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josephtea says:Posted: 02 Dec 17Hello there !! Nice meeting you over here. Am Joseph from Mombasa Kenya East Africa, honest,patient ,humble down to earth and very hard working Man, looking for only serious and good friend leading for marriage. determined to be a good Father of my lovely family may you have a lovely weekend dear.
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Jguitarist says:Posted: 21 Apr 11the vids at first seamed like a joke... but honestly they are right. the vids are right about the meaning. its like kids learning videos lol..
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lvdee says:Posted: 17 Dec 10
I really enjoy all these videos and the point they make in a behind the scene way. How many people have you met and wonder where did they get that photo that's online or why show how you looked 20years ago?? Didn't know you then and you don't look that way now so whats the point. Use current photos - we're gonna see what you really look like if we meet anyway --don't need a shock factor LOL
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Honeymare says:Posted: 13 Nov 10These videos are cute and FUNNY and gives good advice. Hats off.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 18 Oct 10Thanks for the compliments kissme. But I don't think I am near as good a catch as you. I think you are being modest about your attractiveness and I bet guys love your sensuality and insight as well if they aren't scared away. I don't have you way with words to sound human enough, to many textbooks and studies read over the years and six failed attempts at relationships. Your son is very fortunate to have such a loving mother who is as wise and caring as you.:-) My best friends are my cats who are my babies but I can lay no claim to human children sadly enough. That's why I spend all my child time on my younger brother's one year old baby since he and his wife seem to be too busy to take care of her enough of the time. Anyway, I think I have been too vulnerable and not wise enough when it comes to love and being partially disabled from my accident doesn't help at all. So I spend time doing what I do best which is spreading knowledge because besides that and love making, I am not good at much else and I highly suspect my lovemaking skills will be no longer required again in this lifetime.;-) Hope you get to read this before it gets hidden because I really do appreciate you as a good mother, wise person and a human being.:-)
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Sanguine says:Posted: 13 Nov 10
Adding my 2 cents, lol So really haven't read your comments because they are all HIDDEN. . .wonder why(?) Well, not really that's why I haven't read them. The answers you are generating sort of gives me an idea. I want to ask you a question. . .Suppose you cut out your face in your photo and place in a females leaving everything else as it is. Would you write to her? Would you take her on a date? Funny you mention models. . .must mean you look out for the 'ideal' for yourself but do not choose to return that kind favor by making yourself the ideal. These vidos are for those who are serious about making a connection with another human being. This requires an amount of unselfishness and humility. This requires the inner introspection to make the 'cut.' These skills are required in every endevor of life, from entering the right college or getting the right job. It is refreshing to see that in the videos there is a teacher who is funny and entertaining while getting the lessons across. To demean them only shows one or maybe all of three things: that you are not serious about your search for Ms right, that you are too afraid to try, or that you are too selfish to care about pleasing another person. I see no 'serenity' here at all. . .
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serenity33 says:Posted: 15 Oct 10
Depends on the type of stimulus you are talking about. I think you are stimulated my nerds that don't say any truths that would make you feel guilty but nerds or anyone of high wisdom and/or intellect(because they are different) I suspect you would be threatened by. Women usually don't like guys that are smart in areas where the women pride themselves on being smart in especially if the male is smarter than the woman in her area. But women often love smart guys that are smart in other areas and stupid in the areas the woman prides herself in. Sadly enough, most women pride themselves in psychology without having really studied it for years like some of us have. Those types of guys women don't like because they are threatened by the truths they bear that make the women feel uncomfortable and guilty plus they aren't able to manipulate guys who are really smart or wise in psychology and women just like to give the illusion that the man is in charge in the relationship when really it is the woman that is pulling the strings.;-) Dumb good looking jocks are loved for more than just for their bodies but also for their minds or lack there of.;-) Plus dumb and unwise nerds are often loved for their entertainment value and their marketability in the workforce as well as their stupidity and easy manipulation by any woman who is remotely attractive.;-) Life is sad but true.;-)
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kissime says:Posted: 14 Oct 10I'm very attracted to "NERDS" Intellectual stimulation is highly pleasing. Not saying only a "nerd" can stimulate the mind. But there's just something about a nerd that's just captivating to me.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 15 Oct 10
I know I am the last person you would ever want advice from Kissme but personally have nothing whatsoever against you. I would suggest if you love nerds, pick the intellectual area more specifically that you like nerds to talk about and do a keyword search. I doubt you will get much under the keyword of "nerd" but the areas that you like that the nerds talk about, you could enter the keyword for and you will get a lot of matches. And don't be afraid of saying hello to them first because you are an attractive woman that goes through all the trouble to keep fit through working out which is hard nowadays, so you should have no trouble finding a nerd that you like to talk to and possibly whatever else you are looking for. I, myself, put in God, or Christ, or psychology especially as a keyword and find lots of results. You have a great advantage over me as well since you are many, many times better looking than I and you are younger than I so I don't think you should have any trouble at all. You have a high intellect and are very eloquent with words and may even intimidate much lesser educated guys than me so nerds would be perfect for you. If you are into poetry like I have seen on your other blogs or philosophy, you might want to enter those as keyword searches. And I am not being condescending, just trying to be helpful since you seem like you have a lot to offer a guy that is interested in you.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 17 Oct 10
I am not worried about you finding whomever you are are looking for since you are an attractive woman that goes through all the trouble to keep fit through working out which is hard nowadays, so you should have no trouble finding a nerd that you like to talk to and possibly whatever else you are looking for. I, myself, put in God, or Christ, or psychology especially as a keyword and find lots of results. You have a great advantage over me as well since you are many, many times better looking than I and you are younger than I so I don’t think you should have any trouble at all. You have a high intellect and are very eloquent with words and may even intimidate much lesser educated guys than me so nerds would be perfect for you. If you are into poetry like I have seen on your other blogs or philosophy, you might want to enter those as keyword searches. But regardless, I don't think you will have a hard time and are probably already busy with a relationship since I haven't seen you post for awhile and are probably too busy with your new relationship to even blog. I have total faith in you.:-)
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kissime says:Posted: 12 Oct 10
Serenity33 has written. Bydee.. Bydee... Bydee... That's all folks!!!
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kissime says:Posted: 12 Oct 10
Okay, Serenity33. Study, counseled, and even dated a model means you know them all-because they are all the same. Right?
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serenity33 says:Posted: 15 Oct 10
No. They fall into different categories. Many of the runway models happen to be type two lesbians as well which is fascinating in and of itself and as always I speak in statistics but modeling has a funny affect on the psyche especially as you get higher up in the business. I love the gay guy who is in charge of project runway, the reality show and he has written a book on models that is very enlightening and follows with what I have studied. So of course statistically, there are those who will fall outside of the norm but I think I have the general probability of the common models down pretty well. In psychology, there are always people that are exceptions to the rule in every case but we deal in the norm for any demographic group since they are the vast majority. Too bad not enough people are into real psychology to know this kind of thing.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 26 Oct 10
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 warns us, “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners shall inherit the kingdom of God.”
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kissime says:Posted: 09 Oct 10
serenity33 you would know of everyone's life including model types because? Oh, let me guess, you've counseled them all, right? And according to your expertise I should get counseling because I sometimes wear red lipstick when my day is a little gloomy, right?
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serenity33 says:Posted: 23 Oct 10
Studied, counseled, and even dated a model. So yes, I do know about the model types. And you can wear red lipstick if you want, I really don’t care. My mother wears lipstick and she is 75. I am referring to glamor shots with tons and tons of makeup all over. Those individuals need counseling but just lipstick? Nah.
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JimShorts says:Posted: 20 Sep 10Who conceives these tongue-in-cheek shows? They tend to be humerous while making a subliminal point.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 23 Oct 10
I don’t think this is a very tongue in cheek show. I think it is being serious and many people take it seriously. They even have ads on this site to improve your picture so people obviously are taking it seriously or else others wouldn’t be making money off of it. I don’t think it is very subliminal at all but quite obvious.
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kissime says:Posted: 20 Sep 10
Serenity33, I think your comments are truly sincere. But you need to lighten up. Do you not notice most of your comments are hidden? We all know beauty is within. But there is nothing wrong with working on the outside as well. There is nothing wrong about being the best you can be. I know some days when my heart aches for whatever reason-- the brightest red lipstick sure place a smile on my face...yes it may be temporary, but I'd much rather do that than indulge in food, drugs & alcohol. I know that getting on the cross trainer @ the gym also helps me breath better and keeps me happy longer. Nothing is wrong with normal pictures. But nothing is wrong about making yourself feel good as long as you're not hurting anyone's feelings. I know you're for the average, so am I. But while you're uplifting the "average" you seem to also be kicking what you may believe are the "model type" I'm sure life is not always peachy for them as well.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 22 Sep 10
I am intense person who has dealt with other people's pain and suffering from other people all the time so I will be never lighten up. I am not on here to be popular. I expect not to be liked because I tell the truths that most people don't want to know. But a few people do want to know the truth and cut through all the games and shallowness of life. If you have found true happiness and enlightenment, you wouldn't need to resort to other sources like lipstick to make yourself feel better. You should get some counseling from someone who deals with problems like that. You will feel a lot better after-wards. The average person should be lifted up because statistical studies do show that the model types do get life handed to them more on a silver platter. The plastic surgery business is getting larger and larger as people realize that looks are what matters in our society and I think that the average person needs to be uplifted and people shouldn't be forced to conform to the standards of a corrupt media. I deal with so many women who are average looking who put themselves down because of their looks and they can't hide behind makeup all the time. They need to be happy with how they are and look and fight the media influence and find inner peace and happiness. Glamor shots only provide illusion and short term band aid solutions when the root of the problem needs to be addressed. My heart grieves when I counsel women like this or ones who are homely. Models have it easy when it comes to these kind of women. It has even been studied informally by people like Dave Chappelle and The Man Show which did their own studies informally of how attractive women have many things handed to them. Their problems are little compared to homely and average women. Trust me, model types have life much easier and I include male models as well. So if you really know beauty is within, then don't contradict it by promoting looks consciousness because the two are not compatible in one ideology or world view. I say let people's average beauty and inner beauty shine in pictures.
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 30 Aug 10
Funny video!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 23 Oct 10
I think people are fine with just their normal pictures. Let their natural beauty shine. Besides, the world is made up of average people and not everyone is a model and that’s what helps make America beautiful.:-)
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serenity33 says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
That would require outfits unless you are trying to say you are sexually adventurous. Then you could wear any type of seductive outfit that fitted your personality to exhibit that. Otherwise, if you are trying to convey how you really are in real life in deeper aspects of your personality, glamor shots are misleading because no one looks that good all the time or in person. That is why they use tons of makeup, special lighting and airbrushing to make you look perfect. Besides, shouldn't you be love for your deeper qualities on the inside rather than be treat as a mere sex object like men and women do to objectify each other as pieces of meat rather than unique human beings with personaltys that make them special and unique? If you are just interested in sex, then by all means use glamor shots but if you are looking for a lasting relationship which is much more deep than just sex, then you should show yourself how you really are and be loved for how you really are.
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Flawlessme says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
The picture needs to be perfect. Perfect in the sense that it shows how you really look at the same time speak volumes about who you really are inside. If your description says adventurous, then the perfect picture should capture this. Lovely video
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
The video was a parody, a tongue-in-cheek, comical, humorous take. It has no basis in fact. It was not intended to be anything but funny.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 18 Oct 10
I think this video was meant to be serious. Do you not see the advertisements on this site and others which if you pay them money, they will doctor up your picture to make you look better? That is saying that people don't look good enough naturally. I mean don't put anything in a picture that you wouldn't go out in the street wearing is a good rule of thumb. Having been engaged to a model 20 years ago that went bad as she cheated on me with her photographer and left me, I learned a lot about the modeling industry and the clothes that they wear in photo shoots they would never go in public with and the amount of makeup up they have to put on is totally tremendous and hidden by the camera and they would look very weird in actual public. So since then I am for just looking tidy and nice but not model nice because the camera is much different than the human eye in person.
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Jan says:Posted: 29 Aug 10It is like when one goes for a job interview u put your best foot forward. U don't go in looking untidy as when u just rolled out of bed, while meeting your Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: Self-actualization, Esteem, Love and Belonging, and more. No? Your best representation is still the true u, u just showing your drive for success.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
This video was totally serious and many women go out of their way to take glamor shots of themselves to make them look more beautiful than they really are. They should be proud of the way the naturally look although if they were makeup, it should be for themselves and to impress people. But glamor shots involve a lot more than makeup but also lighting and altering of the picture by the one who develops the picture and is often airbrushed to brush away imperfections. Women should be love imperfections and all because that is the way they were made and that is beautiful in itself. I dated a model when I was in undergrad who was naturally very beautiful and I was even engaged to her for five years. We used to get into arguments over her wearing makeup because she was already beautiful and didn't need anything else and I liked her little imperfections. She ended up cheating on me with her photographer and leaving me when I went to do short term missionary work. She since has gotten married and divorced twice and had a boy from each marriage and now married another guy who had a boy out of marriage and I sincerely hope her marriage works out and am glad now that she dumped me because that would have been me that she divorced and I wouldn't want to become another sad statistic which is why I never got married. Point is, don't go by looks but love a woman for her personality and don't put pressure on women in society as men to make them match our standards of beauty when all women are beautiful in their own way.:-)
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 28 Aug 10
The video was delightfully funny and tongue-in-cheek!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 28 Aug 10
I think this video was serious and should be taken seriously. Women and men shouldn't doctor their pictures up to make themselves look better. If a man or a woman can't love you for how you really look, then it isn't really love.
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 27 Aug 10
I have to comment that this is a terrific series of comical videos on the topic of dating. Truly humorous!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 27 Aug 10
Well if you are going to be shallow and go by looks, then by all means, get the most doctored up, glamorous picture you can make and post it. That's all anyone really cares about besides money nowadays anyway. Too bad they will be in for a big disappointment when they meet you in person!!
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