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Dinkycutie says:Posted: 21 Apr 22their is limit to everything,but n8 limit to honesty
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Icu812ruok says:Posted: 13 Jun 21You don’t have to be honest about everything. Suppose somebody approaches you and ask you how much money you’ve got in your pocket. The truth of the matter is honestly it’s not everybody’s business.
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Ruth116 says:Posted: 20 Apr 21The lady looks as if she's seen a rat in the top picture! All joking aside, it's best to demand honesty from whom one will be with. Otherwise, they'd end up being with the hypothetical rat the lady in the picture looks as if she's seen.
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Bibial says:Posted: 09 Feb 21Transparency yes! Honesty, truth and sincerity are important. Lying and lying will no where. Then more lies and the won't know how to get out. The best is show the truth of who you are and let people see to decide, people will like you better
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FaithfulKing says:Posted: 08 Feb 21The fact of the matter is that everyone lies. Why do we as human beings have to pretend to be so perfect especially with a subject as honesty. Most of us believe in God. Most of us read scripture. There is only one person that has ever been perfect on this earth. Jesus...... Now if anyone claims that he does not sin. We deceive ourselves and the truth is not on us. So, my point is. What if a person does tell the truth.... but sin in other areas. Does that make him being truthful any better but still sin anyway. No! Sin is sin. No sin is greater than the other. Just because a person is honest but yet still sin doesnt make the honesty any better. No one is 100% completely honest. Many of us want to believe that were honest but take a deep look within. You lie when you tell your child things just to make them feel better. You lie when you tell your significant others things just to make them feel good. But most people will say "oh but that's just a little white lie". Nevertheless, it's a lie. No matter how you try to cut, slice or dice it. Doesnt matter your intentions. It's still a lie.
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naren_1307 says:Posted: 25 Mar 20
Transparency is all the way gives your relationship more sense and make it strong.
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Daoma says:Posted: 08 Mar 18To be honest it doesn't cost anyone anything but make the relationship strong
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Lizhbs says:Posted: 04 May 17Honesty is the easiest thing to give a person. Lying, for any reason at all, takes too much time and effort, especially if you have to remember what you lied about in the first place. Lying also denies a person choices, which is one of the most emotionally damaging things one can do to another. Take the high road, no matter the cost, even if it's the hardest thing you have to do. Take it from someone who's done the right thing and still suffered for it. I wouldn't trade what I did for the world. I am vindicated in my honesty, so I can hold my head high.
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dumelezi says:Posted: 05 Dec 15I'm saying,, Honesty the Best policy, no one will break the Terms and Conditions as concerned.
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erberry says:Posted: 25 Jul 15
Honestly is one of the keys to a great relationship
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Ssango says:Posted: 07 Feb 16
True.I also believe beinghonesty to each other is the best.
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Freelance925 says:Posted: 07 Mar 14You are right sekee,most especially guys...The truth is you come out clean you stay single the rest of your life,..Women ! They want to hear sweet things..Lie to them and you have them,but of course relationships based on lies end up in a bad ways,.I hope every guy stays clean and truthful like myself,hopefully the right person that doesn't like fantasy's would come..Takes time though..
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Sekee says:Posted: 07 Dec 13
Yes it is. The key words in a relationship are" Trust, Saying the sorry word when he/ she has wronged u, n last but not list HONESTY. Most relationships break couz there is no honesty between them at all. honest is every thing guys. "MOST ESPECIALLY GUYS"
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Brownb09 says:Posted: 06 Oct 13Hehehe made me chuckle! The acting was good too. ...:)
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blinker says:Posted: 22 Sep 13It is really hilarouis, like the overacting, I never come across overhere in Holland
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Swtkaramel says:Posted: 18 Sep 12
I'm brand spaking new to the site and thought I'd get a few pointers here. WOW...these were so very funny while insightful at the same time. Carson you are hilarious...you seem to be a perfect match are you single and available? LOL
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needlove77 says:Posted: 06 Jun 11
funny video, she really did a good job the the voice, almost too good. had to turn the volume down a bit. funny :)
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melody37 says:Posted: 13 Mar 11Hello: The videos are good... I have been dating for a good while online, but I’m very disappointed because twice I have been robbed. At the beginning everything seems nice an perfect and so believable and after a good while there come the mess. The two guys I have date in a deceitful way they steel my money it seem that I’m attracted to gagsters… I’m kind of worried
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BrownSugar says:Posted: 06 Jan 11
gotta love this video! very funny and brilliant acting from all :)
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lvdee says:Posted: 17 Dec 10
Enjoy Carson -- at least he tells it like it is Very funny
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Safiji001 says:Posted: 12 Nov 10
I nearly choked on my water when he said "Nora, believe the lies." This was so funny.
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sotremendous says:Posted: 10 Nov 10
I enjoyed watching the clips, they were slightly informative, although I must say each of the scenario's I was well ahead of. I enjoyed Carson's accent....
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truthfulwon says:Posted: 09 Nov 10
I love the video. I think her man was tone deaf though. That voice well like he said there is someone for everyone. Just loved the videos!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 24 Oct 10Quality is definitely better than quantity. It is better to go without if the quality you want is not available but most people aren't that patient. Hopefully some day they will grow to that point.:-)
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kissime says:Posted: 23 Oct 10~Quantity and Quality~ Know the difference between the two. If you're looking for love you may get lost in online dating especially if you're indecisive by nature, have the mentality of the grass is greener on the other side or you're easily astray, usually by persuasion or false promises. . Online dating to me is very similar to traditional dating. the latter is more appealing to me because of location- it will never be a problem because most of the time, you are acquainted at parties, social events, and other happenings just around the city. Try not to get caught in the idea of having so many options. In reality you may not have so many options; not when you're in search of QUALITY. Some may not be in a hurry to claim love. But for the ones that are ready but have gotten twisted in the chaos: Do you notice how disposable you have made human beings including yourselves? It seems most have absolutely no value for the human lives. No substance. It's just so easy to disappear...unbelievable. Running from one end to another. Not taking the time to breathe & focusing on the truth. No humane connections. But the worst of animal instincts in heat. You must make time to build what you want. In Reality When it Comes to what is most important we must prioritize. We are not robots. We Feel, We Hurt, We Cry, We Laugh. We have deeper meanings. In reality we do not have that many option. When it comes to love, True Love: the word option is a delusional state of mine. Cyber love, cyber sex, cyber connection is: CYBER. It is not real--what I know for a fact deep inside of us we crave love-a meaningful connection which will grow and will be greener with gentle care . Really think of this: How long have we been "DATING" ? We meet & we're right back on the dating scene. Oh it didn't work out. Did we really make an effort? No. Try blaming it on fear or whatever. The truth is most do not have values. Everything come so easily. A closet full of clothes some with tags , yet has nothing to wear. I can have a slice of bread slightly buttered and I'll be full. But some need a loaf with extra butter. Yes, it is glutton in every sense. But when our vehicle needs gas we fill it. Is it because we need it to get where we need to? Absolutely. But it can also mean because we know how to take care of something. I drive a 1997 Jeep. I love my jeep. My son tells me he'll buy me a new one because he sees its faults. Can I purchase a new one? Absolutely. But I don't need a new one. It's still working. It gets me from point A to B. It takes care of me, I take care of it. Please stop insulting people you know nothing of. Every race has its goodness. We are all individuals. We must proceed with a healthier state of mind. We are all of Flesh and Blood.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 26 Oct 10
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 warns us, “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners shall inherit the kingdom of God.”
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brutus007 says:Posted: 18 Nov 13
cool mam reall love here no matter the age
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kissime says:Posted: 20 Oct 10
Funny story, serenity33. I believe you. Too FUNNY! :)))) Thank you for sharing :)
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kissime says:Posted: 19 Oct 10
You're very welcome, serenity33. I think you'll be fine. I know that you understand God does not want his children in pain. From my experiences & my friends, I know this: We all have our battles. Some so deeply buried it spreads as a deadly infection. Some battles are best left in God's hands. But do your part and accept God's gift- the gift of knowledge. Use it for inspiration. I know @ time it is hard to see through the clouds. But know this, this too shall pass. I believe this. Life has not always been kind to me. As long as I'm alive I'm growing. I have to continuously change for the better.
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kissime says:Posted: 18 Oct 10
serenity33, thank you for the compliments and kind words on another blog. I've been single for almost 3 years, and I have not met the best man for me. I'm a single-divorced mother, therefore, I'm very busy. I only blog when my son is asleep or with his father. I too have faith in me. Thanks to God for my strength and the knowledge that I have kindly welcome through life experiences and prayers. And my family's love and support is so appreciated and I make sure they are aware of it. I'm extremely particular when it comes to dating. I'm in no hurry. Too many games and I do not have the patience for them. Although I miss the comfort and love of a man, I know what is best for me and my son. I know when we find each other, we will be One in celestial. I never think of myself as oh, so pretty, but I know my soul is one of God's best. As for you, serenity33, you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. You'd be surprise when the love of your life kiss you so gently. Open your heart and arms and welcome her. I'm sure you have a lot to offer. You are very intelligent and seem very passionate. Learn to balance your passion-it may be too intense for some; and you may become lost in translation. The mind is not always dark. Defense mechanisms at time may be dangerous. You may be the reason someone smile (and that does not take a degree in psychology to know :)) Try being a little vulnerable when it comes to love- if you're not. When I've been hurt, I deal with the pain and move forward. I never allow pain to interfere with love's warmth. I move on to better days. Holding on to pain gives too much power to the inflicter. Sometimes the people who's hurt you do not realize the damage and they move on skipping and smelling daisies. Other time they make you the reason for the pain they've caused and take no ownership. We all must take responsibilities for our actions. At what point do one start pointing fingers at oneself-realizing it is indeed their faults for continuously being hurt by the same person. If we have the opportunity to do better--I suggest we do better. I know some may not be fortunate for friends and family. And my heart goes out to them. When you find that courage to run...RUN! People only change when they are ready.. Patterns are real. Do Not accept DIAMONDS with a side order of crap. I'll keep my costume jewelry....thank you for the offer, but I'll pass. Yes, I Miss Love As The Moon Misses the Sun
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serenity33 says:Posted: 18 Oct 10
I think you have me totally pegged right. I am too intense for most and I do get lost in translation. I don't have you gift of eloquence to make people understand me. Thanks for your kindness to me and I greatly appreciate you as a person in every capacity for being you.:-)
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serenity33 says:Posted: 19 Oct 10
Hey Kissme, do you mind if I suck your toes?;-D Totally joking of course. It just reminds me of the stoneages when I was in undergraduate and there was a guy that snuck around and had a pillowcase on his head with the eyes cut out so he could see and he would sneak into the woman's dorm room and suck on their toes. I don't think they ever caught him although they got close. This is a true story and your blog entry made me think of that. He was named the pillowcase toe-sucker.;-) Totally true. I wonder if the guy you dealt with was a son of his or something.;-) It takes all types I guess.;-) I never snuck around to do anything. I was too big of a target and too easily identifiable!! We had some weird types at college. We even had some guys dress up in ninja outfits and throw eggs at people at night. Strange thing for a Christian college but I guess people had to release their stress someway. I was into Dungeons and Dragons back them and I had a black velvet cape my mother sewed for me on a Halloween in High School that I took to college. I had some fundamental Christians think I was a devil worshiper or something and I would tease them at the beginning of the night wearing that and say I was going out to find a beautiful virgin to sacrifice. And when I came back after playing with my buddies, the fundy Christians would ask me how I did and I said jokingly that I didn't find anyone because either they were beautiful or they were virgins!!;-) A little college humor there. Hope you don't get bothered by too many weirdos in the future because you have more important things to do with your time.:-)
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serenity33 says:Posted: 23 Oct 10
It just reminds me of the stoneages when I was in undergraduate and there was a guy that snuck around and had a pillowcase on his head with the eyes cut out so he could see and he would sneak into the woman’s dorm room and suck on their toes. I don’t think they ever caught him although they got close. This is a true story and your blog entry made me think of that. He was named the pillowcase toe-sucker.;-) Totally true. I wonder if the guy you dealt with was a son of his or something.;-) It takes all types I guess.;-) I never snuck around to do anything. I was too big of a target and too easily identifiable!! We had some weird types at college. We even had some guys dress up in ninja outfits and throw eggs at people at night. Strange thing for a Christian college but I guess people had to release their stress someway. I was into Dungeons and Dragons back them and I had a black velvet cape my mother sewed for me on a Halloween in High School that I took to college. I had some fundamental Christians think I was a devil worshiper or something and I would tease them at the beginning of the night wearing that and say I was going out to find a beautiful virgin to sacrifice. And when I came back after playing with my buddies, the fundy Christians would ask me how I did and I said jokingly that I didn’t find anyone because either they were beautiful or they were virgins!!;-) A little college humor there. Hope you don’t get bothered by too many weirdos in the future because you have more important things to do with your time.:-)
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serenity33 says:Posted: 15 Oct 10
Well people that don't experience real love never experience real love in sex and are bored easily so they often turn to fetishes like toe sucking or worse. So you did the right thing by blocking that guy unless he was local and you just wanted him for a booty call which is your choice, no big deal.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 16 Oct 10
Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. And a man keeps on telling the truth until he becomes a truthful person. Falsehood leads to wickedness, evil-doing-wickedness leads to the (Hell) Fire, and a man may keep on telling lies till he is written before God, a liar.
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kissime says:Posted: 14 Oct 10
Just got a chance to watch the video...Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain, and conflict. Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. Humor lightens your burdens, inspires hopes, connects you to others, and keeps you grounded. Watching this video made me embrace the quote "There's someone for everyone" @ the end of it she found the man just for her. I'm sure her voice is music to his ears. Boy, dating-especially on-line- I sure need more than a few dose of tears induced from laughter daily. The other day I was so excited about reading a new message: "Please tell me, do You Like Having Your Toes Sucked?" The nerve of him to ask such question! Of course I like my toes sucked! But seriously, I mean yes, of course I LOVE my toes SUCKED! But seriously, I was disgusted by the question- only because it was 5 in the morning-I just dragged myself out of bed to go to the gym before work. Checking my messages while eating breakfast...already frustrated ;) And yes, he is BLOCKED! I Do Not Appreciate this question being asked by someone long distance...that's called TEASING!! And it's wrong. Now if he was local...JUST KIDDING!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 30 Aug 10
Sometimes when someone experiences something that strikes too close to home, they laugh at it instead of taking it seriously. I take all the blogs on here seriously since I doubt they would put them up if they didn't want serious input. Dishonesty in marriage can lead to infidelity and often divorce and all of the horrible consequences of that. I would like to hear from couples who have had problems with honesty or who are very honest in their relationships and hear what they have to say on this topic so please post on this topic if you have a story or situation to convey about Honesty being a good policy because I am tired of hearing about each video being funny and a parody when they are meant to stimulate us to think and share our experiences if they pertain to us and laughing at them only insults the people who posted them. So can some other people please speak on the topic like Flawlessme has?
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 30 Aug 10
Funny video!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 15 Oct 10
Sometimes when someone experiences something that strikes too close to home, they laugh at it instead of taking it seriously. I take all the blogs on here seriously since I doubt they would put them up if they didn’t want serious input. Dishonesty in marriage can lead to infidelity and often divorce and all of the horrible consequences of that. I would like to hear from couples who have had problems with honesty or who are very honest in their relationships and hear what they have to say on this topic so please post on this topic if you have a story or situation to convey about Honesty being a good policy because I am tired of hearing about each video being funny and a parody when they are meant to stimulate us to think and share our experiences if they pertain to us and laughing at them only insults the people who posted them. But with disposable marriages and divorce being so easy to do today, what incentive do people really have to work on trying to have a happy and healthy marriage? Just like people don't like honesty on blogs that makes them feel guilty and would rather be lied to so it is a very natural thing to want to be lied to. But lying and denying painful truths only brings up more suffering later on but people would rather live my the old axiom that "ignorance is bliss."
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serenity33 says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
Well hopefully if one is in a new relationship, they are there because the new relationship is better in all capacities than the old one. You don't have to come right out and say your ex satisfied you better. Why not just get your new person to do the same things that your ex did because sexual satisfaction is part technique and mostly psychosomatic so you can train your new partner do be as good as your ex through helpful suggestions in the bedroom. And since you should love your new partner more and arousal is mostly in the mind, since you should have greater love for your have new partner along with helpful suggestions and guidance should make him as good in the bedroom as your former partner or better. That is why you should make sure you shouldn't carry emotional baggage into a new relationship because it isn't fair to the new person. Plus there is the fantasy phenomena. That is where you psychosomatically falsely remember your ex as being better at satisfying you when they didn't. You just made that up in your mind. That is why it is so important to work through all the baggage of past relationships before starting a new one or else you are prone to flashbacks or the grass was greener syndrome. But I agree that you shouldn't bluntly say your ex was better in bed.
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Flawlessme says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
Much as honesty is the best policy, I think the feelings of the one you love should be put into consideration. I mean, you wouldn't want to talk about how your ex satisfied you better than your current partner right?
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serenity33 says:Posted: 03 Oct 10
Well, hopefully if one is in a new relationship, they are there because the new relationship is better in all capacities than the old one. You don’t have to come right out and say your ex satisfied you better. Why not just get your new person to do the same things that your ex did because sexual satisfaction is part technique and mostly psychosomatic so you can train your new partner do be as good as your ex through helpful suggestions in the bedroom. And since you should love your new partner more and arousal is mostly in the mind, since you should have greater love for your have new partner along with helpful suggestions and guidance should make him as good in the bedroom as your former partner or better. That is why you should make sure you shouldn’t carry emotional baggage into a new relationship because it isn’t fair to the new person. Plus there is the fantasy phenomena. That is where you psychosomatically falsely remember your ex as being better at satisfying you when they didn’t. You just made that up in your mind. That is why it is so important to work through all the baggage of past relationships before starting a new one or else you are prone to flashbacks or the grass was greener syndrome. But I agree that you shouldn’t bluntly say your ex was better in bed.
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
The video was a parody, a tongue-in-cheek, comical, humorous take. It has no basis in fact. It was not intended to be anything but funny.
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 28 Aug 10
This was an amazingly funny video!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 23 Oct 10
Dishonesty in a serious relationship is no laughing matter. I think the video was serious and shouldn’t be laughed at unless you don’t taken honesty in a relationship seriously.
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 27 Aug 10
I enjoy these tongue-in-cheek videos. They're hilarious!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 23 Oct 10
I think the video was serious and should be taken seriously. Honesty is always the best policy unless you have something you are trying to hide in a relationship that is bad.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 27 Aug 10
Honesty is always the best policy no matter what. That is how marriages stay together and true relationships are formed. Being bluntly honest is not always pleasant but at least you know that when you give a compliment, it isn't for the purpose of trying to get laid but something that is sincerely meant. To bad most people are gameplayers and don't appreciate the value of total honesty.
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kissime says:Posted: 26 Aug 10
Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. And a man keeps on telling the truth until he becomes a truthful person. Falsehood leads to wickedness, evil-doing-wickedness leads to the (Hell) Fire, and a man may keep on telling lies till he is written before God, a liar.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 23 Oct 10
Honesty is always the best policy no matter what. That is how marriages stay together and true relationships are formed. Being bluntly honest is not always pleasant but at least you know that when you give a compliment, it isn’t for the purpose of trying to get laid but something that is sincerely meant. To bad most people are gameplayers and don’t appreciate the value of total honesty.
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