Interracial relationships and ridicule
Have you ever been discriminated against or ridiculed for being an interracial couple?
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NOPLAYER says:Posted: 22 Jan 0900don I know what you mean, sometimes I wonder do they as a couple have a particular reason for avoiding eye contact? I try to leave room for the assumption that maybe they've grown tired of the mean looks and as a way to avoid trouble they just avoid looking at people. I understand that some people have sensitivities towards interracial dating but I don't think an interracial couple should have to walk with their heads down because some people don't agree with crossing the color line. I think an easy way to be able to speak, even if they avoid eye contact while walking in your direction is to speak to the man first, if he responds then speak to the lady, something like, "hey what's up bruh, ma'am, how you doing, and leave it at that. It breaks the ice and it shows that you're not coming with drama. " It's my opinion " that sisters more so than brothers bring the most drama over interracial dating when out in public. I think most blk guys really don't care, not to the point of clowning in public but I've seen more than a few sisters show their behinds in public. I was in Memphis a year ago and I took a friend of my cousin out to a movie and dinner because she ahd just relocated to Memphis from Dallas. While walking from the parking lot to the theater we passed these three sisters and one replied, " I see he got him a snow bunny to " ! We both laughed because my date was not a white woman she was Native American / Dominican. I can understand the reservation interracial couple have when out in public because some people can really get nasty!
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homesteader says:Posted: 22 Jan 09
Just say " Good Morning , Good Day , How are you or Good evening " all depends on time of day , We will respond . As we are just people also .
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00don says:Posted: 22 Jan 09
Here's a different angle on all of this: As a single guy living in Arizona, I see all types of different interracial couples. One could think they are looking at two people of Latin decent when one could actually be Native American or mixed. Nowadays, you just never know. Back to the topic, the staring works in reverse as a Black guy sometimes. Usually, I'm the guy that will say, "Hi" to anyone friendly enough to make eye contact and that happens to be in my vicinity. The other day while riding the public transit system, I saw a young interracial couple. They made sure not to look in my direction as I walked past. I thought it was a bit strange, so after taking my seat, I checked my reflection in the window to make sure that I wasn't mean muggin'. A few stops later, another interracial couple boarded with their two children. The father was carrying the little one in his arms. The other child, a really friendly little girl, toddled over and touched the shoe of the young lady of the first interracial couple as if in greeting. Her mother grabbed her, smiled at the young lady and sat down next to me (the only seats left). I tried to catch their eye to say, "Good afternoon," but the eye contact never came. My question is: what am I supposed to do or say? I'm not the mad dude. I'm happy that you both found the one you want to be with. Forums are easy, but how do we clear the air in public? It would be ridiculous for me to just be like, "Congratulations." I wouldn't do that to any other couple. Sometimes I think to myself, "Dude's got great taste in women." Saying that wouldn't be appropriate either. Would it be better for me to keep my mouth closed, keep my eyes straight ahead and just be happy for you (yes, both of you) in silence? The problem with that is the interracial couple perceiving my silence and evasive eye maneuvers as the ignore tactic. Unless they verbalize it, how do we know what other people are thinking, anyway? (Bump it. Next time, I'm saying, "Hi" whether you look or not.)
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ay75849002 says:Posted: 22 Jan 09
So I am currently dating a black man, and I am white. Living in the south makes it that much harder. I get called horrible things like n***** lover, and things like that. At first it made me feel so uncomfortable, and made me feel bad for my boyfriend, because I didn't want people referring to him in such a derogatory way. We still get stares in our small southern town, but after a while I realized how great of a guy he is and color doesn't matter, we have great chemistry and we love eachother and that is all that matters. It was also difficult with family. His family absolutely adores me, however my family liked him when we were friends, but now that we are dating they don't like it at all. It sucks but I can't help who I love.
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meluran says:Posted: 18 Jan 09"Black men date white women for a status symbol or conquer effect. They think it will get them automatic respect in the heirarchy business world. And more yet as a trophy .On the other hand …White men purely date black women for attraction." That maybe true but not for all. I'm African and living in Abidjan, Ivory Coast West Africa( we speak french here ).I have seen that when i was younger because white people show that they're the best the most intelligent and rich and give envy to African to be like them.NO WHITE MAN WOULD SAY they're some poor people to their country.I had the same feeling until I reach europe ( Norway , Germany and Denmark ) I love White women because I'm really attracted to them and because of my very open mind in love , its not easy with many African ladies.I dated German girl for years and it was great.You will notice in my profile , i dont care if she is rich poor or whatever.I can help in the name of love.Of course when you get married with a white woman, you seem to have some kind of "respect" sometime but don't get fool its maybe hate.On the other hand in Africa your white wife will easily get job as Some Big companies managers are white and will help her but that can also be the opposite. Many White will always see the interracial marriage as a kind of "evolution for the black partner" I think this time is getting over.If ther's any "evolution" or "trophy" that would be if one the partner Black Or White is Famous.
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starthai says:Posted: 01 Jan 09"why are we talking about guns on this post??!!" Dunno, but I'm sure the comments will be back to topic. Thanks for the response though. Happy New years everyone!
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Glock says:Posted: 01 Jan 09
Beretta's are good guns (why are we talking about guns on this post??!!). However it depends on what you are looking for in a gun. If you're looking for a gun to use for self defense, in my opinion, Glocks are very difficult to beat because of their reliability. It's made for combat so it has looser tolerances and won't be as accurate as some other guns that have tight tolerances (say, for bulleye shooting) but on the same note, that means that dirt and grime will not cause them to malfunction as often, something you definately don't want to happen in a deadly force encounter. The type of shooting I do (IDPA) is based on combat senarios where you do tactical reloads moving and shooting ect. Speed and accuracy are the name of the game. I've seen many makes of guns out there and very rarely do I ever see a Glock malfunction
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starthai says:Posted: 31 Dec 08
Glock, what about the Baretta? That's probably a girl gun.
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Glock says:Posted: 31 Dec 08
1911's are good for shooting for sure, I've just seen many people have malfunctions with 1911's during competitions. For simplicity and reliability, Glocks are very hard to beat although the Smith & Wesson M&P are closing in.
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Superlite27 says:Posted: 31 Dec 08No, starthai, the coincidence of meeting Sobers200, in Britain, at the same club, AND being the guy he made tie his shoes, is a little too far-fetched to be true. Stranger things have happened, I'm sure, but this would be too much of a stretch. I was just responding to Sobers' post from Oct 22nd and tried to satiricly point out the obvious childlike emotional maturity of those who ridicule. To summarize: Those who react with hatred are too emotionally stunted to do anything other than "react", while most interracial couples who have dealt with ridicule are obviously mature enough to choose their response. Therefore....Those who "react" are far more affected than those who are reacted to. To think I would actually submit to anything that would make me a "victim" is a false belief. Without going into lengthy detail or boasting, (I hate braggarts and am very self-conscious about being seen as one) let's just say I'm the last person in the world anyone would try and "make" do anything. If someone REALLY tried to make me tie his shoes, I'd probably do exactly as Glock said. (Although, I'm not really a Glock fan. I'm kind of a 1911 type of guy.)
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dolly48 says:Posted: 29 Dec 08i have dated a white man before. Believe me, I WISH some fool had said something to either of us........ fo real!
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Glock says:Posted: 29 Dec 08
I'm with Starthai on this one. Why didn't you so "No"?, then walk off?
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starthai says:Posted: 29 Dec 08
Umm ok! Superlite, you actually tied that fools shoes!?!?! Letting things roll off of you and being forced to tie a someones shoes (especially if they're not handicap) in 2008 at that are two different things. You better keep that overly humble sista you got, because that would have been a deal breaker for me. That shows no signs of a man that can protect his woman. You don't have to necessarily get into a brawl there are other "assertive" creative ways to handle ignorant people without entertaining their BS. Seriously!
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homesteader says:Posted: 28 Dec 08We have found that some are indifferent to our way of life , alas others who in the begining had bad things to say . They have changed as they see we do not care what they think , we made our lives as one , Most however take the time to get involved in conversation with us in the many market places where they see us together . We are a man and a woman in Love and that will never change because of others opinions . Love Les
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Superlite27 says:Posted: 06 Dec 08
It's the strangest thing. I was walking out of a club with my girlfriend while I was in England once, and this black guy walks up to me with a bunch of friends and wants me to tie his shoes. I guess he thought he was humiliating me, but all it did was show me was an ignorant fool he was. After I tied his size 8 knock-off Sketchers, (I knotted those ugly pink shoes as tight as I could) my girlfriend and I went back to the hotel and made sweet love all night long. I always wondered why, if the guy really wanted to humiliate me, he didn't steal my girlfriend? I guess it was probably because HE was the one who really wasn't a man. (You see, REAL MEN are the ones who are able to let things just slide off them. It's the children who let themselves be affected by things that happen. Proof? Take a look at the relationship between real adults and real children. Why are adults so calm and unflappable and children often cry and get upset? It's because adults CHOOSE not to let things upset them, and children CAN'T HELP but let their emotions take over. DO YOU THINK THIS CHANGES AS YOU GET OLDER? NO! It's still the emotional children who let things bother them.) Hence, tying shoes didn't bother me as much as my girlfriend bothered Sober.
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strawberry00 says:Posted: 05 Dec 08
The only people who have had something to say would be my family. I don't think I have ever noticed anyone in public say anything or look funny towards us. I usually focus all my attention on my fiance. But my family doesn't like him one bit, and it's hard on our relationship because of it. They say that they do not want us to have children because it's not good for children to be mixed. Which I think mixed children are beautiful. I don't care what they think about his color. He has been a better man than any white man has treated me. He is my best friend, and soul mate. He has never done me wrong like my previous boyfriends. BTW... he is black, and I am white. I still am head over heels for him after 4years! =]
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Artbunker says:Posted: 25 Nov 08
Funniest thing ever happened to me was when I was paying a debt back to a friend for a bet with a football I lost. basically I was trying to win a bottle of Grey goose and she a nice dinner. My team lost off some garbage play lolollo. Anyway she was a very attractive WW. I wasnt really into her. I was more into her friend at the time but a bet was a bet and I wasnt gonna go back on my word. Well we met at this resturant and let me tell you I got looks and stares form this group of old black ladies to this guy with his wife . It was like man were no intimate, were not holding hands or even close to each other WTF ?. It seemed like the only person in the whole resturant who knew or didnt assum we were together, was our waitress. And she was hitting on me :) It was an interesting even for the simple fact that I went on this "date" with someone showing no signs of really being with this person adn the whole resturante almost flipped. What I would say fomr that experience is that I was just laughing the whole time at folks limited perception of life and how a simple thing like color can really throw folks off. I had a blast that night, I wa more trying not to laugh than even worry about the folks looking at me and my friend I lost the bet to
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Member says:Posted: 03 Nov 08
Yeah I agree with you wwhile. sobers200 should figure out why he cares so much. First of all, did you really do the things you're saying? If you did, would anyone even care? Or is it a poor attempt to impress us all? I cannot comprehend caring enough about someone's personal decision to devote my time and effort to acting out on it. Who someone decides to date couldn't affect my life any less! It shows a lack of intelligence and maturity if you ask me. In conclusion, so many people need to ask themselves why they do care SO much. As open a person as I am, I REFUSE to believe that there is valid reason for it! Matter of fact, to prove my point...sobers, what's your reason for caring so much? Is success still eluding you?
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sobers200 says:Posted: 24 Oct 08
Rae56 Here's the thing, I don't believe black women are attracted to white men, I'm talking GUT LEVEL attraction here. I think it's done because the sister has reached a point in her life where she finds it hard to find a black match who is at same level in terms of income and status or two she has made poor choices or been treated wrongly by brothers and decides to give white boy's a shot. What annoys me even more is that white men always seem to get the best ones, the finest sisters F**K THAT !!! AAAAAARRRGH !!! Where as a brother with a white women is usually some Rosie O Donnell skanky ass looking woman.
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worthurwhile says:Posted: 23 Oct 08Oh sobers200! You are such a disgrace to the black race and humanity in general! Your statements are ignorant, and are not welcome here - Slither back under the rock you came from.
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morninflower says:Posted: 23 Oct 08
Sure sobers! ... sure.. We believe you and are all scared. First of all, your credibility is cheapened by your hiding behind a fake profile.. without a picture. I have a feeling that once you read this you will get some wierd looking fake picture and put it there. You want attention so I am giving it to you = you are a disgraceful, disgusting animal that should have everything bad in the world happen to? YOU ARE A MUGGER?! A CHEAP ASS-MUGGER! LOL! You steal shoes and shoe strings! hilarious! - we are all scared Sobers.. real scared! now scurry on little boy.. no one is turning up the coals in hell with you up in here.
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Rae56 says:Posted: 23 Oct 08sobers200, IMHO, you did more to "DE-MAN" yourself by allowing yourself to be reduced to bigotted and hate-filled standards. The test of a true man is one who can maintain 'HIS' dignity in the face of adversity... My experience has been more looks of surprise, when out in public with my Caucasian partner. The most unpleasant experience I've had was from a man that I was dating. It became obvious that he was uncomfortable having me meet his family and friends, and that, of course, is a deal breaker. Once when leaving a restaurant, he did what Cloe described in her post, and put distance between us when getting ready to pass a group of Caucasians. From that day on, one of the first questions I ask is, "how do your family about interracial relationships?" While many say, "I don't care," you have to be honest with yourself. In most cases, negativity from family can break a relationship, especially if you're very close with your family. I'm very fortunate to be part of a family that is very diverse in its relationships, but everyone is not that lucky.
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sobers200 says:Posted: 23 Oct 08
I don't like to see a black woman with a white man. In fact I hate it, with every fibre of my being, and if that gets me banned so be it, but I'm just speaking from the heart. Back in my younger days I would wait for them outside a club, me and my boys and we would humilate him by getting him to tie my shoes, or take all his money, just to totally DE-MAN him. I don't do it now, but the feeling still remains the same.
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Zachary18 says:Posted: 05 Oct 08I do it because Black women are all, and i mean all, that i'm attracted to. But another reason would be.. I Love Pissing People Off...And fulfilling my dreams in the process.
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17Tigers says:Posted: 03 Sep 08
Well my woman lives in the south too and I am currently in the west... Last time I was down there I was the one who got stares by my own race... Doesn't really matter unless a hostile stimuli moves into my personal space. Nowadays we are protected by civil rights laws and hate speech laws so if people make racist comments get their plate numbers or take their picture with your cell phone and turn them in or file a civil suit. It is much better to take their money than bother with a physical confrontation...
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71James says:Posted: 30 Aug 08
Living in the south you definately get attention. I have never had anyone say anything directly to me. It's usually the hatefull stares and whispered comments from the whites. Laughter and stares from the black ladies as they whisper to each other. I've never noticed anything negative from black men. Which is why I was surprised to see so many of you have. In fact my male friends that are black always seem to act like I've just joined some kind of club when they find out I date black women. Even had one friend introduce me to his sister. Either way doesn't really bother me. If I see someone staring I usually just grab my lady and give her a kiss. They want to stare might as well give them something to stare at.
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animuluv says:Posted: 21 Aug 08
there are gonna be some closed minded ppl no matter where you go in life.as for me i always stick up for and fully support the relationship im in.a beautiful witty black woman is a beautiful luvely person to see and talk to in our cruel world of today.if you are happy with whom you are with,then dont worry what the nay sayers are thinking.if two ppl are truely happy with each other n themselves,then THEY are doin something right.
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tallncurve says:Posted: 15 Jul 08
my worse experience with racism was: When i was with this black guy we wanted to move together, so i found an apartment and singed the contract. Later, my landlord, asked me to come to her office and told me, that i would have never gotten the apartment if she had known, that my boyfriend was black. I was so shocked, i couldn't even replay to that and i did not tell him. I was ashamed of my people. I'm from Germany and he is American. Well we stayed three years in that apartment and in the end that old lady was sad we moved out. So maybe we have changed her mined a little bit, but maybe that is a very naive way of seeing things.
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Member says:Posted: 25 Jun 08
I come from a small carribean island, both my parents are mixed, me and my siblings came out all different colors, we grew up feeling very secure and very proud to be mixed, but coming to the USA we had to say we were black, i dont get it, its as if you had to choose sides, or you would not be accepted. I have 2 sons their father is hispanic, I look more indian than black, my children, one is dark as i am the other very light like his father, tell me should my children also go around telling people they are only black or mixed to accomodate whom?
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WHITEneedingBLACK says:Posted: 23 Jun 08
I live in a small town, that in its self should tell you how mixed dating is seen. But, even after the rude looks and pointing the relationship is still rocky because of the black men in this area seems to think of themself as a "gods gift" kind of thing. I have dated 8 blackmen and they all have this attitude. You not only are socially unacceptable but,you look STUPID for putting up with it all. I feel as if I have lived through a nitemare with a moral to it.
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dlangel80 says:Posted: 16 Jun 08I haven't gotten a lot of stares or comments really. Either that or I don't notice them. What I have issues with is when a man doesn't want to be seen with me or to truly be in a relationship with me and I sense it has to do with race. It IS embarassing when someone doesn't want to show any affection to you in public because they're afraid of what people will think. If you chose to date IR, do it because you are going to love who you're going to love, regardless of what people say or do. The one thing I had trouble with recently is a black woman that I work with said that when she sees a white woman with a black man, she feels physically sick and angry. It bothered me because I respected her before she said that- and it also bothered me because it's like acting as if an entire population of men are owned by you. Even though white men date other races, it's not my right to be pissed that (insert race here) is stealing our men. The only time another person is "stealing" your man is when you're married to or dating that person, the lady/man knows it, and then tries to pursue your significant other anyways. I do not do that. Single men only. I wish people respected each other more.
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maccabee says:Posted: 11 Jun 08It is completely ridiculous that there are actually sub humans out there that are trying to stamp out interracial dating assuming that it’s some kind of new problem that was unheard of till now. What they don’t realize is that an entire African country consists of 2 mixed races. It’s called Ethiopia. Can anyone name those 2 races?
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Sydnee says:Posted: 09 Jun 08I don't believe that Glock is trying to prove anything. I believe that he is just reminding everyone that racism is alive and people everyday have a racist comment to make toward someone. In my own personal experiences, I have found that the greatest criticism of racism directed toward me, has come from black men themselves. Black men feel that white man HAVE to respect black women, but black men don’t. As long as we live and breathe, someone will have something to say about us. I was taught by my father that if I give power to people’s hateful words and racist remarks, that I give them the power to win. When he taught me to take the power out of their racist, mean, ugly and hateful words, he taught me to live the life that best fit me and not the life that others see for me. For the ignorant people that choose to direct racist remarks toward me or anyone else. I am convinced that they are making judgments based the color of our skin and not our character. It is up to us to let them know that there is no power in their WORDS of ugliness.
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Glock says:Posted: 06 Jun 08
Didn't realize I was trying to "prove" anything. I was relaying my personal life experiences in dating black women and the problems that I have encountered. And...what is a "real brother"?
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Nandi says:Posted: 06 Jun 08Glock & Glock...you guys have the same screen names... But why does white Glock have to prove anything to "real brothers" or anyone else... I would think a "real brother" would have already realized it is none of his business first and foremost...
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Nandi says:Posted: 06 Jun 08
aaronpresley...adding on to your comment..I refuse to live my life my anyones approval or disapproval other than my own...We give these people to much power...I say ignore them and perhaps they will go away of shut-up.
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Glock says:Posted: 05 Jun 08
I would just like to say to Glock that i agree with both your comments and i feel that from my observation while i am in the street that your right about what you said, and i would also like to say that its wrong on both sides and if you really want to be with that sister and you love her just stand up for her and go on with your life unfortunatly we will always have people black and white who have no clue what it means to be alive and to be in love with a person and it matters not what color they are!, and to my sisters i have dated women of all cultures and when i see you with a white man i want so much to come over and give you a compliment on your stringht but just like with any other relationship it would be out of place to do so, but i am happy for you and i want you to know that all my sisters. i know who i am as a black man and i have not forgtten about my people or my culture its just so crazy to dismiss a person because they may be different than you are. just be happy if u can,i know that its hard but we must be who we are and maybe though our pioneering of this idea we can make it a none-issue one day, but if we do nothing and continue to allow others through ignorance or hatred dictate to us what we do and who we love then i guess we deserve it because we showed no character and no committment to what we believed in.Oh! and yes if my daughter brought home a white man he would be welcome in my home and in her life as long as he loved and respected her! Glock! i think you are real dude! and i like your honesty, and thats the kind of stringht we need and believe me if you keep putting it out there and challenge us to be real the real brothers will come around! peace!
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aaronpresley says:Posted: 05 Jun 08I just don't live my life for the approval of a bunch of rednecks.
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Member says:Posted: 03 Jun 08
I cannot tell you how many times in my young age I have been discriminated against for the color of mine, and my lover's skin. He's true Irish (last name starts with O, has blue/green eyes and red hair with freckles) and though his parents love me and my parents love him (my dad is remarried to a white woman so it's nothing to him) we can even hold hands in public before people stop and stare. One black guy even asked my lover if I was just his friend and if I was single! How rude can people be? I think what makes me so mad is because it is still a little uncommon to see a black woman with a white man. While it's perfectly normal for a black guy to be with a white girl, people still gawk with crazy eyes when they see couples like me and my lover in the mall or something. I was recently doing a self-project for interracial love and all I see are pictures of black men and white women. Anything related to my kind of interracial love is all PORN! I kid you not, or it will be the same 4 pictures on every search engine site. Is there ANYTHING out there that is beautiful and totally not derogatory??
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christyice says:Posted: 02 Jun 08
Well I have no problem dating outside my race, however I have been redicule from alot of people that I know. Like for instance about two years ago I dated a mixed guy, he was mixed with white and hispanic. It was an attraction right away with him. I thought he was realy sexy and he felt the same way about me, up until we bagan going out in public alot is when things changed. We often ran into alot of my old classmates who apparently had crushes on me, but never revealed. They would say things to me like" What are you do with him, ya;ll can't be serious, what you don't like black men anymore, and even my own uncle told me that I was dating outside my race because I thought I was better than most people and I acted white myself. Well all the drama from all the negative opinions eventually caused us to break up. He began to feel very insecure and started to bother me also. So I eventually start dating my ex boyfriend from highschool, who is a black man and as usual he did not appreciate me, and I felt as if I let a good thing go for something that could not match up with my previous relationship. So my opinion now about redicule is that people are going to make comments about you regardless, that is just human nature. It can be out of jealousy, butterness, or whatever. If you allow their criticism to get in the way of your happiness: you only allowed them to win anyway. We as people are who we are with because that is the person that we have feeling for. Love is not a color, but rather an attraction. I have always been attracted to white and hispanic men, and probably be that way until I die, noone can change that, that is me, "so love who you want and be happy", that is my quote! Happiness is what everyone wants, they just do not allow their heat to go after what they want, but instead use their brains!
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sydnee says:Posted: 25 May 08
I have ridiculed and like Glock, all of my negative experiences have come from black men. As a black woman I am fed up with the lack of respect, and consideration, that I deserve from black men as it relates to my preference for a mate. For some reason black men feel that they have more than enough justification to be filled with rage when they find out that a black woman dates white men. I am not into stereotyping, I have never been hostile or angry toward black men about their choice of a mate, and I just want the same respect. Yet somehow that seems to be too much to ask. Every woman should feel she is worthy of having a good man. I believe that most men, black, white, or other want a good, strong woman who can add to their lives. As a woman, I believe that every woman should strive to be happy and independent. Then a good man will come into your life. Everyone woman should be proud of who they are. I am a good black woman with a unique and beautiful strength. I have just as much to offer to any man regardless of color. Yet for the life of me, I don’t understand why black men are so hard on me for dating outside my race, as they so put it. What is my race? If I choose to be politically correct, you will find that I am of a multi mixed race with Black, Mexican, Native American and Irish. To society, I am black, and very proud of each and every nationality that runs through my veins. I have to say that I find that real hypocrisy surfaces when black men on an interracial dating site continue to display hostility and anger toward me for listing my preference for dating as White/European. I have dated both black men and white men. I never try to compare the two. White men are totally different than Black men, and Black men are totally different than White men. Because I choose to love the white man, does not mean that white are better than black man. NO, it just means that we all have choices and my choice is a white man. Racism has got to go. People pull out your history books. Read how far back race mixing has gone on and you will find that there is no such thing as a pure race. If you are black, brown, yellow, or white and have a problem with my dating preference. GET OVER IT because it is what it is, I date white and nothing you say will change that.
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frenchyboo says:Posted: 19 May 08very interesting...wish i can find a way to post some of the clips of the movie i was in that came out last february...called interracial dating in america..it was an honor to part of this film.. you cn view some of y clups on youtube, under interracial dating in america.. check it out..but yeah, unfortunately i was so so ridiculed and talked to in such a disrespectful manner for dating outside my race since my teeens... check it out let me know what you think about it..great topics there..totally amazing as to some peoples thoughts and reasons why we date outside our race..when there is but one answer,,, because that is what appeals to us, period....
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frenchyboo says:Posted: 19 May 08
very interesting...wish i can find a way to post soe of the clips of the movie i was in that cae out last february...called interracial dating in america..it was an honor to part of this film.. you cn view some of y clups on youtube, under interracial dating in america.. check it out..but yeah, unfortunately i was so so ridiculed and talked to in such a disrespectful manner for dating outside my race since my teeens... check it out let me know what you think about it..great topics there..totally amazing as to some peoples thoughts and reasons why we date outside our race..when there is but one answer,,, because that is what appeals to us, period....
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Debbie56 says:Posted: 17 May 08Its actually where you are at the time, if you are in a large city shopping there does not seem to be the same looks-stares, as in a small village. My recent experience was while at a hot dog stand in Germany, my then man was trying to order a hotdog and fries they just ignored him, because they had heard him speak to me in Englishand also being black. So they turned to me and spoke to me in German, I speak a little German but no where near as fluent as my then man, I ignored them and let him talk, and they where not impressed, and in fact did repeat everything he said like he was not speaking the language properly... had we not be starving... hungry we would have walked away... but just shows how ignorant some people are with people in small towns..
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xeltron says:Posted: 15 May 08To Glock, Bravo! Free Speech is allowed in MY country!
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xeltron says:Posted: 15 May 08
Honestly, who cares what others think? and Member, that generalization about ALL black men was ignorant and ridiculous!!!! ........and probably a bit racist........
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