From Painfully Honest to Blissfully Happy

Posted by Leticia, 05 Feb

Something drew members “Lily_Rosie” and “jack213” to one another. They lingered on each other’s profiles, saw something that spoke to them, and clicked the button to reach out. These singles bridged the broadband gap and now they are much more directly connected — they’re married! 

Shannon joined our site because she didn’t feel she had much choice. “As a single mom working full time, traditional dating was too hard for me,” Shannon informs us. “I knew I was not going to find love in my immediate area. I tried other sites with high hopes. Then I came to you after a Google search. Your site brought me the love of my life!”

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However, Shannon wants to remind readers that her happy outcome was a long time coming. “Don’t give up! I joined this site, hoping for the best, and it took me three years to meet this man. It took another three before we married. It doesn’t happen overnight! I know we wish it would, but it doesn’t.”

Paul was a divorced father of two. He begins his part of the story… “This was my first time with online dating. I was divorced and my children suggested I give it a try. I was very skeptical, but I hoped for the best. I had heard some horror stories from friends.”

Our site stood out to him as his best bet, so Paul took the plunge and signed up. After two months with us, he saw Shannon’s profile and was impressed. “Her pictures blew me away. She was very down to earth, and just so beautiful. She was everything I wanted and more.” So he sent her an email…

Shannon read it with certain criteria in mind. “My biggest factor was that my match have children and be comfortable with me having children,” she tells us. Looking at Paul’s particulars, she saw that he was in a similar situation. “It worked perfectly. His initial email was so honest and straightforward. I was attracted to his honesty from the beginning. He told me he was a single father who loved his girls and that was all I needed to hear. I thought he was very handsome in his pictures, too!”

So she wrote back and they opened up a dialogue. Paul says that Shannon didn’t come off as someone who knew her profile photos were “stunning,” as he describes them. He observed that initially she was “very quiet and shy, and it really caught me off guard.” Shannon was just nervous and warmed up pretty quickly. “He was very honest and open,” Shannon reports. “He was easy to talk to.”

Paul is grateful that he took a candid, “lay it all out there” approach. “Be honest,” he advises singles. “I told her everything, probably some things she didn’t even want to know, but I didn’t want her to be surprised by anything during our relationship. Some parts of your past may be embarrassing or painful, but it’s best to let people know upfront, rather than find out the hard way. I wanted an honest relationship with a good woman, and I got that by putting myself out there. It may be hard, but honesty is the best way to gain someone’s trust.”

To confirm their perceptions of each other, the pair scheduled their first date. “I wanted to see if the chemistry we had on the phone would be the same in person,” explains Shannon. Paul jokes, “I had to see if this beautiful person was real!”

When Shannon first laid eyes on Paul, she wasn’t disappointed. “He's adorable!” she thought to herself. “What a cutie!” He remembers his first thoughts being along the same lines. “She’s even more beautiful in person. Am I being punked?”

Shannon says she was most surprised by “how we immediately clicked. I just felt so comfortable with him. Our first date was so romantic. We didn’t want to leave each other’s side for a minute.” Paul noticed a turnaround in her demeanor. “She was so warm and friendly, definitely not shy!” He immediately asked her out again and Shannon was eager to accept his invitation. She tells us that Date No. 2 presented another point in Paul’s favor. “He can cook! On our second date he cooked, and that was a wonderful surprise.”

As this romantic liaison evolved from dating into a relationship, the wonderful discoveries kept coming. Paul reflects, “I’m finding out new things every day that make me love her more.”

We’re sure you’re wondering how Paul proposed. Shannon provides the answer… “New Year’s Eve of 2012, we went to Atlanta. As the peach-drop countdown began, he got down on one knee and proposed in front of everyone. Of course I said yes!!! I’m happier than I can ever imagine being.”

Paul is still marveling at his good fortune. “She has shown me what real, true love is,” he says. Shannon adds, “I have told my friends and family that online dating can work. Be open to the possibilities. I always had hope and faith and believed that my love would find me, and he did! I’m so happy I joined this site. We would never have met otherwise. THANK YOU!”

All in a day’s work, Shannon!

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  1.   shallean says:
    Posted: 01 Feb 19

    woowww, really nice story.............I pray also to find my best friend here.

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  2.   Lourdita says:
    Posted: 18 Jan 19

    Wish I could have meet her becomes a good partner and gets married

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  3.   Annbabe10 says:
    Posted: 16 Jan 19

    I wish I could find my white love too

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  4.   0753752680 says:
    Posted: 15 Jan 19

    Am on the way but all the best

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  5.   Paulreed says:
    Posted: 17 Dec 18

    Aaaahhhhhwwwww

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  6.   Jennabha says:
    Posted: 09 Nov 18

    Wow I feel like crying

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  7.   TUSE6 says:
    Posted: 01 Nov 18

    Hello Dear i am Anita contact me on my email,  i have something to tell you okay ,

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  8.   Serah87 says:
    Posted: 18 Oct 18

    Wow...what lord created for..Will always find its way to meet the other...touching story..enjoy you marriage..I keep the patience until I meet him

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  9.   El95 says:
    Posted: 10 Oct 18

    Wonderful

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  10.   simonsbone says:
    Posted: 09 Sep 18

    Nice and torching

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  11.   Kunautu says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 18

    Wow,those stories are really torching my heart,hope God will open the door for me too,to meet my prince charming.

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  12.   EmahPurple says:
    Posted: 25 Aug 18

    For some people, love is a walk in the park. And for others, it's a real struggle. The truth is that everyone deserves love. We were not created to be lonely wolfs. There are billions of people walking on this planet but we only need that one person who resonates with us to feel complete. I've always loved love but it seems that love doesn't love me.

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  13.   Caramel_Ji says:
    Posted: 04 Aug 18

    Aww, where’s my husband at

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  14.   Shatrin says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 18

    Keeps me wondering ,....will i find my future husband here!!! Anyway as God wishes.

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    • Jobajuba says:
      Posted: 23 Jul 18

      When i read your letter i was delighted and impress with you i like you more than you do words cant experess. Please contact me I m waiting tò hear from you

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  15.   finebabylov says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 18

    hello dear i am miss jennifer hesse can we make freindship i have picked interest in your profile please contact me through my email address for an important disscussion okay Bye,Love from miss jennifer hesse

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  16.   Ketral says:
    Posted: 05 Jul 18

    Can't wait to meet my love

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  17.   murphyk1985 says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 18

    That's Good,may God help me find me my Bone

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  18.   Chaido says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 18

    This is amazing,,God bless n I hope I can find my true love here too..All in Gods hands..

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  19.   81q says:
    Posted: 13 Jun 18

    I can't wait to get my Mr right too and live that happily life ever with him

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  20.   SUSAN199 says:
    Posted: 20 May 18

    Lovely,can't wait to have mine

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  21.   olilov says:
    Posted: 11 May 18

    It's such a nyc feeling when you find the love of yo life. It even feels better when you love and loved back in return. God guide me thru my search and find a soulmate.

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    • Ladymakena says:
      Posted: 14 May 18

      Hi I would like to ask in this site must I upgrade for me to send someone message or able to read a received message? Thanks

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    • Marcopolo4 says:
      Posted: 10 Oct 18

      I have the same at heart

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  22.   Meddiepro says:
    Posted: 06 Apr 18

    Please I also need aparttern.

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  23.   Qryzy says:
    Posted: 26 Mar 18

    Wonderful n attractive too may God give me myn

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  24.   Dudu29 says:
    Posted: 17 Mar 18

    Very beautiful I have hope again

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  25.   ORONNO.ROY says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 18

    HELLO

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  26.   UrmiJ says:
    Posted: 16 Feb 18

    Awwwwww u guys have inspired me,i pray I find my Truelove here,who will love me back.

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  27.   Beldake23 says:
    Posted: 10 Feb 18

    Amazing

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  28.   Badiday says:
    Posted: 03 Feb 18

    Wow .congrats amazing one day i found a love ones ..here .god bless

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  29.   Aabepuor says:
    Posted: 01 Jan 18

    Amazing

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  30.   44looking says:
    Posted: 23 Dec 17

    Hope one day I can find someone to love and that loves me back. I leave it to God

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    • Gonecountry2 says:
      Posted: 29 Dec 17

      Hello there! Pretty lady! I viewed your post and I have to say that you are a very stunning woman.

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  31.   zazah143 says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 17

    So beautiful.. God Bless

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  32.   Maya2017 says:
    Posted: 29 Oct 17

    Quite inspiring. Stay blessed guys.

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  33.   Natirah26 says:
    Posted: 23 Oct 17

    It's a great ending. Rare, but awesome. May we all have the same fortune.

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  34.   QueenMat says:
    Posted: 24 Sep 17

    Wish u the best guys

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  35.   makhisa says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 17

    It's such a nice feeling when you find the love of your life. And it feels much Better when you know you love and you are loved back. Wish you guys the happiest life

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  36.   Reginanicol says:
    Posted: 25 Aug 17

    I'm happy for you.I wish i I found one n get married soon.wish you the best in your marriage

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  37.   Nyakirind says:
    Posted: 13 Aug 17

    WA so touching honesty is the key too happy relationship it's starts with you L like it am praying to God to give a honest person

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  38.   Xh1 says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 17

    So happy for you guys

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  39.   Fearless01 says:
    Posted: 26 Jul 17

    Reading your stories,it has given hope that one day i will find that love bcz i know that i may not be perfect but im imperfectly worthy to be happy and be loved and now i strongly believe that my love,my best friend and supporter,comphortor is out there waiting for me.

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  40.   fredbaz says:
    Posted: 28 May 17

    Great testimony.

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  41.   140115 says:
    Posted: 27 May 17

    Woow god is good

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  42.   nhanc says:
    Posted: 25 May 17

    your story is giving me feith to go on

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  43.   nhanc says:
    Posted: 25 May 17

    this history gives me feith to go on looking for the men of my life. congratulations

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  44.   nhanc says:
    Posted: 25 May 17

    congratulations. be happy forever guy's

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  45.   Chosen41 says:
    Posted: 04 May 17

    Wow such a beautiful story, congrats. Well it means there's still hope

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  46.   Jamisco says:
    Posted: 06 Apr 17

    Its better to be yourself & be honest. The right person will come along, like & accept you just the way you are.

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  47.   Jamisco says:
    Posted: 06 Apr 17

    What..such an interesting love story. Honesty is always the best policy. I wish you guys a blissful married life.

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  48.   SAMHAS says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 17

    I adore black woman

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  49.   roy2rock says:
    Posted: 18 Mar 17

    FASCINATING

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  50.   Lushes85 says:
    Posted: 01 Mar 17

    Wonderful story, honesty is truly the best policy

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