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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Nawlunzguy says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 10

    Give it a rest Eric! sheesh....

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  2.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 10

    @Nikkle, No worries dear sister, there's nothing to forgive, we all fall short sometimes, at least I do(lol). I wasn't sure so that's why I posed the question to you. I don't like to assume, and if I'm doubtful, I'd just rather ask. I want to be given the benefit of the doubt, so it would be wrong for me not to do the same for other's. God Bless godiva

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  3.   Nikkle says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 10

    @Godiva61 from Nikkle. No, the post was directed at Eric.I agree with your responses to Eric. I was responding out of turn and didn't realize it. Please forgive me.

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  4.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 10

    @Nikkle, I am confused, so my question is this, was the entire post that you are referring to directed towards me??, please explain godiva

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  5.   Nikkle says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 10

    Sorry to confuse anyone, but my posting that began "I’m praying that G-d bless you with many things." was meant for "godiva61"

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  6.   Nikkle says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 10

    By the way. Are you a female? I'm sincere in my question because I was responding to an individual who is a male that dated black females and stated they only used him for his money.

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  7.   Nikkle says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 10

    I'm praying that G-d bless you with many things. You do know that anger is a sin and you seem extremely stressed over the postings that don't validate your beliefs? Anger and stress contribute greatly to heart disease amongst other things. You should really consider a lifestyle change. You do realize it is okay for other people to believe differently than you. I do not post on this site to interact with people who have so much hatred in their heart nor am I interested in anyone who directly opposes MY postings although I am interested in general opposing views because we can all learn from everyone. God puts certain people in our paths for a reason. You, he has put in my past again for a reason, and perhaps I can help you and others who suffer like you, all racial issues aside. You need some spiritual guidance and if you do not believe in G-d you need to seek psychiatric treatment before you hurt yourself or others with your rage. There is also medication and therapy available. I mean this in the spirit of kindness and the desire to see you well, you need to seek help. If you tell me where you are located, I can conduct the research for you and find you help. I'm absolutely appalled by your conduct and will be equally appalled by those who support your views because they seem like the rantings of a mad-man or one possessed.

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  8.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 10

    @Eric, Wow! You seem to know so much about me from that one response to you, do you know my favorite color as well? Why so defensive? How did I know that you would come back so fast, and with the same ole tired, "uneducated black woman, who doesn't have a clue to this and that, who can't stand hearing the truth about themselves, always degrading black men, and all the evils of the black community, including AIDS is soley on the black woman's shoulder, blah, blah"! When did I ever tell you that I date interracially? How do you know if I'm black or not? Have you ever seen me, are you a family member, or friend? Why so defensive? Still begging for answers I see, is this the part where you post this three or four times? Again, you are so obvious! Sure, go right ahead and talk about the killer of black women, right after you talk about the number one killer of black men! Oh wait, that's not true is it?? What other formats do you speak on this topic? In your community, the schools, prisons, or just on an interracial dating site?? Thank you for the confirmation, I knew you would take the bait! Predictable, typical, and oh so obvious!! You seem to have such a repoire with black women so I know your astounding intelligence, your honesty, and your knowledge will not fall on deaf ears, so keep talking, and talking, and more talking!!! I didn't know that I was qualifed to speak on the behalf of all black women! Each black woman has the mind, and the will to speak for herself or so I thought, but if you say otherwise, then it must be the gospel according to one of those 66 books!

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  9.   dannyco56 says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 10

    @All Also another bit of information I got from the CDC site was that all women made up 26% and all men made up 74%. These are the pecentages between all the infected as of 2005. This is on te women with HIV/AIDS site. I have to go now will keep an eye on the posts. God Bless! Danny

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  10.   dannyco56 says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 10

    @All Good Morning! I hope all have a good day or what is left of it. @All I think all should take a little tour of the CDCweb site for yourselves. You will findout that our friend Eric has arranged the facts as it benifits him. This that follows is directly from the CDC web site: "The rate of AIDS diagnoses for black adults/adolescents were 10 times the rate for whites and nearly 3 times the rate for Hispanics. The rate of AIDS diagnoses for black women was 22 times the rate for white women. The rate of AIDS diagnoses for black men was almost 8 times the rate for white men." You have to do some checking but the one thing that struck me was as follows: "Lack of awareness of HIV serostatus is risky for African American men and women. In a recent study of men who have sex with men (MSM) in five cities, 46% of the black MSM were HIV-positive and 67% of those men were unaware of their infection" 67 percent did not even know they had it. Check out the CDC for yourself do not take my word or Eric's. It is very important for each and every person. That is why men and women should get checked out and demand their potential mates be checked out as well. This is not 100% as new infections can take awhile before they can be detected. That is why a go slow relationship may be safer way for all. God Bless! Danny

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  11.   bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 10

    I have to put my two cents in on the AIDS issue first of all Eric you don't know me but you will now. I think you are putting the blame on black women for this and for what reason? Some of the stuff you said is dead on. The problem with us as sistas is we trust too quickly and too willing to give our bodies to men we don't know which gets us in trouble but let's get real here, a lot of brothas have been to jail and been turned out so to speak in jail. Now, that's not BS that's fact. I watch MSNBC, I had relatives who worked in the prison system and a lot of these dudes don't consider themselves homosexuals. They figure they do what they do in jail, come out and be straight again. They hide their bisexuality from women. A lot of the problem we have in the black community is our refusal to acknowledge homosexuals, therefore they hid in the closet and marry us. Or either in some cases, sistas know the man is gay or bi and stay with him anyway because of montary reasons, embarassement or the children. Terry McMillian is a prime example. It was quite obvious to most of us that her husband was a FLAMING homosexual. Apparently, either she knew about it and didn't care and just let it go over her head. But in general, we all need to do a better job of protecting ourselves and make better choices when choosing our partners.

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  12.   Scoff/Sarah says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 10

    First encounter with a white boy For those that are from the deep south, you know how the summers go hot with extreme humidy, then down pours that blind you with flashes of lighting. On this kinda day was when I first met Scoff. It was a Monday, we had worked most the morning about 1 pm the showers started, usually during this time most of the packing and other work stopped as the boys picking in the fields always came up to the shed. The routine was to hang around, to wait the weather out sometimes it would pass and we could get in our hours or at times it would just keep raining, so most of us would make dashes during the lulls to go home. To keep from being bored I had started carrying books to read during the bad weather to kill time. Finding a private cornorer I got comfortable and started reading my book not paying attention to what the other workers were during. After about an hour or so I happened to look up, to my shock everyone had left; or so I thought. Gathering up my belongings I started to start my way home when I noticed a white boy all piled up sleeping on the packing crates, at first I ignored him as I thought just let him sleep he'll wake up sometime. Taking a closer look I noticed a pile of papers on the floor along with a Algebra book. Being a little curious or maybe just nosey I picked up the papers, noticing that they were all math test, I might add, most of them had with falling grades. Thinking the boy might need them I decided to wake him up so his papers wouldn't get scrattered in the rain and wind. Standing back slightly I kinda like you know checked him out, likie I mentioned earlier I was a young girl with a full charge of hormones running in by system, plus it gave me a chance to look at a white boy up close, lololo. Looking at him I noticed how well built he was, farm boy muscles not the kind the modern gym rats try to make. I could tell like most of the white boys, he seemed to never wear a shirt and his skin had a dark copper color, thinking I believe he's almost as brown as me. Looking at his face he had the good looks like you see in movies, it was then that remembered he was the boy we had seen earlier. Satisfied with my observations, stood back slightly and poked him with my finger, speaking at the same time, boy hey boy. He kinda raised up a bit and looked around then at me, or what he could see of me, the long sleeve shirt and the straw hat hiding most of my features. It at that point that I got a closer look at those blue eyes contrasted with that coal black hair. Yes my heart went thump/thump but still he was white boy, so I put those feeling aside. Finally he asked oh God what time is it, pointing to a clock hanging on a pole I replied 4 O'clock. Then he montioned toward the papers in my hands he asked were those his. will finish, Like mentioned earlier I won't tie up this site with a long dialogue. Love to all & God Bless Sarah/Scoff

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  13.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 10

    Is it just me, or does Eric style of writing, and rhetoric sound very, very familiar to anyone here besides myself? Eric you are way too OBVIOUS!!!! Also Eric, since you have an obvious disdain for Black American Women, I'm assuming your selection in women is anything but black american women, that being said, you have nothing to fear at all! You are safe, and exempt from any diseases, and all contempt, and ill-will from society due to your preferences in women! Last, according to the CDC and other sources there is another epidemic in the Black Community, that is detrimental, and plagues the black community as well, but for some reason it seems to be a great denial, and worse, no effort, nor committment to begin to tackle this epidemic, I wonder why?? How/Why do some of us think, that you can focus on one issue, while disregarding all issues? The floor is yours once again, and keeping to your familiar personality and your style(mindset and writing), I'll end this so you can hurry back, with your response and more posting, copying, and pasting from the CDC's website!!! EVIL HAS A WAY OF BACKFIRING ON YOU AND A PERSONS TRUE MOTIVES, ARE ALWAYS REVEALED, IT'S JUST A MATTER OF TIME!!!!!!!!

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  14.   RickHayes says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    PetiteChick,are you still around?

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  15.   RickHayes says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    If you are a black female Texan, IM me!

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  16.   RickHayes says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    Do we have an attractive Texas-living black woman in here?

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  17.   Member says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    P S Love to all & God Bless Scoff/Sarah

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  18.   lovecrazy says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    @dannyco56 doubt I'll ever change if so it will only be for the better as long as God loves with arms wide open so will I.:)

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  19.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    Bamba, YOU GOT A LIFE! Hope all is well with your family and I'm just glad you're ok - doing you and being "Bamba." Love ya!

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  20.   Scoff/Sarah says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    Good afternoon to everyone, I hope all are doing well. I was able to stay at the coast a few extra days this week and continue to get my place ready to move back. As an extra bonus I able to hang out with my best friend and concilar. We discussed reposting some of the events that led up to our current relationship, we really have no problem in doing so, with exception that we want everyone to understand that we are not two brave souls, we kept our relationship secert the whole time we were young. Please understand the times we lived in 1963-1966, rual Alabama, combined with the Civil Rights violence that was taking place in the larger cities. We truly feared for our safety if we were ever to be discovered, not to mention the shame and embarressment it could bring to our families. Things we were never brave enough to do, walk down the street togeather, go to the movie, share a milkshake at the Tastee Freeze. To the best of my knowledge I only spoke to Scoff one time in public and that was at the local IGA, very briefly as my sister was with me at the time. Still I think for those that haven't heard the whole saga I think you may find some humor as well as some wisdom to use when invovled with some one of a different culture. I know some will question were we in love YES as much as any 15 to 18 year young boy or girl could be, also probably a little lust also. lololo

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  21.   bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    Hey gurl, I'm good. I miss you guys too just been caught up in my own stuff. In the past few weeks I moved, went home for a family reunion and been busy with my freelancing junk not to mention another relative got sick over the holidays so it's been NUTS.

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  22.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    Bambaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa OMG I'm soooo glad to see you. Some fool sent me a flirt whose profile said that crap. See above. I immediately suspected Regina711 and came back to post to ask WTF she was! Ha! I couldn't believe it. If it was not Regina711 (I apologize). Just the tone of the post by this person was very suspect to me. You see what I posted. Some people are soooo dumb. Girl, I'm so glad to hear from you. Was wondering about fam and such. I closed down that Hotmail account and couldn't find your email addy and searched for you here. Oh my sister friend. GOD DON'T LIKE UGLY!!! My situation, I think maybe we all know who may have done it. C'mon now you know who I'm talking about but I wasn't trusting nobody! LOL. That's messed up. You back home? Fam ok? Missed you. I read and pop in here and I was like hold up, wait a minute (so many new peeps) where's my girl? Teeheee. Glad you're ok and got it worked out. *exxxxtra smooches* for my sister friend!!!

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  23.   bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    @PetiteChick how Miss Lady, how is it going? I saw your problem and the same thing happened to me but it was on Yahoo. I had my account broken into basically by a couple of guys who dislike me because I busted them for dissing full figured black women. These two "idiots" were into thin sistas which is nothing wrong with that, but at the expense of making fun of the big girls and when I busted them for it, they abused my account as well and used it to mess with me and posted wrong information about me. So I feel for you child. They say you should change your passwords every few months to keep it from being compromise. Oh and come to find out later that the two jerks who did it to me I think got busted by their wives. At least I know one of them did. See, God don't like ugly.

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  24.   bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    Hey Churlen, long time no talk. How is everyone doing? Haven't been around much because it's been quiet around here.lol I guess peace and harmony does actually work huh? Anyway, does anyone else watch Hawthrone with Jada Pickett Smith? IF you are looking for a good interracial story line and just a good show in general, watch Hawthrone on TNT. And for those of you who do watch the show, DID YOU SEE IT LAST WEEK?!? WoW

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  25.   dannyco56 says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    @All Good Moring! I hope that you all have a great day and a great week. I hope that some of te ladies and men who have posted here in a civil way are all doing well and that you are just enjoying time with a loved one. I do hope that you stop ad say hello so we will know you are well. @Nawlunzguy I read your response to darkchylde, who I think is LQ using an other handle or one of the other two who would disrupt the board. I think I referred to this post in an earlier post saying "Looks like LQ came back and paid us a visit on the 9th bless his heart." this was on the 11th of July. I agree with what you say especially how children do not pay attention to color or race which makes them a lot smarter than a lot of adults. It also leads me to believe that this is all learned between the times we are children and adult. Some are from experience but I believe the majority are probably a parent or both parents passing on their own racial prejudice. @lovecrazy I read your beautiful post on 12 July about how you grew up. You are a rare person with a strong belief of what is right and what is wrong and you have a pure heart. I hope that you never change and that you find the one that will love and cherish you endlessly. HAve to go get ready for work now. God Bless! Danny

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  26.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    Also, for anyone who may ever need to know this: When submitting a ticket of concern the date/time stamp will be set to the date/time of this site which is in a different time zone and not necessarily "your time" as in my case, late nite on the 11th (Eastern Time). Enjoy everyone!

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  27.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    Thank you Nawl! PLEASE TELL FRIENDLY I SAID TO GET MY FEDEX BOX GOING! I want the stuff she promised me months ago and the stuff from the 4th. Tell her to tell the Fedex man not to worry about the smell!! Blessings

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  28.   Nawlunzguy says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    @Petite - I should have been in less of a rush to dash off a few words. What I had meant to post was not intended to reflect that you were tense (although it was likely unsettling to learn your account was hi-jacked). I chose poorly in describing the situation which did, after reading my own words, seem to indicate you as the subject instead of the situation being the subject. My apologies. @lovecrazy. I seldom (almost never) use FB, but will do so if/when I log in. OK I need a good night's rest. The sun rises early and friendly expects me to finish her construction project and help her with homework. At least the Bar-B-Que is finger-licking good, Petite.

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  29.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    @Nawl @Petite - I did read the post you made pertaining to the compromised account. Beyond that, I had no additional details or knowledge of what led to such. And while not naive, I am a more recent poster and, as such, don’t know what transpired prior to my arrival here. Petite: That is precisely why I went so far as to explain - in detail just what had me so "tense" as you termed it. Further, it is the reason I explained just how one goes about getting assistance here in the second posting to you. To another point for which I hope all will recognize for what it is: It is not right to make others feel "obligated" to feel the way you do. We can have different view points and still remain friends. We can discuss issues of the day, hair, beauty, food and a host of other things whilst having different preferences for mates. I thought that was understood. I suppose it in hindsight it was not. When the cancer left, peace arrived on this board with people of like mind. That does not include me but it does not mean I care any less. Quite honestly, it is the very opposite. I only ask to be treated the way others would want to be treated. I go throughout this and other places where I can lend my voice for Black women! On any matter, at any time. I have been doing this for 7 years and I must not stop because of an interracial dating site. True friendship is accepting individuals for what they are, as I have done. Something I will continue to do because it is inherent in me to do so. I limit my discussions and input here because I want the individuals who feel similarly to be able to do that. That to me is out of respect. Yet it feels like the lack of my presence has gone the way of betrayal. This saddens me, I must say. But it is life. I am who I am - will NOT change and I lovemesomeme! I speak for myself and only myself! Blessings

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  30.   lovecrazy says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    @ nawlunzguy add me as a friend if you like!

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  31.   lovecrazy says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    wow..That is so true @ Nawlunzguy I agree with all that you have said what a way to look at it through the way children behave wonderful..... but how I grew up was something I wish I could change it was around all one race (mine)... as I got older the people I grew up around I noticed pin poiint color all the time as that 'white girl' or that 'white boy' or 'those white folks' or the way people dressed or talk..so shame to say I began to do the same thing for a while until I moved to MS I'd like to say this was the beginning of me my eyes were open for the better every race you could possibly think of lived around me needless to say I befriended them all and I learn to stop sterotyping I learned new cultures, new languages, a proper way of speaking, all sorts of stuff I cherish.. I started bringing them home and my parents would be like what's that white boy doin' here right in front of them it angered me in such a way I've learned something that the people who brought me up never did stop limiting yourself by making boundaries of what culture and what denomination of people can be in your life love all people as God loves... see with color blind eyes if I may.:) the sort of people who are agaainst this are in my life infact they play major roles I'm bracing myself for the day I become engaged then married for the many reactions and opinions of the choice I'll make want let the ignorance of other people limit me from loving whom ever I choose:) freely love all people..this is the life I chose...and iim lovin it.

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  32.   Nikkle says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    I’ve dated both black men and white men (to include Latin). What I have learned is that I like all races equally if they exhibit socio-cultural behavior to my liking and share my beliefs; any man and I can’t be in a healthy relationship if we possess extremely contradicting views and live opposing lifestyles. My male companion (Caucasian, Asian, middle eastern, black and anything else I left out) would have to accept me and respect me and not try to oppress my uniqueness. This would require self-love on his part and a desire to always improve himself because we all must work towards self-improvement and free ourselves from the destruction of hatred and envy. I once believed you could profile a man by his race and culture (you can to some extent) but there are way too many other variables that impact a person’s identity. A person’s beliefs (which may be very subjective) often dictates their behavior and does not appear in a vacuum. Someone planted those beliefs. Just like someone planted more dysfunctional beliefs into others regardless of their race or culture. There are physical attributes I gravitate towards, like we all do. I don’t get caught up in hair texture,eye color or skin color unless the person’s skin is an unnatural color, covered in boils or other strangeness like they are jaundiced (Hep C + or something). As long as their facial bone structure,eye & lip shape, teeth alignment, hygiene, level of health & fitness,body habitus, attention to grooming and demeanor resonates well with me, they pass the anthropological part of the test. Does this make me picky or does it mean I know what I want and have no qualms about going without if I can’t obtain it easily? When a man and I choose each other I hope that the man used a very similar selection process. I also hope he thinks I’m beautiful not because I’m of African descent but because I appealed to them on many levels. Dichroic Purple

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  33.   Blacky says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    Not sure how this works. Seeking help to understand why BW are so unpopular. I have never dated a WM man but find myself interested more and more. I don't know how to even express my feelings toward the ideal. I would love to meet a WM who is all the things I find in myself: strong, intuitive, savy, funny, courageous, fearless, affectionate, charming, and right hearted. BM find this things intimidating (in my mind), unless their mother embodies; which means no other woman can possess these qualties. How does this work? I am computer savy, but chatting, never have.

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  34.   Member says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 10

    I think we need to realize the people we are attracted to, regardless of race, is a reflection on us; it is our undoing. Have you not noticed you tend to date the same type of person over and over and if you happen to be attracted to a bad type you keep getting horns and tails with arrows.? Well, that is because you are picking up on some traits or vibes about that person that are familiar (humans love familiarity) Unfortunately those familiar things guarantee you will end up with someone exhibiting sinister behavior. If we first took responsibility for things that go wrong in our lives, reflect on our own behavior, realize what we are doing wrong,acknowledge how our thinking is wrong, we would learn that the common denominator in all of our unhappiness is us. That is why I stated we all need to continuously work on self-improvement. We should all work on developing a heightened self-awareness, social-awareness (in the spirit of getting along and not to pass judgment, nor to blame or stoke the flames of hatred). Don't embrace faulty logic, or hide behind denial. We all have been guilty of spending too much time denying to ourselves who we really are (periodically a monster) that we never make the needed changes. We can all change at any point in our lives. You can re-invent yourself and attract better quality people. But, it won't happen over night. I believe if I can do it, any one can. Before anyone asks, I still struggle but those crippling tendencies and way of thinking is considerably less a part of me.

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  35.   Nawlunzguy says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    Greetings one and all. @Petite - I did read the post you made pertaining to the compromised account. Beyond that, I had no additional details or knowledge of what led to such. And while not naive, I am a more recent poster and, as such, don't know what transpired prior to my arrival here. I wish to digress from the main topic of this post. Forgive me. This is partly due to Petite's recent incident, as well as, posts from those that have expressed an unwillingness (and even hatred in some cases) to be civil here. No one on this blog forces another to agree with the viewpoints expressed. It is a sharing of thoughts, ideas and opinions. It's a shame that after the many years womenkind/mankind has lived on this planet, it seems that some are still incapable of demonstrating compassion, acceptance, and tolerance. Is it truly so difficult to agree to disagree when our opinions differ? Why is it easy for some of us to embrace diversity while others harbor resentment and anger? Have you ever watched children at play? They don't see color, or practice avoidance because of cultural, political or religious differences. Everyone is alike in a child's eyes. Education and the ability to learn is subjective. Some of us learn more quickly or demonstrate skills or talents that are unique to that individual. No two beings are alike in that respect. And, isn't that a MARVEL? A wonderous thing? We each possess a personality that is distinct from our neighbor. Yes cultural and environmental forces shape such factors. But is "being human" not a common trait we all are capable of possessing? This leads me to my response to... @darkchylde - You have a right to your opinion(s) and expressing such. That's part of our inherent rights in this country. However, I will share mine: offering rhetoric that stereotypes is simply inaccurate. No one race or culture is ALL things in ALL people who stem from that race or culture. It simply isn't supported by facts. Further, making such inaccurate, ambiguous generalizations often prevents others from trusting what you say (or write) and very often cause a loss of respect for you. You may not care or be concerned; so be it. Instead of making false generalizations, why not simply share your experiences? There's nothing wrong with making comments that, based on actual experience, the bw you were involved with seemed more interested in your wallet than in you as a person. There are plenty of folks who are self-centered with motives that are self-serving. This would have opened the door for others to join in and relate having similar experiences. Others might refute the notion by offering opposing tales, and thus providing an indication that perhaps your experiences were not part of the "norm". It might have encouraged you to be open minded and receptive to the possibility to meet another bw for social or romantic reason. And then again, maybe not. OK enough Mike's soapbox. for the most part, I'm preaching to the choir. @lovecrazy - Yes I did ultimaely locate your FB profile under the name you furnished. Thanks. Signing off, I remain - Nawl

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  36.   dannyco56 says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    @Ms. PetiteChick I am not sure. I thought I would give it a few more days to let anyone else post a response if tey like. Probably Friday or Saturday. I hope that you have a great day. God Bless! Danny

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  37.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    @Dannyco Sir, when will you be revealing why you posed the question "what is the first thing you notice?"

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  38.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    Ooops Jenna darling I never saw you. That is awfully strange!

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  39.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    @ Dannyco Thanks for answering the question, you as well Jenna. I searched for Bambababe/bell to email her here. She doesn't exist under any of those handles. PEACE!!!

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  40.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    Well my email showed up anyways in one section, (above) y'all can feel free to write! If you do you gotta tell me what your handle is so I'll not to report it as SPAM. I had to create this new one after I closed the other one I had. That's one good thing about gmail. You can actually CLOSE an account as though it never existed. Can't do that with other internet based email providers at least not to my knowledge.

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  41.   Jenna says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    @Dannyco56 I hope so too, hope they check in soon Danny!

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  42.   dannyco56 says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    @Ms. PetiteChick and Jenna I have not seen a post by Bamababe2k9 or bamabelle2k9. I also have not seen a post by MzBrOwNsUgAr either. I hope that it is because they have found someone who is occupying their time and not something else. @bamababe, Bamabelle, and MzBrOwNsUgAr bamababe, bamabelle, and MzBrOwNsUgAr please stop in and say hello. God Bless! Danny

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  43.   dannyco56 says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    @Edward Welcome to the board. I missed your post back on the 6th of July. I Hope that you are still reading the board. Interracial dating between BW and WM has not been to common ad one of the reasons could be the negative responses. I think as it becomes more common the more the negative responses will start to go away. At least I am hopeful. God Bless! Danny

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  44.   Jenna says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    I meant to say I have not seen her! Typo sorry!

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  45.   Jenna says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    I hope so too! I have seen Bama at all!

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  46.   dannyco56 says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    @emi009 Welcome to the board sorry I missed you. See that you posted 7 July hope that you are still reading the board. All relationships have there ups and downs. What matters is how you work through them. It is great to hear about you and yor family ad hope that yo both grow closer and your love stronger. I hope to read more posts from you in the future. God Bless! Danny

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  47.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    Jenna: Would you happen to know where Bamba is? I hope she's kool yanno?

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  48.   Jenna says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    @PetitChick I don't know how I did not show up, I was there ,I hope it was your account for sure lol! Now you have me doubting where I was!

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  49.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    Jenna: How is that you were able to view my profile and you don't show up as someone who has viewed me? I hope you are viewing PetiteChick! Nawl, I did state that my account had been compromised. Someone created an account with my likeness. Don't you see the person right here as S.Shelly? Anyway it was reported to the site and from what I can tell it has been removed. Thank God! Need anything else Nawl? I guess I'll never get an answer about Bambababe. I actually searched her to email her, I tend to do this from time to time as I have done with friendly here. Wanted to see what was shaking and she is no longer on the site or is she? Maybe I'm typing wrong. Just wondering yanno.

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  50.   lovecrazy says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 10

    yeah them southern boys I love em':)) that charm... ah sweeps me off my feet @ nawlunzguy..haha yeah I know its wild did you find me?

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