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Has the modern woman become unlovable?

Posted by Ria, 03 Feb

modern woman She may be beautiful, sexy, well-appointed, seemingly well-to-do and available. So why is she chasing away prospective mates?

Is it the grooming? Well to be truthful, women today don’t dress like our mothers used to. The grooming aspects of their lives have become somewhat complicated – multiple piercings, lots of make up that sometimes looks clownish, flimsy dressing… Does this do more scaring than attracting? Some men feel we are overdoing it… our dressing leaves practically nothing to their imagination. They seem to think we send inappropriate messages. And instead of attracting quality men, we end up attracting the kind of men that our dressing ‘deserves’. Is the modern woman selling herself short by dressing provocatively? Do all men feel this way?

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Does she demand too much power? Most women have become financially empowered. And a woman who manages say 200 employees is used to getting things done her way. Does this make a man feel like he may be forced to surrender his God-given authority as a man?

Is it because she wants a financially stable man? I believe there is nothing wrong with a woman making this requirement the top on her list of things she wants her man to have. Some people however construe this to be an unbridled obsession with moneyed men. And that all women want is to be carried around in flashy cars, taken to fancy clubs and getaways, and be lavished with expensive gifts. But is this really what a woman that has it all wants or are men just misinterpreting this requirement?

Does she find fault with everything about a man? Dress this way. Have certain friends. Live in a certain neighborhood. There are women who find fault in everything… they have a super-inflated sense of self importance. Truth be told, if I were a man, I’d run away from you too. Too much work, impossible to please!

Does she reek of desperation? They say women reach their peak between the ages of 21 and 25. During this time, a woman can make or break her life where relationships are concerned. All men want her and this attention makes most women at this age walk in and out of relationships at will. And after that age comes romance ‘injury time’. She feels she now has to settle down because the allure of her youth - that was bringing all those men to her - is fading. Then she starts sending signals to men that she is available… the same men she might have turned away when she was at her peak. These men might come calling – but only because she is now too eager to please. So she gets used and dumped! And as years go by, her standards become lower… and lower…

All I can say is, when you get to this age, its never too late. Those desperation moves will only scare good men away. Just keep your head straight and well managed. Respect yourself and a good man will notice these qualities in you. And if you are an emotional wreck, try controlling the emotional bouts. Men want an emotionally stable woman because this quality develops into mutual understanding and trust.

Anything to add? Lets hear it…

3 responses to "Has the modern woman become unlovable?"

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ScorpSagMix says:

Posted: 21 Feb 11

Interesting.... This blog was posted on Feb 3rd and only one response posted twice by the same person. That means one of two things. Either the women on this site are as it has indicated or perhaps they just don't care. In regards to the statement by "NOPLAYER" I would have to differ. Not because I am a women, but because not all women can be put in that category. Unfortunately there is a large number of women who have fallen prey to what the "media" deem as being the "it girl" which is not how mainstream women look, act or dress. There is a lot of speculation around the motives of the "modern women" in the blog post. Most importantly how is it that the women described is the "modern women"? It is only a point of view offered by the author and not the reflection of the whole spectrum that could be represented. NOPLAYER, I would agree with you that there are a lot more women, these days, who are superficial. Let's not leave out that there are a lot of men who also want trophies on their arms who are far from being trophy material themselves. Each person should take a realistic look at themselves and what they have to offer for a meaningful relationship.

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NOPLAYER says:

Posted: 07 Feb 11

Is it the grooming? Ladies put on some clothes because as I told a lady, " I want to look like your man and not your pimp or one of your tricks!" Demanding too much power? Ladies your man or husband is you partner not one of your subordinates at work, so before you get home you might want to snap out of the "I'm woman and hear me roar trance!" Financially stable men? You deserve it, so require it up-front, do you and him both that favor! Always finding fault in a man? You''ll have many lonely nights! Reeking of desparation? Ladies time is not always on your side as cruel as it may sound it's just a reality. A woman's desirabilty does not increase as she gets older, no matter how educated or high-salaried she is. An avergage looking 50 year old man with a charming personality and a good paying job has a higher chance of attracting a mate even at that age than a woman and remember there are way more women looking for men than there are men looking for women, so you can waste time if you want but remember TIME IS NOT YOUR FRIEND not when it comes to dating / marriage and not because I say so but the facts say so! IMO the modern woman has not become unlovable, I think alot of them sabotage themselves when it comes to love by doing many of the things that were mentioned in the article. I think many of them have yet to find the balance between having a career, a love life and activities outside of them both. I have a female friend that fits the above description perfectly and she wonders why she's alone, yes she's whined & dined, taken on trips and the whole nine but no one has asked to marry her and she's been reduced to the status of "show piece woman!" She complains about this a great deal particularly when the last guy she dated broke up with her and married this nice lady that worked at a bakery he frequents, she thought because this lady didn't measure up to her looks, professional status and income bracket she felt that she was somehow done in by this guy. How vain can you get! I've told her love will not sit around and wait on her and if she hoped to find true love some day she'd better give herself a "check-up from the neck up" and quit thinking the world revolves around her because there are way too many women out here with realistic expectations looking for good men to build a family and future with for them to waste their time fooling with you. Yes modern women you look good but there are younger women coming up that look even better, yes you earn good money but alot of men earn more, and yes you may have your own home but what good is it if you live there by yourself, so look beyond the superficial sh*t and try to find what's real because at the end of the day everybody needs somebody!

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NOPLAYER says:

Posted: 07 Feb 11

IMO the modern woman has not become unlovable, I think alot of them sabotage themselves when it comes to love by doing many of the things that were mentioned in the article. I think many of them have yet to find the balance between having a career, a love life and activities outside of them both. I have a female friend that fits the above description perfectly and she wonders why she's alone, yes she get's whined & dined, taken on trips and the whole nine but no one has asked to marry her and she's been relagated to the status of "show piece woman!" She complains about this a great deal particularly when the last guy she dated broke up with her and married this nice lady that worked at a bakery he frequents, she thought because this lady didn't measure up to her looks, professional status and income bracket she felt that she was somehow done in by this guy. How vain can you get! I've told her love will not sit around and wait on her and if she hoped to find true love some day she'd better give herself a "check-up from the neck up" and quit thinking the world revolves around her because there are way too many women out here with realistic expectations looking for good men to build a family and future with for them to waste their time fooling with you. Yes modern women you look good but there are younger women coming up that look even better, yes you earn good money but alot of men earn more, and yes you may have your own home but what good is it if you live there by yourself, so look beyond the superficial sh*t and try to find what's real because at the end of the day everybody needs somebody!

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