Is it love… or is it just sex? Here’s how to know

You meet someone new, and a single glance sets off a burst of intense attraction. Your connection is electric, and it feels like you're falling head over heels. But is it the real deal? Can mere lust be mistaken for genuine love? Is there a way to detect the absence of true romance early on to avoid potential heartache? Absolutely!

7 signs you might be confusing sex and love

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It’s clear that the sexual part of the bond between the two of you is burning with desire. But is it enough for real love? If you’re wondering whether you want to build a serious relationship with your special someone, here are 7 signs it’s all about sex and nothing more.

1. Your attraction is more physical

What was the first thing about your partner to catch your attention? Was it his or her sense of humor, or an act of kindness you observed? Or was it their fashion-magazine appearance and manner? There’s nothing wrong with looking good, or with appreciating that trait in someone else. But if that’s not accompanied by a deeper reason for attraction, you may be headed for disappointment.

2. You say ‘yes’ to keep someone around.

When you’ve just started dating someone new, there may come a moment when it’s clear he or she expects sex as the next step — and that their interest may wane if you don’t agree. Saying yes can be an easy way to avoid asking the question: Why do you feel their interest might weaken?

3. You are lovers, but not really friends.

The sex is really good, maybe even great. But what else do you have in common? What would you talk about if one of you were physically incapacitated after an accident? Do you know personal details about them that their most casual friends don’t also know? If you have trouble answering questions like these, chances are sex is standing in for deeper connection.

4. Your time together is all spent in bed (or getting there).

Do you go out together to public places where the idea is to have fun or get to know each other better? Or do you mostly “hang out” at home where sex is instantly available?

5. When sex is done, you want to leave.

Lust alone is often all it takes to draw lovers together. But when the sex is done, lust by itself can produce the reverse reaction — like magnets that cling together until you flip them to opposing poles. If either of you can’t stick around to cuddle or spend the rest of the evening together, then the potential for real love is probably small.

6. The sex may be good, but you still feel unsatisfied.

Researchers have recognized that the biochemistry of sex — through the release of hormones like oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin — is meant to engender feelings of well-being and bonding with your partner. But that can’t overcome your own intuition about the relationship’s true potential. Beware if you feel empty after sex, rather than fulfilled.

7. You resist introducing your partner to friends and family.

Is this person someone you can’t wait to show off? Or do you intuitively suspect that the people who know and love you best will see the truth you are trying hard to deny? If you’re tempted to keep the relationship a “secret,” chances are it has little lasting potential.

Just sex or more – understanding the depths of love

In the journey of love, distinguishing between intense attraction and genuine affection can be challenging. While physical chemistry is important, true love delves deeper into emotional compatibility, shared experiences, and friendship. By honestly assessing if your connection is just sex, you empower yourself to make choices that align with lasting happiness. Take that first step to finding a relationship with someone who is truly compatible with you, both physically and emotionally. Register on our platform today and find true love!

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