with onejazzylady.. .younger men are attracted to me....they think I am younger...actually had to give up and stop fighting the draw... I was 37 and this guy was 19 and he admitted that when he first saw me ( when he was 17) and was smitten needless to say 2 years later he cconvinced me just to out with him... that was the biggest difference for me.. .as far as interest it works or it doesnt...when you click with someone (not sexually)...you are probably both "global"...more interest than just surrounds you at the moment...the interest in music, books, old movies...it is probably a real friendship based on what you both like and want to explore together ...finally I don't care anymore...just don't like older men!

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  19.   ICE2008 says:
    Posted: 31 May 08

    I totally agree with Takinall. If two people enjoy being around each other, and as long as the compatibility issue is minor, there shouldn't be a problem. Life is funny in that you could (for example) be working at the job site alongside a person for a number of years and they are much younger (or older), then one day, your eyes get "opened" to how great and attractive that person has become to you. People can't choose love, it chooses them. Life is short, so live life as it comes.

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  20.   Takinitall says:
    Posted: 31 May 08

    Age is only a number! If two adults enjoy each other that's all that matters. I am 30 and have dated gentlemen twice my age and love it. Although I have not met a younger man who has himself together, doesn't mean they don't exist. But like any other woman I want to be treated as a lady, unfortunately far too many younger guys don't get it.

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  21.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 31 May 08

    What is a panther?

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  22.   onejazzylady says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    I'm definately a cougar! I LOVE younger men and a lot of them contact me (much more so than older guys). Young men have much more energy, really appreciate a more "mature" woman, are lots of fun and their "stuff" always works. I'm 51 (although I look like I'm in my late 30's/early 40's) and I've dated men as much as 25 years younger than me. I generally prefer men in their late 30's to early 40's. Older men just don't do it for me. For ages men have dated much younger women and I think it's wonderful that seasoned women can finally enjoy the same pleasures! Step back geezers!

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  23.   Darklicious says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    I gree with both comments so far because if there is a big difference in the age, you don't have anything in common. As for me I have always been attracted to men older than me because it always seemed like the guys my age were too immature. Well here I am 52 years young and I still feel the same way but I don't want him to be too old so I try not to go over 65 years,after all I do want him to be sexual active. There is a such thing as too old one way or the other so you have to be sensible about the whole thing. I was dating a man 10 years older than me and one day after 6 years he felt like he was too old for me and we went separate ways. I found out later that he had diabetes and felt like he wasn't able to satisfy me sexual, I didn't really notice any difference in our sex, it was the same great. I really did appreciate him caring enough to let me go but I honestly didn't notice any change. He did make a funny remark that I was going to kill him in bed. (lol) This was 2 years ago....

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  24.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    Thanks for posting this topic.I have not dated anyone that was younger than me.But,I am open to dating someone in the age range of 40 (mature40) to 57.Generally men date women that are young enough to be their daughter.

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  25.   Pia65 says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    I think to be fair to yourself as well as your S.O. that you stay at least 5 years, but no more than 10 years difference between you. The reason for this is because you have less in common due to the fact that at that point you are in another decade. They may not be able to idenitify with your music, thoughts or ideas on what you consider important to you. Hopefully your attraction is based more on Love which says "I truly adore you, and not LUST that say "they are so good in the sack...that nothing else really matters right now"!!!

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