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I got dumped online! Does it count?

Posted by Ria, 04 Jun

online rejectionNothing can be as harsh as being rejected by someone after pouring your heart out to them. And this harsh reality becomes a stumbling block to many would-be-daters who have experienced it before – they’d rather just not try again.

But what happens when you send someone an email expressing an interest in them only to receive a “No, Thank You!” email? How would you feel when someone tells you “Sorry this aint working out for me” after weeks of a string of online communication? Does it have the same pinch as being dumped in person? Does online rejection count?

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Apparently, according to some poll conducted on members of online dating sites, the answer to this question was unanimous – Being rejected online doesn’t count. Yes there might be some pinch… but the pinch is to a much lower degree than when the dumping is done in your face.

When those emails go unanswered and the chats are ignored, you should take comfort in the fact the brush off could be as a result of anything ranging from petty to something massive. Have you heard of the crazy fetishes people have online? Maybe the person didn’t like your skinny self – they prefer some chub on their women; maybe your nose is too thin.

So quit thinking you are not photogenic enough. But if you really feel its your photo, change it. If you feel your profile is not catchy enough, have a friend read it and critique it. Who knows; maybe the right mate for you isn’t within your search criteria. So go ahead and widen the pool. Don’t take online rejection too personal. It could be because of anything.

But trust me, it would really bother me if we have been exchanging emails for weeks then you drop me like some hot sh**! That’s reason enough to make it personal right?

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  1.   Hurricane says:
    Posted: 30 Dec 11

    Does an online dump 'count'? IF there was a RELATIONSHIP and not only an E-lationship--YES, it does. But, if there was ANY ambivalence about the relationship status, I don't see how it was truly a "dump". Minimal enthusiasm; insufficient information; nominal resource investment or any ambiguity negates the presumption of a relationship. So, based on current information, for one to determine that "this isn't working" is actually merely "a Redirection", not a 'Dump". However, I won't deny that such "redirections" are a bit bruising to one's psyche.

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  2.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 11

    LOL wow someone who read my mind. I don't get that far either. I get a BUNCH of flirts and emails and then they just suddenly stop emailing,LOL . I used to wonder what happened at first;I'm human. I realized though that most these guys that do that aren't sincere and if you don't start talking about sex and willing to meet or call them right away they get upset or bail out. I look at as giving them some resistance to weed out the wrong ones, a bit of a test. I keep trying though. Yeah it's funny to me now, because I don't change my methods I mean what I say in my profile. I find that alot on the site though, lot's of men on here out for sex but that can be any dating site.

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  3.   LloydXmas7 says:
    Posted: 26 Jun 11

    At least you guys get a chance to be dumped. I don't even get that far. :)

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  4.   sunflower211 says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 11

    Being dumped hurts. A guy and I exchanged emails for about a month and out the blue he sent me an email saying we don't mesh! I was hurt and shocked. The way he did it was cold and rude. So I called him a "jerk". He was ticked at me for calling him that,but in a way he deserved it. Since then I've been a iffy about online dating and trusting the words that are coming out of their mouths. I believe breaking up can be done in a mature and dignified manner. *Sunflower211

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  5.   onetreehill says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 11

    I try very hard not to be disrespectful to anyone, therefore, If I had to tell somone that he is not the one for me, I would try my best to do it in a non threatening manner. When I look at a profile, it doesn't mean that I am interested in that person, it usually means that I want a closer look at something that I saw or read about that person. It appears that some men chose the worse photo they could find to add to their profile. Some of them state that they are my age and they look older than my father. It appears that some men are just as dishonest as a few women. The other thing that bothers me about the photos, a few men state in their profile that they are handsome, I wonder if their is a mirrow in their home. Do they really see what I see. It is good to have confidence, but you also must be true to self. Back to the topic, being dumped on line is not that significant; at least not to me. I think it would be to someone who really wants and need a relationship; particularly if they are at a certain stage in their life. The ego suffers regardless, therefore, although it is not significant, it can still sting the ego. PEACE Ms. Chaos

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    • sunflower211 says:
      Posted: 12 Jun 11

      I was dumped online about two weeks ago and it was painful. The guy and I had being exchanging emails for awhile when out of the blue he sent me an email saying we don't mesh! My selfesteem really took a dive. I was so mad that I called him a "jerk"! Oh,well. That left a bad taste in my mouth. Since then I've been pretty iffy about online dating. Not sure if I can trust the men on these sites! I believe you can break up with someone in a mature and dignified manner. Sunflower211

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      • Darlinu says:
        Posted: 18 Jun 11

        I'm sorry that happened to you. But you are okay, I hope you know that. Looking for love takes risk whether online or in person, please don't let that one incident knock you down. Now get to getting...you are a young and beautiful woman and someone will snatch you up. Peace!

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  6.   AngelusFury says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 11

    this blogger confuses me. The bulk of the blog illustrates to the reader why being rejected online shouldnt discourage them or is not that bad. At this point I am thinking she i te one doing all the rejecting and is probably recieving some harsh words from her rejectees. Then at the end Ria says she too would be pissed if hse was "Dropped like hot mess"..... In anycase, its date site...if you fail dust urself off and try again....and again or return to the real world. P.S. Why are there so many single women from Navada????? These view points do not intirely represent the male species.

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  7.   Hopeful53 says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 11

    Rejection in any form stings! As was stated, having it done "on line" is not as bad as having it done to you face-to-face. MOST everyone on the various dating sites are seriously seeking a quality person to share time with with the hopes of it developing into something substantial. Sometimes people start to panic if they feel they are opening themselves up and being vulnernable to someone. This could be for a number of reasons...i.e. insecurity in and of themselves, rejection from someone before you, dissatisfaction with their physical appearance, and the list goes on. This happened to me recently after corresponding with someone for over two months. We were to meet in person for the first time but the week before, he had a change of heart and decided he wasn't ready for a relationship or the 2 hour commute that would be involved. Though I was disappointed, I felt at least things came to a standstill before my heart was more entangled. It's so very important to have integrity, be open and honest at all times and not lead anyone on if you are not really interested in them mutually. Just my 50 cents worth! Happy searching everyone!

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    • Darlinu says:
      Posted: 18 Jun 11

      I love your healthy and mature response! After reading some of the comments on this site by young woman, it is refreshing to hear. Peace!

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