Why are Asian men and Caucasian women couples more common lately?
Have you noticed a recent surge in Asian men and white women being together lately? Bruce Lee and Linda Lee Caldwell were one of Hollywood's first Asian man/Caucasian women celebrity couples … and that was in the 60s! So what's changed?
The question is, why is this interracial combo not as widespread as other interracial combos?
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There is definitely a higher percentage of Asian women with white men than ever before. Why?
The video below was taken by video crew who asked random and predominantly Asian guys and girls "Why Asian girls are attracted to white guys". Guess what... Stereotype! Stereotype and more Stereotype!
According to the video, most respondents described Asian men as being too shy or unassertive. The woman also stated Asian men were too effeminate and even too short! Apparently this is turning Asian women away and they are beginning to look elsewhere.
Asian stereotypes have been created by society in general. Enough articles have been written about what I would like to call stereotypical racism in the Asian community – for instance, how Caucasian men actively seek an Asian woman because of their exotic looks and supposed submissivenes?. How many have this so called Asian fetish or yellow fever?
Asian females, on the other hand, have constantly been disgraced and labeled "white-washed" women busy trying to climb the social ladder by their own communities and are finding more acceptance with races other than their own.
So what about the rise of interracial relationships between the Asian man and Caucasian woman? Is it that Asian men are fed up with their female counterparts and that they take revenge by dating Caucasian women? (just a thought) Or just that there are fewer Asian females in their dating pool so they are expanding their own horizons?
My conclusion is that maybe it's not that at all. I think people should be intelligent enough not to allow trivial stereotypes to conform to their preferences on who to date. Why do you think there is a rise in the Asian man-Caucasian woman interracial combo?
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447 responses to "Why are Asian men and Caucasian women couples more common lately?"
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Member says:Posted: 31 Jul 10
I think it be because it easier for the white woman to accomodate a tiny Asisan man than they can with members of my race. they scared
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Member says:Posted: 30 Jul 10
I'm a Registered Nurse here in the Philipines, this is not really a comment but a question, is it really possible for a Pilipino man to Find a U.S. Citizen Wife?
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Jade says:Posted: 28 Jul 10
I think interracial dating / marriage is fine if you are not into stereotypes. I've known two white men who got "mail order brides" from Philipinnes. I think this is totally weird. The men stated they married them because they thought the women would be submissive. They turned out getting divorces because these women were bilking them for $$ to send home to support their families, didn't work and were bossy. Men of all races, you need to get rid of fantasies and get into reality.
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soundalistic says:Posted: 28 Jul 10
Someone posted up there that white males have a higher rate of divorce then other race... well all those Asian women who are married to white guys... your chances of a filed mirage just got higher! laughs, and yes I know a few already... Laughs again...
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Ed says:Posted: 25 Jul 10
@omondieu novel ideas are usually just that "novel". There are lots of reasons for interrracial relationships and not all of them are positive. More often than not, one or more particpants in this pairing DO NOT look beyond skin/eye colour to the person inside. They deliberately seek out individuals of a certain people or exclude other people based race (often their own). Thankfully there are lots of great examples of interracial relationships based on true love.
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Joel says:Posted: 23 Jul 10
"Jungle Fever" helps create a healthy gene pool, it's natural to be attracted to people outside your family or race. Some guys have different preferences. Some adrore latinas, some love meditteranian women, some love nordic women, some love russian women, etc, etc you get the picture. A lot of people on the net are talking about white men having an "asian fetish." I think I just have an "attractive female" fetish. It helps if I know a girl, who likes me. For example, after I met a nice girl from spain, I developed a fetish for mediatteranian features. When I met a nice southerns asian girl, I found my asian fetish.
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Member says:Posted: 22 Jul 10
Just to add.. it's like saying all Asian women have small boobs..
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Member says:Posted: 22 Jul 10
The myth about Asian man's small penis is untrue. Perhaps you are talking about ancient Asians. But nowadays, the biggest and tallest people on earth are Asian and tall Chinese like Yao Ming the basketballer.. do u really think Asians still have small dicks?
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Joanna says:Posted: 19 Jul 10
I'm a white woman (100% Polish, born there) and I've been happily in a relationship with an Asian man (Chinese) for two years now. I'm not sure about the stereotypes, but here's why I fell for this guy: He was very assertive and confident. He made the first moves. He was anything but shy. He's talkative, outgoing, and personable. He is a gentleman and polite. He has traditional values and knows how to make a girl feel comfortable and special. I've never HAD to pay for a date. I can offer to pay and he'll let me, but he is first to offer and never hesitates or complains about it. He cares about his family and my family. He helps take care of his family. Family values are very important, and there definitely isn't enough of it in America anymore, so to see how much of a family man he was was refreshing. His unique style (He's from hong kong) and heritage are so different from mine, there's always something new to learn from him. He's not the stereotype "geek" asian. He dropped out of high school and got his GED. However, he's street smart. He's quick on his feet, quick to pick up and learn new things, never lags, and just always seems to be on top of his game and knows what he's doing. He's super loyal, and is serious about the relationship. There never were any games or what-ifs. He respects me, and has respected me from the very start. Not to mention, he's extremely sexy. I was attracted to him from day one, and let's just say he's got skills! =) As for why HE doesn't want to go for asian girls, he did give some stereotypical reasons based on his own experience... They're shallow or greedy, always wanting him to buy them expensive things and wanting to be taken care of Two of the asian girls he's dated have cheated on him They're too timid or way too obnoxious He also just isn't that physically attracted to them, probably because he wants something different from himself. He just doesn't like the typical Asian body type and physical aspects I guess. Those are just his feelings, and they're generalizations based on a few experiences. I'm the first white girl he's ever dated. He's the first asian guy I've ever dated, though I have dated other races as well.
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omondieu says:Posted: 19 Jul 10
@thinkit - Whoa! "Unnaturally mismatched"? What's unnatural about two human beings entering a loving relationship with one another? Sounds to me as though you're projecting your own narrow-minded views on the entire human race. Here's a novel thought: maybe interracial couples look beyond skin/eye colour to the person inside.
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Canada says:Posted: 19 Jul 10
Sorry, I also have more to add. I have also not yet met an asian guy who DOESN'T find white women appealing, and find it shocking to see the number of comments saying asian men don't want to marry outside of the race. Is this an American thing? Cause I love sexy women in all races, and so do the rest of my asian friends (more specifically, we're all chinese). The thing I would like ppl to be aware of is that white girls have a stigma for being slutty, likely to cheat, likely to get used, and divorce more readily as opposed to working things out. I also must say that Americans have been portrayed as greedy, arrogant, and self-centered. The combination of both is the only way I can think of that asian men would not want to marry a white girl. For all you white girls that are offended by my above remark, and feel that the stigma is wrong, then pls behave accordingly. Stay faithful, and stop being selfish - some of us take "til death do us part" quite seriously. Also, stop choosing jerk-type personalities who use and abuse you which in turn cause you play games with your future bfs. I would love to find a sexy white girl whom I can trust, love and adore.
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Canada says:Posted: 19 Jul 10
It's nice to see the variety of opinions and the amount of support ppl have given to AM/WF couples. But I must note what ppl seem to be failing to see. I'm an asian male who's always wondered about reasons for this rarity. Over where I'm from, AM/WF is RARE, and if I'm even just out with a white female friend, we get looks (cause of course when you're one on one ppl assume you're together). Anyways, what ppl are failing to see is culture differences. You say race doesn't matter, but when I view race I think of certain cultural aspects too. Typically when I see AF/WM couples the AF's way more slutty than normal, or the WM is a complete dork by society standards. The majority of AM/WF couplings I see here are when the WF is basically a ho, hanging out with some AM gangsta. I can only recall twice in my life, and I am almost 30, where I have seen a more normal AM/WF hookup, but the AM you could tell was so whitewashed he can't even count as "asian" - in that case asian truly just described his skin tone and facial features. What I am basically saying is I have yet to see a normal, non-dorkish, fully legit looking asian-white couple, who have clearly preserved their cultural roots as well. Question to you asian-white couples: why does it seem like the only way to get together is to be like the other culture?? Why is there no real integration and preservation of BOTH cultures?? For instance, the dorky white girl with asian guy, and asian girl with dorky white guy, just represents a typical asian couple. They also tend to be involved in more asian type things - manga, bubbletea, karaoke, etc., and blasting 'classic rock' or heavy metal is very unlikely in these relationships.
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thinkit says:Posted: 18 Jul 10
We have to look a little deeper. At first I couldn't put my finger on it but we know there's something wrong with it. It is unnatural, the attraction is uncomfortable and also unnaturally mismatched. The disparity of Asian women with White men is a result of centuries of racism. Thus affects social sentiments of a interacting society of human relations. These women are just showing their prejudices against their own people, it may not be their fault but their naiveness shows their blindness. White guy with Asian women - As visual evidence of the advantages as a result from white racism / colonialism. Thus creates a world of superficial privilege. Take a look around, the couple themselves may not know it but we know the influence of white racism is there, socially systematic, embedded so deep that it's hard to break.
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Member says:Posted: 16 Jul 10
Whether you deny it or not - in real world, Asian girls with whote males are mostly from SE Asia (eg Indonesia, Thai, Filipino). 99.9% East Asian womem(Chinese/Japanese/Korean), DO NOT like white men. They'd choose to stick with their own type and in genral think white men are hairy creatures, dimwit, meatheads etc (sad but true)but with little $ in their pockets only. So if eliminated the 'finanicial advantage' of white men in the past 50 yrs, Asian Girls would never choose to go out with any white guy for sure, unless the girl herself is too ugly and cant find a normal Chinese bf. (This can be seen everywhere) But after you go out with her, you'll find her eyes keep staring at other Asian guys on the street, showing how desperate she wants an Asian bf in her mind. She'll cheate the white man's $ then unhappily leave quickly the go to where her Chinese lover lives, then spend those $ together. The Hollywood films, media and youtube video like this are made up to please white male audience feeling, and degrade Asian men deliberately so as to promote self-confidence, but you gotta realise its not the reality - E Asian girls ideally want E Asian BF/Husband only.
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Mrs.ILoveAsians says:Posted: 15 Jul 10
I am a black girl and i find all race attractive but i have to admit lately I've found asian more attractive, even the femine once. It wasn't always so though, I used to go to schools where blacks were a majority,but as i got older I started going to more mixed raced schools and I enjoyed it better than the one raced school. You get to learn about different cultures. I have a lot of asian friends korean, chinese, and even mixed asians. I may not be dating an asian yet but from what I've seen mixed couple have the same problems as same sex couples. So don't talk crap about asians because they wanna date a white women or a white women. Asians mixing with other races is a step from them staying secluded to themselves like they were. If you don't wanna see mixed races go jump on a boat and sail to the middle of an ocean because there are mixed couples everywhere.
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Member says:Posted: 13 Jul 10
Looks gals and guys, We want the exotic. We want what we don't have. If you eat hamburger all the damn time, don't you want something else like pizza? Personally, for me, I find that white girls are more friendly, easier going, more "fair" and giving in bed, and break up easier with less drama and attachment. With Asian girls, they always want the upper hand, they want you to pay for everything and squeeze you when they can. Simply put, they are relatively more stuck up. I find way more drama when I'm with Asian girls. But, this is just my experience. Your results may vary.
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Member says:Posted: 13 Jul 10
I am a white woman married to a Chinese-born man and I must say that he is the best partner I could ask for. In my opinion, he works harder than most American guys, he is faithful and honest... and VERY muscular. We run a business together and I think we make a great team...I hate all the negitive sterotypes about asian guys 'cause this one is strong, assertive, intelligent and kind. Sigh...
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cd1000 says:Posted: 11 Jul 10
I married a good-looking, masculine, Japanese man. He was the most compatible and emotionally mature man I ever dated. The american men I dated were like boys and either commutment phobic or controlling or wanting to be taken care of. While there are many good american guys - it just seems like they play boy games and retain boyhood long into adulthood on average. My husband is great at partnership and is more like my father than any man I have ever met. Very kind to others, children and animals but also knows how to stand up for himself. He is strong willed but he genuinely wants me to be happy and I know he will never divorce because it is not in his culture. That means he really tries to work with me to make the relationship happy. He likes me because he thinks me smart and funny and because I deal with him directly rather than manipulatively and really try to understand his viewpoint even if he is not good at articulating it. If something makes him uncomfortable but he can't say why then I don't dismiss it. I respect his gut and emotions enough to try to figure out the issue and work out something that suits us both. I am from the south and well-educated. He does like women who dress feminine (southern women tend to be that way) and he loves educated and independent women better than beautiful ones. We have been together 20 years now.
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Fine says:Posted: 11 Jul 10
Asian women who seek for white men always dating or marrying a rich White guys who they happened to love nothing about them and likely to ended up in divorce in the future. To Asian women white men only view them as sex machine and only treat them nicely as long as there is a good sex life
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andyman says:Posted: 10 Jul 10
I hardly ever see any asiam men with white women. It is always the other way around with White men and asian wmen. Most asian dudes in the U S are gay and as interested in american white males as asian women
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Diru says:Posted: 09 Jul 10
...Why are people so stereotyped? Jeez. Everyones fighting battles that are completely ridiculous. I for one think that all men of every race can be a jerk, they can be fun and nice, they can be manly, they can be smart, stupid, abusive, feminine, etc. so why are we focusing on just the Asian men? I for one think that Asian men are gorgeous. With my experience of knowing white men, Asian men, black men, mexican men, and all other men, i prefer the Asian men. Why? not because im racist or ashamed of being Caucasian, because i've found my experiences with them better than my experience with other men. But there are asian men who are assholes, manipulative, horny bastards...Lol. but im not saying they are all like this. I find their femininity a good thing. I like that in a man, maybe more so than other women i know but we are all different. I like many things about the asian men. Its not that i would never date a caucasian man or a black man or a mexican man... its just that i prefer asian men. So why diss girls who prefer white men? Thats just their preference. But i do wish they would stop stereotyping, because a lot of white men i know are the exact opposite of what they say XDD But then there are some that are what they say. you just need to find the right person. but, all together, it doesn't matter what race you are. We are all humans. Love someone for who they are, not their race. And just realize all are individuals and different in their own way. Different cultures play a part in that, so if a girl prefers a certain kind of man then they may date a man who's culture shapes them into their prefered..man... im sorry if you don't understand what im saying, lol, but i hope it makes sense and we can all learn to love eachother like we would anyone else. I am only fourteen so i may not know as much as others, but i do know that what i am saying should be the reason for love and it should not matter what race. That is only physical attraction and you need emotional attraction as well to call it love. Alright, im going to end this. I just hope people listen and understandd ><
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Member says:Posted: 08 Jul 10
After the crash of 08, and the subprime debacle, the smaller penised Asian men had their lack of bedroom finesse overlooked for their oversized savings. What they lacked between their legs, they made up for in their portfolios. White women who date Asian men are therefore Gold diggers as there is nothing attractive from a Social Biological perspective for a caucasian woman to desire an Asian male who is not sexually attractive. So you know it is not true love.
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jojobeans says:Posted: 07 Jul 10
the reason asian women date white dudes is because asian men see asian women as a dime a dozen and are of the "eh, nothing special" types. For this reason Asian women seek those who prize them. Asian women to Asian men =hamburger White women to Asian men = steak. white women to white men = hamburger Asian women to white men = steak black women to black men =hamburger white/asian women to black men = steak Why settle for hamburger when you can have steak?
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Jupiter says:Posted: 05 Jul 10
I dont' think its that common, asian females with white males are much more common - I saw 3 of these couples on the train and in the train station the other day - one of the couples sounded quite compatible and held a good conversation together.
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disoriented says:Posted: 05 Jul 10
It's all about stereotypes. Maybe you're just noticing it more. I know interracial couples (white lady, asian man) who've been together 20-30 years. I wouldn't be here if my white grandma hadn't married my asian grandpa back in the 1920's when they had to go to another state because their home state disallowed interracial marriage, and my grandma couldn't give birth to her first born in a "white" hospital because they prohibited non-whites from giving birth there. Thank God that we have come this far that people of different races, orientations, religions, creeds, and colors can fall in love and be free to make a life together without fear of being lynched and shit. So, come to think of it, maybe y'all should put away your white sheets and torches and calm the f*** down about the rise of interracial relationships. I've had enough of whiny bitches breaking wind about how it isn't fair to see trends of certain races and genders hooking up. Stop whining, go fall in love, stop hatin', and do something useful with your life. I'm proud to be multiracial and am about to marry a great man who is latino. Bonus: our kids are going to have the most amazing genes and hybrid vigor so that they'll outlast any inbred bigot out there. Yay!
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Bosie says:Posted: 05 Jul 10
Generally speaking, because we can just do this, I have a question(err..maybe more than one!) for all the Asian men, what do you think about Italians? I would love to know your opinions;I'm an Italian girl really appassionated of Asian men,I live near Milan and in my city there are now many, but I'm really not able to approach them, I happened in many beautiful Asian men but, please this is my experience sorry if you feel being offended(<-and for my bad English too!),I was saying...but they are soo(yeah double o) reserved or shy I can't understand very well...Do you have any advices to explain me why, and how I could approach you? ^\^ Please! Serena
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Sewjesan says:Posted: 20 Aug 10Can't really speak for all asian men since everyone is different but, If you like one then just straight up go it and talk to him, I usual won't have the guts to approach a girl even if I like them anymore, why?, because everyone I've tried turn out not single, generally girls have a super easy time getting dates, cos they are really bombarded with it constantly, but if you are single and you like the asian guy then if you let him know in someway, if he's single, he will then more likely to respond, asians tend to not take chances if there's no sign's telling him to. As for myself, I'm currently talking to an Italian model, we are really clicking incredibly!!, she's super hot! And I have no idea how I got so lucky. How did this happen?, we'll she hit the single zone time segment. So a lot of things affect the outcome. Just be yourself of course, unless you have a reason to with-hold info which was the case in my case, her being a model of course, she thought it gives the wrong impression, so she didn't tell me, but came clean later.
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RespectableWhiteMan says:Posted: 04 Jul 10
The better ? is why does almost every interracial relationships involve a white women? I wouldn't dream of betraying my beautiful women in any way. At least some Asians I've met love their own women like I love my own.
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Chino says:Posted: 29 Jun 10
oh and if you want the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth and ready to handle the truth about why more asian men are dating white women.....bottom line, American Women hands you her goodies easier than asian women...on averge. Ofcourse you have some of your "Americannized asian women" that puts out to because she doesnt know any better thikning she's living the american dream. End of Story.
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Chino says:Posted: 29 Jun 10
@ slimjimtight the less you try the more results you get. There are NO WOMEN out there that's worth your time, if you take a girl out and she doesnt put out, theres no need to call them back, if you take them out and they sleep with you, theres really no point in calling them back......"waiting" hope that helps
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omondieu says:Posted: 28 Jun 10
Hey SlimJimTight - as a 23-year-old white girl and university graduate, my best advice is to be PATIENT. You are only 18. Now, before you accuse me of being condescending and ageist, trust me when I say that while 5 years may NOT seem like a long time, by the time you finish college, you will be a totally different person. It'll seem like an eternity. At 18, even students who are already in college/university are usually in what I like to call "highschool mode". You are still technically a teenager, and have teenage tendencies. In highschool, I NEVER EVER would have considered a future with an Asian, or any non-white guy for that matter. My thoughts were not based in racism or being shallow, but out of being unfamiliar with non-white guys. I'm Ukrainian (third generation Canadian with a Ukrainian background if we need to be picky), so I was sent to a Ukrainian elementary school--all white kids. Then I went to an all-girl highschool. Most of my friends in highschool were non-white, actually (I joke that I was so desperate for friends of other backgrounds, that I went out of my way to befriend every girl who wasn't white), but even though I ACKNOWLEDGED that many non-white men are attractive, because I had only truly had contact with white males, I figured that that's what I'd be sticking with. A future with an Asian or black guy was not something I thought I'd be able to get down with. In highschool, regardless of whether the schools are co-ed or not, kids tend to be cliquey. Many kids stick with their own out of comfort. In highschool, the last thing students want to do is step out of their comfort zone. Unfortunately, that kind of thinking has a tendency to stay with people in college/university, especially if your classes are all huge lecture halls of 300 students, where no one gets a chance to know each other, and you're just a number to your prof. So in many cases, even university students, overwhelmed by all of the people they're surrounded by, gravitate towards their own out of familiarity. What was a huge turning point for me was the fact that while I did attend a university, and had some large classes, I was also part of an art/art history program that allowed me to take studio classes at a nearby college. These classes were small, and so naturally, the students all got to know each other very well. Then we'd end up having art history lectures together (which were also smallish) at the university. And we were a very racially mixed bunch of kids. And as we progressed in the program, we'd continue to see each other, and be in classes together. What started as a group featuring the "token Asian guy", and the "token Indian girl" turned into a group of colourblind friends. It became very natural to strike up conversations with people regardless of the colour of their skin. Then we'd go back to the university and see so many "ethnic cliques", and it seemed so weird. What also changed my mindset was ending up working part time as a tutor for Korean kids. I've shown them that not all white people are scary racists! I've bonded with a lot of them, and while many were initially a little nervous around me, they ended up seeing me as something of an older sister. They're able to talk with me about stuff that they wouldn't dare talk to their conservative parents about, and they've learned that I'm not judgmental, so they aren't afraid to talk. And they make me listen to K-Pop on their iPods. And because I'm weird, I'd look these artists up on YouTube, and I'd be like, "DAMN! These Korean men are HOT!" So I'm kind of a special case, haha. And as it turned out, while I had crushes on many different white guys throughout university (German, Irish, French/Hungarian), the one guy I truly found myself head over heels for by the time I graduated was a Chinese guy I'd been good friends with since my second year. Unfortunately, he "got away", in that after graduating, he moved back home to Vancouver (I'm from and continue to live in Toronto) to attend grad school. We never were an item or anything, because I only realized I was super into him after he'd left (it's always that way, isn't it?). But I do hope that we'll have an opportunity to be reunited, and that I'll be able to tell him how I feel, and that hopefully he could feel the same way. I do have family in Vancouver, and my best friend may be moving there to study, so ya never know! I do keep tabs on him on Facebook, just to make sure he's still single. ;) Sorry this is so freakishly long, dude! I like to write. :) So really, the only thing you can do is be patient, and allow those around you to get out of that cliquey highschool state of mind. Those that ONLY see you for your background are not worth your time. Let girls of all backgrounds get to know you as a friend for a bit. Allow them to see that Asian guys are just like any other guys! Best of luck to you! :)
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SlimJimTight says:Posted: 28 Jun 10
So, I've ran into this blog a couple times and I thought I should leave my opinion. I'm a 18 year old college student that has had "yellow-fever" ever since. I have many Asian female friends that date white guys, its so common now. That's all fine with me, because I'm never liked Asian girls. But, I don't see the ratio of Asian guys dating white girls in my area. Its either with hispanic or asian girls. I've never had a problem talking to girls of other ethnicities. But, I can't seem to get a white gf. They either nicely reject me or use me. I can't even get a date with one, because they make excuses. I don't know why I can't even get a date at the very least. I'm 5'9" and athletically built and I have a great personality. I'm 100% chinese & I'm good looking. Very Americanized, I dress preppy. I need some help from you guys. Could anyone give me a few pointers or tips? thanks :)
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nathalie91 says:Posted: 04 Sep 10hmm I'm a caucasian girl of ur age and I must say some girls to think very shallow when it comes to asian guys. Most of them have these stereotypes in their heads which kind of puts them off in dating asian guys....I would say before asking them on a date, just try and let them get to know u and that u are a fun person to be with with a class personality =) due to stereotypes they might not realise that they aren't true and therefore are convinced that an asian guy wouldn't be right for them, so yea, best is to just show them what they really are like and maybe try to hang out with white guys so that they see that ur approachable? sorry if this all sounds confusing by the way lol its hard to formulate it right >.< ''
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Member says:Posted: 28 Jun 10
My boyfriend is asian and he is wonderful. What about the pacific islanders and the big Samoans. A real sticking point for many Asian guys (other guys too)! If you lack confidence around women, how are they ever going to know what a cool, fun and interesting guy you are? There's no easy fix for shyness, only push yourself to get out there and talk to people, most girls will respond well to a guy who approaches her as long as he is relaxed and confident. And if the worst scenario happens, she will probably just politely excuse herself! Ingrid
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JaveP says:Posted: 28 Jun 10
the blacks, pacific islanders and the big Samoans are usually nice and creative. I agree a lot with Asian guy. JaveP.
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omondieu says:Posted: 27 Jun 10
It's so nice to see so many open-minded Asian men popping up in this thread. Gives me hope that someday, I too can land myself a handsome Asian man. :) And we will have lovely, intelligent, quirky, articulate, funny, creative Ukrainian-Canadian-Asian children. ;)
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michindude says:Posted: 27 Jun 10
I'm an Asian guy who's dated quite a few white girls, and only 1 asian girl. I'm a good looking guy of average height and the personality takes care of the rest. I don't try to pick white girls in particular, but they seem to be the most willing targets. The women always choose. I've always been open to dating an asian girl, but they seem to be too obsessed with finding a white guy to be bothered with me, and I don't deal with women like that. I'm not really involved in any asian cliques either, so I don't really date those asian girls. Lets be real. Being an asian male does not help in the dating world. This is mostly because women use their men as status symbols, and dating an asian guy would reduce thier social status since American society at large assigns us a low social value. It doesn't matter that I'm successful, intelligent, charming, just as tall as other guys, and great in bed. Simply being asian will be a deal breaker for many women. It seems to be in vogue and accepted in mainstream America to be racist against asians, especially asian men, and women don't want to have to deal with that. They want a guy that will make other women jealous, not one that will make others sneer and snicker. Women are so superficial most of the time, that this alone will stop them from dating an asian guy. With white women especially, there is a large percentage of them that will never date a non-white guy (waspy daddy's girl types), and I can sniff this from a mile away and just steer clear of them. I've been lucky enough to have some great open minded (and hot!) women in my life however, but these women are the exception and not the rule. Who's to blame? The media for one, which is run by white males who have an interest in keeping down the social value of asian men. Mostly, women at large (not the exceptions, whom I cherish!) are to blame, for being so shallow, superficial, and petty; using men like objects that they ornament themselves with to broadcast some sort of status. Why are asian male, white female couples more common now? I'd say that asian guys are more open to it now. before the crushing parental pressure to marry a girl from your homeland was stronger. Its less so nowadays. Asian guys are getting cooler also. I think Asian guys are adapting to the social environment of America a little better nowadays, and therefore dating girls from different races. Of course, its women that choose, and it seems that more women are open to dating asian guys now. There's still not that many, but I'm lucky since I always manage to find them!
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Drew2364 says:Posted: 26 Jun 10
Also. I am a mixed Asian man. Spanish/filipino. But we need to seriously expand the definition of an asian man. They think they are only Japanese. Koreans or Chinese. What about Australia. They are part of Asia. What about the pacific islanders and the big Samoans. The phillipines are mixed with other races too coz it was once a territory of Spain and the us. Now if we be honest to ourselves asia is a large diverse group of people and cultures. There are dark, tall, short, big, and many kinds. Now I have just proven that stereotype is really victimizing that person doing it. Coz their minds are not expanded. If u think of Asian u should not think they're only Chinese or Japanese. Now u just realized how a person can narrow minded when they sterotype. And also find out for your self. Go to Asia. It's a much dynamic place. Amd now it is a powerhouse economically
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Drew2364 says:Posted: 26 Jun 10
Its funny that people inject their own opinions about how good they are in getting women. Don't guys always exaggerate about themselves. This is high school 101. Stick to the question. Why Asian men and white women is on the rise? Well let's think about this logically. In the American society. The bottom line is women choose the man. Let's first establish this. Men here that brag. Only proves that they "think" they Are better than other men. There should be no reason to brag how many girls u have unless you are insecure. And as men we are, mostly. People are even women. But the main reason is that white women are realizing that the asian man stereotype is only that just a stereotype. Each have different reasons. But one thing they have in common is that the white woman is simply just being "open minded" that's it. The idea of an Asian man going against their race as revenge is crazy. If this Asian man is introduced to a hot Asian woman. Do u think he will say no? I don't think so
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Chino says:Posted: 26 Jun 10
oh and to close up on "Asian women are most submissive".......who did you meet? sure she wasn't just bored. lmfao. Women are women.....what's up with the green m&m's is the true question. Personality traits and women can only be matched individually, not as a whole...you have alot to learn. :)
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Chino says:Posted: 26 Jun 10
Greetings: I love debates and hot topics but was rather suprised to run across this article while googling "hottest asian guy" hoping my picture would pop up...I wish I was joking. I'm 25 and currently with a Jamaican gal from Miami. My ex was a Spanish/Cuban from Miami and my partners in the past were African American, Irish/American, Jewish, etc. fact is, attraction isn't divided into a race option. We crave what we want and attracted to our desires. I personally like dating outside my race only because to me, Asian women are common. Wheb I leave the house, I don't order Vietnamese food when I'm hungry but more less a hamburger or pizza, catch my draft? We surrounded with choices and options in our everyday life. It's funny how the stereo type "Asian men have small dicks" never seems to prevent me from accomplishing my hunt. I'm 7-8 inches good width as well which seems to be "over average" to most women (I meet pretty interesting women, more open I presume). Anywho, you can't pin-point it down to anything as to why we're attracted to what we desire. Dating outside your race has always been common, it's just been more tolerable....take homosexuals for example, how did people react to that back then?? We've evolved, and in some cases is it better or for the worst? I'm happy to see more of us are beginning to realize and pursue our dreams. One life to live, don't waste it on wondering why someone likes something but spend it wondering what you like and go after it! The true question is not why interacial dating has been rising but how did it start to begin with. One of these days we're all going to be one color. :)
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Member says:Posted: 25 Jun 10
I have to agree with Mark. I dated white women from Europe as well as the United States, and even though women in the US are harder to attract than Europeans, the difference is not that much. This crap about Asian men finding difficult dating white women are just propaganda. Even in Universities like Berkeley that I attended, I had no problem dating smart and attractive white women.
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Buttercream says:Posted: 18 Jun 10
The article really has nothing to do with Asian males/white females. Its more about the racial fetishes of Asian females. When it comes to males, there is nothing Asian males need to be ashamed of despite the barrage of humiliating remarks made by Asian females or white males. However, in reality such misguided and delusional remarks do have a effect on society. Unfortunately the white media cements these negative stereotypes into the minds of millions. I really cannot imagine a race of men that deserves to have a kind and supportive gf or wife as Asian males. They really need to find a alternative besides Asian females. Even if Asian females marry them, they tend to treat their husbands like second class citizens. Always bitter that their husbands are not white and that their children are not mixed.
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Ami says:Posted: 17 Jun 10
Black/White female married to Japanese from Japan. I love him, he loves me. We have one beautiful child. He is sexy, sweet, sometimes hard to understand.... he is my soulmate. He loves Black women in general, but of course me the most. He always calls me his brown sugar (with a thick, cute accent) and I call him my rock. It a good combo- I get him to do things that help him express himself. He can be more reserved, coming from Japan. I say "let's dance!" randomly, or "just scream!" and we laugh and play like he's never experienced. And sometimes, when I need a quiet moment, his Japanese quietude and conservative peace is just what I need. And in bed, its all sparks as we enjoy the differences between us. He loves to grab my frizzy head of hair and I love to look into his huge dark eyes. Love is blind and I agree cultural barriers are breaking down. My husband also feels like his fellow Asian men should get out and take more chances on love, wherever they are. Same thing to my sistas. Asian men are where its at girls!
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Mark says:Posted: 16 Jun 10
I'm Asian and from my experience the only Asian guys who complain are the ones with NO GAME. (No Balls)
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Calvin says:Posted: 14 Jun 10
By the way, I'm an asian guy, and not American, neither from China, i'm from South East Asia.. It's weird how asian guys from where i come from isn't really affected by all these american stories about White/Asian couples. Not much anyway.. It's just those myths and stories spreading around in the media.. But if you want to know the truth how asian guys in my country thinks about white girls?? Yeah.. sex symbols alrite!! And you want to think what we think about white guys?? Yeah.. poor spenders and horny fellas.. So if you want to think how many asians from asian countries think about whites?? SEX, SEX, SEX!! But at the end of the day, in terms of relationships, most of us go for our own race.. so, thanks and no thanks!! But still i believe the world is changing and people are changing..:)
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Calvin says:Posted: 14 Jun 10
I think it's pretty simple to answer this question.. Culture barriers are breaking down.. More and more asian people are getting exposed to white culture and whites are getting exposed to asian cultures.. Men luv submissive women as men like to dominate, and in the old days, asian women were the most submissive..and white women were too independent.. But the world has changed, and asian guys themselves are getting more westernise.. New rock stars are clean cut and neat looking, unlike the old long hair, mascular fitting bodies.. Women in the world are going more for the gentlemen, 007 look, and asian guys are fitting that criteria, not to mention the 'agility of Bruce Lee'.. Women in the world are not looking to be over dominated as before, they are pretty much as independent as man themselves these days, so there goes to demand of 'Thor' in male seduction..
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Taken999 says:Posted: 11 Jun 10
As an Asian male perspective who stays in a dormitory ,I reckon that most Asian men are more reserved compared to white woman. White women are always loud, they party, drink like there is no tomorrow and they love hooking up with random guys in the pub. This is what I consider woman who are damaged goods. I am not trying to be stereotypical but these come from my experiences with these woman.. they will only want you when they need you. Relationships can even last one night. Asian women are more sensitive about issues, caring, not as wild.
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poka says:Posted: 10 Jun 10
Welll I am a white girl and I loveee Asian guys...I'm actually in Japan right now lol. In my own experiences, in America there is like a 50/50 chance with Asian guys (Especially 90% more likely with American-born ones) that they will want to hook up with me, and even the FOBS are kind of curious. However, I think FOBS are much more likely to want other Asian girls, especially other fobby ones. Here in Japan I stand out a lot more because I am white (And am in a little town with only Japanese), and I have noticed only a few guys check me out, especially older Japanese guys, that I do not know why. Also, guys who like studying English pursue me more lol... So yeah. Lol so there you go. There are definitely Asian guys out there who will date and even marry outside their race, I know that for sure.
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aud says:Posted: 10 Jun 10
I'm an Asian female myself and while I do find myself get attracted to lots of Caucasian guys that's because I'm currently living in the states and they make up a large portion of the social class that I identify with. However, I do find lots of Asian men (partially Southeast and South Asian men) extremely attractive. The thing about Asian females being submissive is just about as true the one about Asian guys and their size. All the female in my family are the dominant ones in the relationship. And I will not stay in a relationship with a man who thinks that he can make me "submit".
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