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Is the White man the Black woman’s ideal man?

Posted by James, 09 Sep

“Black women will never be happy with Black men. Black women would find fault or a reason to complain and whine because she has been convinced that no matter what the Black man does, good or bad, he will never measure up to her real idol, the White man. The White man did a wonderful job confusing black women about what ‘a man’ is.” – Lifted from some forum

This is what some Black man thinks of Black women. The war of words never seems to end…

Every woman deserves happiness … every woman deserves to be in a loving and fulfilling relationship. I do not agree with the above generalization that “Black women will never be happy with Black men” because I know quite a number of people who have made their marriages work.

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Anyhow, the thing is, any woman in a relationship with a man who doesn’t treat her way she deserves to, is well within her rights to complain. So, when a Black woman does it, she is automatically branded bitter? When a Black woman is single, she’s brought it on herself because she whines and complains too much? I mean, how do you give a woman sh**, then fault her for talking sh**?

This dude above says that Black women are convinced that Black men will never measure up to White men? I do not believe for one second that Black women actually go out of their way to find fault in Black men. In fact, most of them go out of their way in search of a Black man who is committed, loving, responsible, a man who respects her and has his sh** together. And if a successful, caring and loving Black man was pitted against an equally successful, caring and loving White man, quite a number of them would pick the Black man. So this thing about the White man being the Black woman’s real idol, I am having trouble believing…

There is nothing wrong with a woman wanting a decent and honorable man in her arms. There is nothing wrong with a woman wanting a man that makes her proud to be his woman. All the Black woman (and any woman for that matter) wants is a man she can totally rely on - emotionally, physically, financially...

No one has confused the Black woman about what a man should be. I believe if any woman finds the above mentioned qualities in a man, she will dive right in regardless of race. Race doesn’t make a man. So, if this man with these adorable qualities happens to be White, does this mean White men are the Black woman’s definition of an ideal man?

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  1.   Bootycat_42 says:
    Posted: 20 Apr

    People have preference of whom they want to date and has nothing to do with being black and white. End of the day the same hurt you will feel with the black man white man can do as well.

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  2.   Rosaree says:
    Posted: 06 Apr 22

    True, black man don't do what white man do

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  3.   goldiegurl says:
    Posted: 10 May 20

    ive dated both , black man says shes tired of the loud mouths on black women, say they "love u" and later that evening find them online again chatting, with u on a bogus profile, go figure. but they just "loved" u an hour ago, PLAYERS.

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  4.   Cuteimy says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 20

    The problem fir bkack men ars their extended families. Every one has a say in yr marruage.

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  5.   tinkerbell77 says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 19

    Race has nothing to do with the "ideal" man. In every race there are good men and bad men. Depending on how they think and how they were raised, men can either have morals and are chivalrous and respectful..or they can be cheaters and manipulators. Me personally, I am more attracted to white men..has always been my preference. But I was married to a black man for over 12yrs before divorcing. Any relationship is going to have ups and downs regardless of race. LOVE is colorblind. Grow up people and get over it. Why cant people just love who they want to love without judgment.

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  6.   hifee says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 19

    I have a thing for WM, but that doesn’t mean i am blindsided by this. If i meet everything i want in a BM, then we are good to go. I have dated both BM and WM and my conclusion is its the same thing in different colors. Granted white men are more open minded... but i have come to realise all that matters is a man that truly loves you. If he loves you and you both understand each other, it doesn’t matter which ethnicity he is from, things are bound to work and he will treat you right. Another thing about BM are their extended family, they usually end up meddling in your affairs which has led to a lot of relationships falling apart.

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  7.   divanita36 says:
    Posted: 28 Dec 18

    We should focus less on the race and more on the person. I'm a black woman, I have an affinity for white men, but the fact that you're White doesn't give you a 5 out of 20, it doesn't even give you a 3. However, this affinity delves out of the fact that when it comes to spoiling women with gifts and affections, whites do it way better. They pay more attention to their women pay attention to details, connect with and spend more on her. This doesn't apply to all whites though, and some blacks are exactly like this description, so, if I happen to stumble on a man black or white that has these attitude, amongst others I'm most likely going to like him. It's just easier to find in whites.

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  8.   Justchin02 says:
    Posted: 04 Oct 18

    No i wouldn't say that. Because there are Still some Good Black men still out there Althou they have been hurt. And there nothing wrong with whites guys . You just have Meet the Right one...

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  9.   SandraCE says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 18

    Continue. Yes a good man is God fearing, sees beauty in what is both different and similar and know the comparisons are insignificant but understands that the true essence of that woman is only appreciated by his abilities to be kind, loving, patient and loyal! Like a beautiful flower, a woman gently open up, first trusting this man with her every being, gradually committing to loving him and having his back 100% rain, thunder, and lightening! It’s takes a mature man to understand that kind of loving. A man who abandons a woman who have made such a commitment because he is too weak to stamp his authority on his friends and family is not a man, he is still a boy. A boss relationship requires two consenting adults! Just saying. The desire to date one race and not the other is just the it factor! Some people are attracted to the sand on the beach while other love to climb rocks. Is one more beautiful and exciting than the other? Not in the eyes of the beholder! Everyone has the freedom of choice and no one should circum to pressure forfeiting true happiness. Live and love free or die trying❤️

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  10.   SandraCE says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 18

    Maturity maturity maturity! A good man does not have to be corrected. He knows boundaries and respect himself and others. A good man knows his responsibilities. No one has to tell him nor remind him he needs to maintain employment, hygiene, be honest and trustworthy! A good man knows he must be capable of protecting his woman at all times! What pride is there in a woman who has to support a stumbling drunk to the car and drive him safely home? A good man does not have a color, race, age, or height! A good man is void of the influence of friends and family! He knows who he is and what he wants and need by ease of choice and definitive decision! A good man is a male gender

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  11.   Ch3rryme says:
    Posted: 09 Feb 18

    My ideal is not a certain color , race and or nationality. I have dated black ,white and Hispanic. I have not had any horrific break ups have no hate or animosity toward either . As a matter of fact I had met a MAN who persuade me for months he is white have a biker background I started dating him and things seemed to be perfect . A little to perfect . After 6 months he just up and left no warning no good bye. 6months after he left he then decided it was time for me to know what happens and why and that he loved me and always will. Yet he chose not to stay. Yes crushed me deeply because I asked every question from the start yet the main one is the reason he left me not because of what I did .but because of what others thought. . Yes I am black he is white and his friends and family meant more than me so he chose to hurt me . Am I bitter no. Racism is alive and well after all these years and it takes a strong man and woman to choose to love each other openly than to hide. Of course it's hard but love that's pure and genuine is a great thing . That's why I'm not bitter I still know in my heart I will meet the man that's deserves to be with me and I him and we will be that couple that others will look at and say I want a relationship like that . I am not bitter towards black men I just prefer a different man not because of his skin or race if I meet a deserving man regardless of his race or skin color and we hit it off he would have the same chance regardless . I have multiracial children and grandchildren and I teach them that they are to be respected and to respect and let no one make you feel ashamed of loving who you love that's why we live in America the freedom to choose. It's a choice that we are entitled too. That's it that's all . I wouldn't care what neighborhood he came from how much money he has or don't have if he lived in a mansion or a box if we love each other we will work it out and come through it all together. . I waited 6 months for this man and after 2 months he skipped out again so I am moving on and done I don't want to raise a 60 yr old man. I'm 49 and not giving up .

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  12.   DC- says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 17

    Here in Indiana..WM/BW probably not ideal. Just observe who make up most interracial couples.

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  13.   luvgluve says:
    Posted: 07 Aug 17

    Depends on the man,I've heard said,black women like white men because of family values and professionalism!

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  14.   Blesee says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 16

    It not a matter of race period .Is finding a good man.Our culture and traditions in SA depicts men and woman in a patriachal community.Woman act a certain way and a man help on upper pedestole without respect you ,caring or committing it .Black were taught to be stronger never to show vunlrebility side or to be emotional fragile.Now woman know their right are strong and they can have their voices heard.Yeb my ideal man is a white guy indeed.

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  15.   sponte50 says:
    Posted: 20 Feb 16

    I don't think so for all black women , love is about caring respect empathy for each other if it shall be good and loyalty , and so its also nice black women is so beautiful it make it so wonderful, but the inside is the most imported I think :)

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  16.   blackbelle01 says:
    Posted: 13 Feb 16

    A GOOD MAN IS THE BLACK WOMEN'S IDEAL MAN AND IF HE HAPPENS TO BE WHITE SO BE IT.

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  17.   Gypsy22015 says:
    Posted: 16 Jan 16

    The answer to this question is NO.The White man is Not the Black woman's ideal man. NO. They are a beautiful looking couple. But ethnicity does not determine whether these people either one are ideal for one another. Your feelings will determine that for one another only. A Very beautiful couple pictured though. Best wishes.....

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  18.   dumelezi says:
    Posted: 15 Nov 15

    Both races were doing the same ,if they like to treat woman's good, they did but if they like to treat them bad they did .I noticed that ,sometimes man's were full of jealousy and selfish. Out of all this,Ican say half of them (w/B)were very good.

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  19.   Blossomn says:
    Posted: 14 Nov 15

    There is good and bad in every race however problems with black race are immense because of history and other socio economic factors. There are also problems especially for here for example in the uk for the white working class which also goes down with history. Dating interracially and so even among social classes in my opinion is a lot more healthier and better for future generations. If dating from same race for black then it will require therapy which we do not often do choosing religious leaders who might also not know how or qualified to resolve relationship conflicts. Relationship do require a lot of work especially communication irregardless of race and it's a few black men who choose to work on relationship because of ego and cultural norms.

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  20.   Blossomn says:
    Posted: 14 Nov 15

    There is good and bad in every race however problems with black race are immense because of history and other socio economic factors. There are also problems especially for here for example in the uk for the white working class which also goes down with history. Dating interracially and so even among social classes in my opinion is a lot more healthier and better for future generations. If dating from same race for black then it will require therapy which we do not often do choosing religious leaders who might also not know to resolve relationship conflicts. In summary it's

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  21.   simple0243 says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 15

    To say "I love you with a love without end... I love you, a pure love ... I love you with a passionate love... I love you explicitly, a love of infinite possibilities..." - it all seems redundant ... but the truth is that there is insufficient redundancy to express my feelings for you

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  22.   Billyboy50 says:
    Posted: 03 Nov 15

    No black people in general have been so brainwashed by the white man that they believe anything white is right.Black men have low selfesteem they have been torn down for years by white society the black woman believes the black man is useless. White men are more employable less stressful , it is hard work being a Blackman , every race is against you, take the easy way out sisters go white, soon black people will be extinct.

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  23.   TinySprite says:
    Posted: 24 Jul 15

    There is no such thing as an "ideal" man; there is such a thing as working at one's relationship and being committed to making it successful. Interracial relationships, by their very nature and because of American societal norms, require more work than most. That is perhaps why, when one does make the decision to enter such a relationship, one goes in with the acknowledgement that, come what may, you stand side by side with love, trust and respect as the glue that will keep you together. I have never met an interracial couple who did not have that mindset going in, and who were successful in their relationship.

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  24.   MissTexas01 says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 14

    I have known and dated plenty of good black men. I did not marry them because I was young and simple. I have a problem when someone regardless of the race talk bad about the opposite sex of their race and use it as an excuse as to their preferences. I truly believe white Asian and Latino women are beautiful. Just as I believe black, white, asian, and Latin men are beautiful. Beyond appearances I can't say if any man is better or worse than the next. I don't think I have been brainwashed. To the contrary, by living in the south and being around bigots should have had the opposite effect. Black men date interracially all day every day and it is ok but as soon as one of their heart throbs marries a white man then it must be because she was brain washed. Lmbo that is ridiculous. Then again the guy that made the comment could feel as if black women should stay within their race. That is also ridiculous. We are all the same. So why should anyone stick to something man made like race and ethnicities. If you go to some of these Latin countries you will find all shades from lily white to jet black and they do not differentiate. They just say WE are Dominican or WE are Panamanian. America is real big on labeling a person white, black, black non hispanic, white non hispanic, asian, other etc... check one. I wonder what this guy's opinion would be if we were all just labeled as American. What would he say then.

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    • Malcomb says:
      Posted: 30 Nov 17

      I totally agree with Miss Texas. A certain political party has fought to keep Americans of different races separated and divided for political reasons for over 150 years now, and even declared war on it's own nation in part because of this!

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    • DIMONZNRUST says:
      Posted: 04 Jul 20

      And today's winner is...Miss Texas!

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  25.   prettygirl46 says:
    Posted: 27 May 14

    My personal opinion is that if you put certain people on a pedestal, you miss out on other things and different races. Although I am attracted mostly to white men I talk to all, black, hispanic etc. My ideal man is just someone who I can talk to, laugh with, and do fun things with who respects me and is patient and considerate.

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  26.   illbwhiteblk says:
    Posted: 20 May 14

    The question should be , whether a person is black ,white Chinese whatever nationality isn't it the mans or women s choice who they want to be with ...My wife was African american and shes who I wanted to be with and just because it didn't work out its still my choice ..Theirs good and bad in every race....But I noticed being married to an African american I noticed the racism towards us because i was white I have had black men in a group bad mouthing me and my wife with racist and stupid comments People love to tear down others relationships because they are more racist than the people they accuse without reason just because one is with the opposite color.. Im not going to a black man or any other person to get approval for who I want to be with ...I respect all cultures and have never been a racist ..I would protect any person against racism ..I don't look at Black with a white women in any negative way...We are living in a stereo typical ,point fingers at others world because people have a problem with color ...These people complaining are the ones that will stay miserable and will never find or meet a good person because the true colors come out...To all the interracial couples blessings just keep loving one another and be respectful and never be influenced by people that lack integrity and wisdom and want to control others...

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  27.   1hombrebueno says:
    Posted: 18 Feb 14

    The statement "there are no Black men" is unfair and untrue and I wouldn't date ANY woman who truly thinks that. . As a substitute teacher, I've had thousands of students by now through the decade I've been doing this and I can attest that there are good Black males out there besides the celebrities and historical figures e.g. Dr. Ben Carson. MLK jr. One of the troublesome students I have ever had was a White student.

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    • brianna920 says:
      Posted: 09 Mar 14

      I completely agree. The are some great black males out there, but most a lot of black males verbally abuse black females so for black females it is hard too see who is really good or bad. I think there is good and bad in every race.

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      • Titi1978 says:
        Posted: 26 Mar 20

        White men are both verbally and emotionally abusive too ! I am telling you from my experience I am a black woman by the way .

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  28.   Randerson101 says:
    Posted: 29 Dec 12

    Okay, I hope no one gets offended, but as a black woman who has dated black men pretty much all my life; The Black men on here saying that black women are not as tough on white men. You have got to be kidding me. As much as I hate it, black women are just now starting to date outside our race. Just Now. We have been soo devoted to black men, that we couldn't and wouldn't give love a try outside of our own race until recently. To say things like this just isn't true. I pray that the day comes when topics like this won't exist. Love is love. Its just that simple.

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    • blackbelle01 says:
      Posted: 08 Sep 15

      Actually I think that some BW are tougher on WM than they are BM that is probably why they are more selective when choosing a WM and the reason why the relationships last longer.

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      • Luv1973 says:
        Posted: 30 Jul 16

        I agree with you. Although I know few black women who have married white men, they are a bit harder on white men than black men. They dont think they have a prize because they are involved with white men either. To them they are just men and they want to be treated with love and respect and from what i see they are. They would require the same treatment from any color men.

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  29.   Secret75 says:
    Posted: 01 Nov 12

    I don't think so. I think that with growth in societies acceptance and appreciation for diversity, we are seeing more people open to the idea of finding a partner outside of their culture. When I say this, I not just speaking in terms of ethnicity but also religiously, class, social upbringing, education. It's great to see such an open to change. Don't get me wrong --- some things haven't change and Im not blind to racism and discrimination that exist as well.

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  30.   ahotmess says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 12

    nop,i think this title is incorrect and misleading...its not that the white man is ideal,its just that they come close to what a lady would want her man to do...my two cents

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  31.   devnull says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 12

    Maybe this a cancer in USA that just seems to get worse because in Europe and Africa that is not the case to some extent. I personally think these types of nonsensical articles are dare I say good marketing strategies to lure SOME deluded and insecure black women into thinking I must date outside my race. Date who you want but do it because it comes naturally not jumping on the band wagon. Personally in my brief stint in the USA there are MANY good black men actually many good men of many races I just think some women are just not insure what they want or are still carrying the scars of past relationships which any fool should soon realize that if one is still scarred it is only a matter of time your interracial relationship will possibly end in tears. A few months a go I was in Africa on business assignment and one the African entrepreneurs said the divorce rate in Western world is shocking and most of the population is white. Relationships will work out or go sour irrespective of same race union or mixed.

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  32.   djrell says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 12

    in my opinion about it's a stigma of a stereotype via slavery ideaolgy of that of which the black man was trained into being s "stud" for the whiteman into making more slaves and then sold to another plantation and thus the same process is utilized to which also there is too much of the commercialization of what a black is for in which all races outside of ours have a total conclusion of what and how blackmen of what they should be.

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  33.   ashly87 says:
    Posted: 17 Jun 12

    I don't care about race. But white men seem to give me butterflies in my stomach...they're so hot to me. I just want to be happy and in love with the perfect guy designed for me.

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  34.   Q18 says:
    Posted: 22 May 12

    When I look at some of these post I say to myself “Black people we got a long way to go.” Why do we dislike ourselves so much. We are the main targets of interracial dating. Dr. Francis Cress Welsing was right , white supremacy is alive and working well. I'm far from one to place blame on any one. However, psychologically we have been worked on. Throughout history we have accepted anyone that accept us. With out looking at the big picture of building together. While I do not care to debate or argue about someone else personal choice. I will state my perspective. It is my responsibility as a black man to love my people and respect their free will. However, it is also my responsibility to help them understand the power of unity. many talk about gaining an education in the European since, however, no one seem to be educated on who they are. I myself will soon have a degree in this system. However, I refuse to let it define my total sense of understanding. Real education is educating self about ones self. Without my people understanding our great history as a race, unity will be a merely a dream. With out my people understanding the many factors that lead to our modern day problems, unity will be merely a dream. Brothers will continue to blame sisters and sister will continue to blame brothers. The victory will go to those who want to see our demise. Peace and Love!

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  35.   Louise50 says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 12

    I really can't say I have never dated white man, I have went on a couple and they are men just like any other race they say one thing and do another, but I am not judgeing nor am I giving up on the right one. I say to them all am not a booty call.

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  36.   sweetsexy001 says:
    Posted: 22 Dec 11

    In this age denilson20000 men and women in all cultures are still immature. Sounds like you have come across some childish little girls calling themselves women. Don't let it confuse you that all blk WOMEN feel or act that way. I'm sorry for what happened to you. Its a real shame! Please don't condemn all blk women because of the ones who talked about you. Pray for them that they will learn better. You are wrong about the way blk women feel. I know as an onlooker it seems that way to you. But I know you realize that women dont think like men and vice versa. I have seen the same type of women you were talking about and they talk about everyone! Even blk women, white women, blk men or anyone who doesnt look the part for them. It comes down to a preference in life. Sure they are wrong about what they do but its their right to express it. The Constitution of the United States gives them freedom of speech.Let it touch you and roll off your shoulders. You choose who you turn out to be, not what someone says you are. I wish you luck with finding your inner strength.Please start with the LORD. Merry Christmas!

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  37.   sweetsexy001 says:
    Posted: 22 Dec 11

    Wow, I can not believe that post. I wish the insecure blk men would spend more time working on things that make him feel unworthy to himself, than trying to blame blk women for dating in other cultures! Again, blk women get sold short about our intelligence. If we know that some blk men are not any good then why would they think we would be so easily fooled by white men!...LMAO!! I am so tried of all this racist CRAP from both sides! Get a grip people! Are we going to be ignorant to the end of the world? Ignorance is a deadly weapon! Dating who makes us happy does not make us brain washed! Blk men who feel like the one in the post, work on yourself to make yourself more of what any woman would want. God did not say blk had to be with blk...or white with white..or any same culture together! Blk women are not your property! We got our free papers even from you! Merry Christmas everyone.

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  38.   ONEGUY814 says:
    Posted: 20 Dec 11

    Listen, the Black community has been its own worse enemy when it comes to NOT tolerating diversity among themselves.I know that this is true, because they could not tolerate ME. I got tired of sitting in my dorm on Saturday night(s) waiting for one of 600 black men out of 16,000 men to ask me for a date. The world is too big for that! And hang-ups about being a nerd-girl, thick glasses, you're too plump, the girls down the Hall might- not think- I'm- cool; I thought: this is tiresome. I went out with a white guy instead. WHAT WAS I TRYING TO PROVE? said the black women on the hall? I'm not apologizing any more. BECAUSE I PREFER THEM WHITE, I'VE MORE IN COMMON. Being distinct among Blacks has something to do with it, a difference in outlook on life, religion, etc., maybe. People who I choose as friends, yes, a definite factor. I don't think I chose my husband(s) entirely on race. Many whites aren't very open people when it comes to diversity, among themselves. That's why I specified I prefer a family that no stranger to mixed marriage, mixed religion(s), ethnicity, because I don't like SIMPLE questions, and open mouths-among ANY group of people.

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  39.   saggc56 says:
    Posted: 19 Dec 11

    it's getting down to who makes who happy, but I like what I read. And I totally agree, we want to be treated the way you want us to treat you well without the drama. Made for a man color has little to do with it.

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  40.   shyone78 says:
    Posted: 18 Dec 11

    Wow those statistics are sobering to say the least ante59. I know that the white men/ black women relationship I have seen have been pretty successful. For instance my mother has been dating a white man for 4 years. Her first husband (my father) was black (died recently). But I have to say they are fantastic together. There are no power plays or struggles. They both work, enjoy going out, and they take care of each other. They buy each other things and don't expect that it's mandatory. He's not intimidated by her working. They have a lot of common interests and they genuinely like each other. When it comes down to it they have a lot of the same interests ideas about religion, and they love to travel. And if that happens to be a man of another race why limit yourself. My mom is open to dating any man as long as he's good to her and genuinely likes her and wants to get to know her. She raised me and my brother the same way. Before I got married I dated all kinds of men, and white men were pretty laid back. I didn't feel like I was the trophy girl like I had felt with some of the other races I've dated. I'm not putting down anyone, just that that was my experience.

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  41.   ante59 says:
    Posted: 18 Dec 11

    I'll put these divorce rate statistics from US -Asian husband/Asian wife = 45 -White husband/African american wife = 56 -White Latino husband/White Latino wife = 65 -White husband/White Latino wife = 95 -White husband/White wife = 100 -White husband/Asian wife = 104 -African american husband/African american wife = 108 -White Latino husband/White wife = 114 -Asian husband/White wife = 160 -African american husband/White wife = 208 So we trust these figures the ideal partners are these... for Asian woman : Asian man for White Latino woman : White Latino man for White woman : White man for African american woman : White man for Asian man : Asian woman for White Latino man : White Latino woman for White man: African american woman for African american man: African american woman Worst possible choice... for Asian man: White woman for Latino man: White woman for White man: Asian woman (slightly, second worst is white woman) for African american man: White woman So who are you going to believe: me or your own eyes? Source: A 2008 study by Jenifer L. Bratter and Rosalind B. King conducted on behalf of the Education Resources Information Center examined whether crossing racial boundaries increased the risk of divorce.

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    • Reese says:
      Posted: 22 Dec 11

      They have statistics all the time, but that doesn't mean that people in the groups with lowest success rate doesn't work. It is more about the couple because they are such big numbers we are talking about. If they take in age it also decreases with older people. But over 51 of all people in up in divorce period so selecting one race won't guarantee you have success. And it doesn't include alot of other races in ir like native americans, middle easterns. What about black/asian or black latino, latino/asian?

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  42.   ante59 says:
    Posted: 18 Dec 11

    There's only one way to check if that claim was right: divorce statistics. " According to the adjusted models predicting divorce as of the 10th year of marriage, interracial marriages that are the most vulnerable involve White females and non-White males (with the exception of White females/Hispanic White males) relative to White/White couples. White wife/Black husband marriages are twice as likely to divorce by the 10th year of marriage compared to White/White couples, while White wife/Asian husband marriages are 59% more likely to end in divorce compared to White/White unions.[9] Conversely, White men/non-White women couples show either very little or no differences in divorce rates. Asian wife/White husband marriages show only 4% greater likelihood of divorce by the 10th year of marriage than White/White couples. In the case of Black wife/White husband marriages, divorce by the 10th year of marriage is 44% less likely than among White/White unions. Intermarriages that did not cross a racial barrier, which was the case for White/Hispanic White couples, showed statistically similar likelihoods of divorcing as White/White marriages." Source: A 2008 study by Jenifer L. Bratter and Rosalind B. King conducted on behalf of the Education Resources Information Center examined whether crossing racial boundaries increased the risk of divorce. Same kinda discoveries here and there have been found in Europe too. People in Scandinavia have mentioned several times how well white man/black woman marriages are working, better than those of whites are especially those bm/ww. So we can indeed assume that BLACK WOMAN IS WHITE MAN'S IDEAL WOMAN if low divorce rate is the measure. Of course there are several other ways to measure it. Perhaps there are certain elements making those relationship working better. E.g it keeps some risky groups out of it.

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  43.   ExoticBella says:
    Posted: 06 Dec 11

    I just want someone who isn't afraid of commitment, black or white. And one who isn't like the creepy 80 year old hitting on me (I'm in my twenties). That would be nice for a change, LOL

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  44.   Root58 says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 11

    I don't believe that white men are most black women's ideal men. As with most women, a black woman's ideal man is a man who is going to treat her right, help her raise her children, especially if the children is also the man's children, and respects her.

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  45.   peter1981 says:
    Posted: 01 Nov 11

    I believe you just can be more happy with someone. doesn't matter what the color of your skin. yes, i love dark skin girls but when you like somebody it's just happens. doesn't matter where you came from

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  46.   odel68 says:
    Posted: 22 Sep 11

    when i was a child i thought girls were icky. then one day they weren't. what changed? who knows. when did i start liking girls of other races? i don't know. one day i had a crush on a white girl, then a mexican girl,and then a black girl. i have always seen the color of someones skin in much the same way as the color of their hair. it has nothing to do with your character, who you choose to be as a person. i can't speak on why other people date outside their race. i am not them. i can only speak for me. and that goes for you to denilson20000. you can only speak for yourself, not the bw who date outside their race. having suffered at the hands of a few bw who were careless with hurtful words and other cruelties and finding women of other races who were accepting of you and wanted you i can see why you are not a fan of those bw but all bw? we see how the media takes a bm of a very negative nature and try and label all bm as the same. our society likes to be spoon fed so they will take that negative image and try to put all bm in the same category. i feel (and i could be wrong) that you have done the same with bw. are bw with wm because they have set lower standards for the wm? who knows. are you with women of other races because they have set lower standards for bm? i would hope not. as for a wm being the ideal man for a bw i think that is a nonsense question. i would like to think that a woman, no matter what race, chose me because she was attracted to who i am, not the color of my skin. thank you ,james

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  47.   sunflower211 says:
    Posted: 09 Sep 11

    P:ersonally, I'm more attracted to white men than black men,but I feel safer with a black man. Black men are braver, bolder and more confident than some of the white guys I've dated. But, white men treat me better,they respect me, etc. But , the white man is not my ideal man . Neither is a black man. Jesus is my ideal man!

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    • 1hombrebueno says:
      Posted: 18 Feb 14

      A man like Jesus? You have a lot of patience, Sunflower ;-)

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    • cocorose88 says:
      Posted: 20 Apr 14

      If you think black men are bolder, stronger and braver, you have obviously never dated an Italian man. Italian guys are clearly the strongest men alive! Stronger mentally than most men because they genuinely adore chocolate women and they are not brainwashed by the prevalent media overload of white supremacist images depicting blonde hair and blue eyes as being the epitome of American beauty. Just because a man is boisterous and overly aggressive, it does not equate to him being valorous. A brave man is one that stands up as the line of defense for his household/ woman and children, not the dastard who abandons his own flesh and blood and attacks his woman because he secretly desires a more lecherous woman who will keep her legs open and her mouth shut! Strong men take responsibility and they make things happen...weak men are only good for making flimsy excuses and blaming everyone else for their ignorance and failures...So let me ask...who is strong and who is weak? Rhetorical...of course lol!

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  48.   denilson20000 says:
    Posted: 09 Sep 11

    An another thing If there is one thing that I have learned, as well as experienced throughout my life, is that black women will call black men ugly at the drop of a dime. If a black man isn’t their type, or not up to their standards, the thing that’s said is never “He’s not my type…” Nah, what they end up saying is “He is UUUUGGGLLLYYYY!!” What trips me out about it, is that half of the black men that black women call ugly, aren’t even ugly at all. They may not be attractive to that particular black woman, but they are not ugly. However, many of them are simply too damn lazy to give an accurate assessment of the guy. If the guy ain’t their type, he is UGLY. It’s as simple as that. Personally, I think that many black women are simply too damn hard on black men’s looks. If a nigga doesn’t resemble some sort of celebrity, or pop media icon, he will be clowned, put down, laughed at and insulted. Many of them will be cruel as hell about it also. They don’t seem to care about how their cruel insults will affect that man afterward either. In fact, I think many of the reasons why you have so many black men out here who can’t stand black women is due to the ridicule that many of them have constantly received from black women. I still battle with confidence issues due to the cruel things many black women have said about me throughout my life. It would be one thing if the stuff stopped at childhood. However, I find myself always being put down by black women; even as a grown man. You could be simply walking, minding your own damn business, and happen to pass by a group of black girls. Now, keep this in mind, tons of non-black men, of all shapes and sizes can pass by black women, and you won’t hear them say a damn thing about these men. However, let one lone black man pass by them, and he not be up to their standards, they will clown that nigga to death; totally embarrassing his black ass in front of everyone around. Then afterwards, you got to hear that loud ass hyena cackle that many black women do when they are talking about people. They make me sick with that bullshit. If there is one thing many black women are good at, it is DESTROYING black men’s self-esteem and confidence. They are ALWAYS calling black men ugly. However, when it comes to a non-black men, I hardly EVER hear them call non-black men ugly; even when the man IS ugly. It’s almost like black women feel like it’s FORBIDDEN to say anything bad about non-black men. However, black men are always fair game. I am here to tell you this, you have to be damn near a GQ model to escape the harsh criticisms of black women out here. Or, you have to be some dusty-looking Lil’ Wayne Clone. It just trips me out how the word “UGLY” seems to roll so easily off of the lips of many black women in regards to black men. To be completely honest, I really don’t think black women find black men all that attractive. It’s FAR too easy for them to down black men physically. They ALWAYS seem to find something wrong with black men. Yet, these women seem to have no problem, at damn all, dating average to outright UGLY men of other races. I guess it just comes down to the fact that many black women simply dislike, and lack respect for, black men in general; because black women who truly have love for black men can seem to always find something good about black men; even the, so-called, “Aesthetically Challenged” ones. Or if they don’t find the man attractive, they will at least allow the man the dignity of not deriding his ass publicly in front of people. It just trips me out how they can seem to judge black men to the damn highest standard, but have no standards whatsoever when judging a non-black man.

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    • Carbony says:
      Posted: 20 Dec 11

      WOW I'm sure glad you got that off your chest. Hopefully releasing all that negativity will help you to be more positive about even the negative experiences in your life at the hands of all humanity not just black women.

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    • 1TrueRomance says:
      Posted: 13 Apr 12

      Hey, don't be so down on yourself - you're a tall, attractive guy, and judging by your pic I'd say you probably have a good heart. I understand everything that you're saying, but you're only talking about the "superficials" - the gold diggers and the lames. Let them have one another, and YOU focus on the type of woman YOU want (even if she's average or "aestetically challenged"). You never know where you might find true love. I've dated black men and white men alike, and I can honestly say that there's no difference if they're all from the same pool of incompatibility. Black men are beautiful, but so are all men across the spectrum. It's hard enough to find a genuine individual nowadays, so break down those barriers and see what might be in store for you. Change your perspective, be positive. Good luck!

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  49.   denilson20000 says:
    Posted: 08 Sep 11

    Trisha23 You talk S**T. There are many good brothers out there but here is the thing and here is where women get it wrong....... it may not be reflected in their apperance. The fact is if your a regular a black guy, not a some run-way GQ model or just superstar rapper...NO..NO.NO...just a REGULAR brother on the street, not one of the brothers you women drool over...NO..NO..NO....just a REGULAR black man, then you are getting nothing. You see black woman HAVE NO PROBLEM giving the time of day to a sub-par white man, or some geekie nerdy ass white boy, they will give him a shot..no problem....but a black man who is the same ? HELL NO !! That's why I don't wanna hear you defend your S**T !! About how you have been with black men but they got kids and S**T. Oh right ? When you realise that ? When he was bending you over the couch ? When you were riding his D**K in his car ? Shut the F**K up !! AAAARGH !! I can't stand this S**T !!! Women act like a man can just walk up to you and treat you bad !! NO !! A man has jump over a series of hurdles 1) The Looks Hurdle 2) The Job Hurdle 3) The Car Hurdle 4) The Area You Live Hurdle And the brother who you were with must have jumped over all those hurdles. Maybe instead of focusing on the brothers, maybe you should focus on the fact that you had the wrong selection criteria in the 1st place

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  50.   ChocoGal says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 11

    Not really, in my opinion so long as there is mutual attraction and the man knows how to treat her it all works out. I happen to have for quite sometimes now be getting attention from while man which make is easier for me to make that choice and have been very pleased with my past relationships.

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