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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   rov777 says:
    Posted: 20 Mar 11

    michael from england

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  2.   rov777 says:
    Posted: 20 Mar 11

    white black, wot does it matter, as long as u love the person thats wot counts, ps, womenof maputo are stunning, its there eyes, i love them xxx

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  3.   oluchi007 says:
    Posted: 20 Mar 11

    i have not dated a white man before, but many of my friends got married to white men and they are happy, so i learn from them that white men are more careing to there women than black and again they are honest so am here to find him and i will be so so proud to have him in my life.

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    • Dannyco56 says:
      Posted: 21 Mar 11

      @oluchi007 All races have men that are good, caring and honest and they all have men who are not good, caring or honest. I hope that you find the man the completes you and who will love you endlessly!

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  4.   CeeeKay says:
    Posted: 20 Mar 11

    TBH- it is easier to tell oneself to try a different race, just as one would say; 'I am going to go out with a man who goes to church this time because I am sick of....' So by the same logic (though not the most perfect logic) one would say ; 'I'm going to date a white/ Asian/ other race...Martian because they will be better than this ....' So it is not so much about stereotypes as it is about , well, HOPE really. I don't want to think that my 'hope' is necessarily a white man on an equally white horse etc...but I have toyed with the idea that the devil I don't know might be a tad better than the devil I have known up till now :) :)

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  5.   justsaying says:
    Posted: 20 Mar 11

    There are various reasons why. If a black woman feels like white me just want them sexually then just don't talk to them. On all these"why white men love black women" blogs all over the net, white men say the same thing over and over, and over again, so black women should already get it. It shouldn't matter what all people think, just only the one you're with.

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  6.   1honeybunny says:
    Posted: 20 Mar 11

    I just signed up tonight into this site hoping to meet a man who will not judge me based on my looks. For years I have always wanted to date outside of my race preferablly a white man, except I have never been approached. I just asumed my looks were not what a white man wanted. It's my preference to date a white man, but in these regions (Wisconsin) it's mostly black men with white women. I guess I my looks are not what is the white man wants? But I'm hopeful. I've been a widow for several years and I'm ready to start over. I hope this is the site for me now, I'll just have to wait and see.

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    • Dannyco56 says:
      Posted: 21 Mar 11

      1honebunny It is not your looks you are a beautiful young woman! I am not sure why you have never been approached but do not give up. If you notice a white guy checking you out just smile, he is interested or he would not be cecking you out. Some guys are pretty slow when it comes to beautiful young ladies. We almost have to be hit over the head. Men suffer from probably the same thoughts as women do we sometimes are unsure of ourselves and think abeautiful woman could not be attracted to us and we talk ourselves out of making the first move that could be the one we are looking for that completes us.

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    • eddyready/bigten says:
      Posted: 26 Mar 11

      @1HoneyBunny: You need to come to Greenville Kentucky,there is a white guy that lives there that thinks you are the bomb ! Why don't you message me and let's find out more about each other ! Bye,pretty lady ! EddyReady/BigTen cares !

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  7.   SARAD says:
    Posted: 18 Mar 11

    Any man who knows how to treat, respect and be kind to any woman, he is a man to any woman no matter the race or skin color. If a man is an asshole he would be to all women. Even if he prefers whites, or black or asian, it is in him. he mite try and be good to his preference but how long wil it last coz it's not his nature to be kind, gentle and respectful to women. I've heard a man say oh my fiancee is light skinned and she has no lots of baggage like you black women. " i'm mixed but more of dark skin(brown)" when he and i share the same shade he isn't black as in race. i said coz she is dumb to see what kind of a guy u r if u have no respect to women bcoz of their color, the issue is not their color it's you(him) wit all women. he just doesn't know it. Seen him with his mum and sister, he is a man with his genitals but not a MAN.

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  8.   Ebonygeek says:
    Posted: 17 Mar 11

    Btw, White men do not love Black women in the common sense of the work "love". This is rhetoric. What seems to be true is that white men love having sex with Black women, but marriage or a deep relationship is still reserved for their white counter parts. Theres nothing wrong with this. But, as a Black woman just remember your odds to a deep relationship or marriage is cut in half when you date outside your race. If you don't believe me...check out the stats.

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    • blackheart89 says:
      Posted: 18 Mar 11

      if i can say its hard to be with a white man becose lot of white people think they are something more and they are diffrent (thats my point of wiew).like me from my all life i heard like black people and asian are bad and we are good simply your family are racist your friends are racist.in my life i said wery horrible things on other races even been a skinhead for while but alwas seen black women attractive to me more than white.i was living in europe but i leave my country my family and my friends and start a new life.so for me its no hard to accept that black womens are attractive to me but try to date them.if my family wold see me or know that im with black women they will maybe reject me or will dont talk to me.i just want to say that if i have girl outside a race i wil take her like a normal women but somethimes you just dont realize you said something bad becose from childhood you always listen how you are better.everybody is diffrent so i dont now like others..for me its worth to try and i dont care what my family or friends say i go with my heart so somethimes like in my case its hard for white too.at least i have a fun how they will be telling me that im a betrayer of race :D ps:sorry for my gram still have problems with some words

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    • Dannyco56 says:
      Posted: 21 Mar 11

      I think there are men and women that do not know what love is or what it feels like to love another person. But I think that there are a whole lot more men and women that do know and have known the feeling of loving another human being. I do not think it makes any difference what race or the color of the skin. As far as the common sense of the word "love" if two people understand that when they marry they become one. If you love someone enough to marry them you should be ready to give your life for your mate. There should be a burning in your heart when you are apart. Some who have been married for many many years and lose their husband or wife describe the loss of their loved one as an emptyness in their lives.

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    • HollyM says:
      Posted: 22 Mar 11

      Not sure I agree. My girlfriend is black and married a Norwegian man who flew back and forth to America to be with her for 2 years. In fact they both traveled together and spent time with each other's families. They have a son and are very in love. Love takes work regardless of ethnicity. And yes there are men as you described who may just want to be with black women for sex. Just as there are men who want a meaninful relationship.

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    • belle10 says:
      Posted: 26 Mar 11

      Wow... I can't help but notice the strong disapproval of IR dating in all of Ebonygeek's comments. I don't know where you get your "stats" from, but I personally know WM who have been happily married for years to BW and this has totally nothing to do with their skin color... they found true love, something that human beings can find among fellow human beings (we all are, regardless of our skin color). When people say they "don't see color," it is usually in a figurative sense, all they are trying to say is that the color of the other person does not matter to them. Even though they can of course see the superficial color, what they are trying to say is that they see that person for who they are, so I really don't get it when people get so upset about it. On the other hand, some BW here say that they have always been attracted to WM, just like some WM here say they have always been attracted to BW. That is great, I just hope that at some point it becomes not just the outward appearance which is superficial, but that you are able to go deeper in knowing the other person because happy, long-lasting relationships are made possible by the inner person more than the outward appearance, which as we all know may fade over time.

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    • eddyready/bigten says:
      Posted: 26 Mar 11

      @EbonyGeek Say what ! You must be lost ! I want to see these stats if there really are any.They must be in the fiction department at the bookstore ! EddyReady/BigTen

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    • EddyReady/BigTen says:
      Posted: 27 Mar 11

      @EbonyGeek Say what ! You must be lost ! I want to see these stats if there really are any.They must be in the fiction department at the bookstore ! EddyReady/BigTen cares !

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  9.   Ebonygeek says:
    Posted: 17 Mar 11

    Tis is pitiful. Black women chasing after white men with the illusion that it will make them happy. Please don't feed me the "color blind" rap because, most of the time, it's not true. There is no valid reason for anyone to date outside their race all the time. There is just as much quality inside yur own race as there is outside your race. The fact that black men and women come in so many shades and cultures even makes it even more ridiculous.

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    • rachybaby says:
      Posted: 19 Mar 11

      I agree with you Ebonygeek...I absolutely date outside of my ethnicity (as well as within my ethnicity), but not because I think the "other" is better, or will validate me, or anything else. I hate the kumbaya "colour blind" rap myself. I'll date a white man - or any man - for the same reason I'll date a black man: because I happen to like certain aspects of said man.

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    • Dannyco56 says:
      Posted: 21 Mar 11

      It is about attraction and love! I do not think any of the ladies that have posted on here need to run after any man white or any other shade. Before two people can fall in love they have to be attracted to one another. For a long time white men were not even on the list of possible dates to these beutiful women. I do not think you need to worry though, it isnot like all women are attracted to white men. Love can develope between two people of any race if they take the time to get to know each other.

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  10.   951HONEY says:
    Posted: 15 Mar 11

    JW, Thank you for that comment. I am just being honest and hope the right man understands that like them we fear rejection. We are prepared to take it from our own because we are trained for it. When we really are attracted to someone that rejection is really hard. We want to be defined for more than just our looks but by what we bring to the relationship. We all have to step out and put ourselves out there. I am sure that my man it out there he will not be perfect but he will be just right for me.

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  11.   EarthAngel3 says:
    Posted: 15 Mar 11

    @yoyo1977and jw I do understand your argument when you are w/your man you don't want to hear you are my jungle bunny. WTF. i am a woman saying something beautiful will win pts; bringing stereotypes and negative racial comments into it, turns him from boo to what was I thinking; he is history, it dramatically alters a hot, yes moment into a cold, so not going to get any now moment. So white men, asian men, etc...if those words conjure sexy vixen it represents the total opposite to most black women, you just turned a sexy hot moment to something taboo and ugly. if you can't shake those words then keep it in your head NEVER let us hear them, bc we don't think it sexy. In fact, all it does for you is give us a reason to issue your walking papers; it is over! *Warning: Eventhough negativity is claimed by ones perception, you btr know her well and the company she keeps b4 springing this out in the open. It safer not to go there, it is just not cool men even if she is cool w/it someone in public may not be- You understand?

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  12.   EarthAngel3 says:
    Posted: 15 Mar 11

    @951Honey me too! i can remember back to my elementary school days the attraction was extremely strong, I usually met these cuties as a passerby on field trips, and longer encounters during summer breaks. To make a long story short , 10yrs ago I taken my mom to ER and there I met a kind, highly intelligent man- 4th of July sparks immediately. I have not felt that way in long time. Bc I became nervous and unsure of this attraction and what he would do with it. I included my mom in our conversation, what a mistake! After he gave my mom the okay to go home, he asked her for permission to date me, she told him NO! NO, I was totally shock, what does she mean NO........I so shock that I thought I misinterpret what was said, Yeah, I was sure the whole thing didn't occur. I was walking away from him although I knew corrections were in order, but did I here right, I had to confirm w/my mom, so in a daze I walked away from him. My actions were in total opposite of how I was feeling. I told myself I will walk back in apologize for my mom's behavior and say yes, but after speaking with my mom to confirm what happen. She did confirm what I thought I heard, but she added: HE DON'T WANT YOU! Then I drove away, thinking maybe she is right. no she is not right, but maybe there is a chance she is right.. I continue to relive those events, it is a very sad thing! I hope he is happily married w/children, bc I am so unhappy;( 2

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    • Dannyco56 says:
      Posted: 22 Mar 11

      @EarthAngel3 I am sorry to hear your story and sorry that you are so unhappy. But do not blame yourself because he could have pursued you and he apparently did not. But do not give up on love! I hope that you find a man that will give you his heart and all of his love! God Bless!

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  13.   jw says:
    Posted: 14 Mar 11

    lol 951 honey i can relate to what you are saying on the male side, casue i truely find blk women more intresting than white women, and by the way you are a pretty woman amd should have no problem finding a white guy

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  14.   951HONEY says:
    Posted: 13 Mar 11

    Heck I was fighting my attraction to white men for a long while. I thought that dating a lighter skinned black man would take the feeling away. I was just denying myself and what I really wanted. There is nothing wrong with black man but I know what I like and desire and that is probably how a white man feels. Go with what makes you happy and forget about what other people think. Thank God for that reality check(LOL)

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  15.   jw says:
    Posted: 13 Mar 11

    joanna2 LOl you go i think you said it perfectly and may God grant you your desire hun

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  16.   yoyo1977 says:
    Posted: 13 Mar 11

    I love all men and didn't want to offend anyone. I love white men but just wanted them to know how some black women feel..they just want to be treated like any other women. I am not the only one that feels that way..many of my black girlfriends that date white guys feel the same way. I am 34 years old..and have had bad relationships and a very troubled childhood...believe me at this age I know exactly what I want out of a relationship and in life. Lol..it took me a long time to get there..but I am here...like all of us..who have had bad relationships. I am happy who am today..being young can be hard..but I won't change a thing...wisdom grows with age..and I believe that is a true gift. To all of those lucky people who have found true love with right person..you are truly blessed..and pray for us who are still searching....

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    • Dannyco56 says:
      Posted: 22 Mar 11

      @yoyo He is out there but he may not be white you just have to know him when he comes along! Don't give up on love! God Bless!

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    • eddyready/bigten says:
      Posted: 26 Mar 11

      @YoYo1977 Honey,what you said just now took a lot of courage ! You just keep looking straight ahead and your wisdom will continue to grow.I will pray that you find what you are searching for,princess and you please do the same for me ! EddyReady/BigTen cares !

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  17.   joanna2 says:
    Posted: 12 Mar 11

    Whether a white man loves a black woman or vice versa, the point still remains - Love is Colour blind. God made us the same way but in different shades................. I am not sorry to be attracted to white men, i have always been since the age of 12, so i aint changing my mind and i really don't care whether anyone likes the idea or not ........................... am on this website in search of my Solomon who will make me his queen - Sheba!!!!!

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    • Dannyco56 says:
      Posted: 22 Mar 11

      @joanna It does not matter what others think! What matters is what you think and if you find someone who will love you with all of their heart and will make you happy and make you his Queen that is the important thing. I hope that you and every woman on this site finds the man that completes them and who will love them endlessly! God Bless!

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  18.   cookie8000 says:
    Posted: 11 Mar 11

    I have have never date out side my race, but has always been attracted to white man. I don't see any thing wrong with interracial relationship, I have three brother that are married to white women and they have had successful marriages.. I just hope that I will be able to find or he find me that will be attracted too me mentally and emotionally and be happy.

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  19.   yoyo1977 says:
    Posted: 11 Mar 11

    I have had negative experiences with black men and white men. I love all races of men it never truly mattered to me. The only problem I have with white men is being an experiment. I HATE that..they always say color doesn't matter..and then I either hear something negative in the bedroom..I think you can fill in the blanks..a constant reference to my color or my build. I just want to be treated like a woman. I don't prefer the kinky stereotype names. And the fact that they can't stand up for what they believe in..and don't cave into pressure from family and friends. Like I said before I love all men..and no man is perfect..neither is every women. I will be happy when one day I can be with someone outside my race..and not notice any stares or comments..maybe someday.

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    • jw says:
      Posted: 11 Mar 11

      1st of all the is nothing wrong with a man talking about your race, as long as it is in moderation, as long as it isnt the main topic, you should be happy and excited that he feels and thinks this way. Same as a blk woman who thinks a white guy i awesome, and as far as perfect goes, lol lady men are victims from womens harmone change, and there sure is no such thing as a perfect woman they are flawed from the word go. And this isnt a race issue this is a female harmone imbalance issue

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      • yoyo1977 says:
        Posted: 11 Mar 11

        Hi, I'm not on here to argue with anyone, but you seem to have issues with women or didn't read my statement correctly. I don't believe if a white man is with a white women she refers to her color excessively or when I date a black man, I've never heard him say anything but what he wants and feels about me as a woman. I am a Woman first..and will treat a man the same way..and I have..not that I have been treated respectively back. I believe there are women with issues and men with issues..never said women were perfect. And honey I don't have an hormone balance...I perfer a man to just treat me like any woman of any race..and not dwell on it, because when it comes down to it we all are the same, right? And that is why we all are on this site..to date with no color in mind. We all just want true love. If there is a black women who likes that , then that is her opinion, but I believe a lot would agree with me on that issue.

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        • lin says:
          Posted: 16 Mar 11

          I agree with you on this issue and have experienced it myself. I dated both white and black men and there has at times been that problem where the white guy would seem so open and natural and then make comments in bed like you said concerning my figure or my skin color like I was some exotic ANIMAL. And that's exactly how I sometimes felt, like an exotic animal, like he didn't truly just think of me as a woman but as a BLACK woman. For me, I am a woman first and black/african american is like an after thought, it should not be the main focus for these men that I meet, but it sometimes is. Anyway, not to make this response too long, I know exactly where you're coming from. And I could care less for the guy who is trying to argue his point. He is a male first of all, and white second of all, so I don't really think he has any basis to speak on what you've experienced in your personal relationships when he has no idea what you're even talking about. Other black females would know and agree.

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        • eddyready/bigten says:
          Posted: 26 Mar 11

          @YoYo1977 I understand where you are coming from and you are right.A women is a women no matter what ! Take care,baby girl ! EddyReady/BigTen cares !

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        • eddyready/bigten says:
          Posted: 26 Mar 11

          @Lin I agree with what both you ladie's are saying.You are looking at it the right way.I've liked and been with black ladies's most of my life and have never or never would look at you sweethearts that way. EddyReady/BIGten cares !

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    • jw says:
      Posted: 12 Mar 11

      lady sounds as if you have issues concerning men in general, and you do have issues wih men you say no man is perfect and not ever woman is, the only perfect person in history is jesus christ. I wont argue with you and i will not respond back to any further statements you make . Do you even know what you want

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    • justkarolyn says:
      Posted: 16 Mar 11

      Omg, I know what you mean..."I've never been with a black girl before" or stuff like that. I'm soooo sick of being viewed as like a fantasy girl or some kind of fetish...annoying

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      • eddyready/bigten says:
        Posted: 26 Mar 11

        @JustKarolyn I'm sorry if some off us white men act that way with you ladie's.They must be very green behind the ears at dating out side their race.Maybe they will get better in time ? I look at you as a very beautiful woman with a classy and nice look about you ! EddyReady/BigTen cares !

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    • Ebonygeek says:
      Posted: 17 Mar 11

      What you have to realize is that white men see race more than any other race with the exception of Asian. If you want to continue to be an experiment , then keep doing what youre doing.

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      • Dannyco56 says:
        Posted: 22 Mar 11

        @Ebonygeek, I am not sure what you are alluding to when you say"white men see race more than any other race". Did you not just use race? It is not so much that you notice a difference in people but more about how you treat people that are different than you. We should treat all people with the respect that we would like to receive, but many do not. I will agree that it seems to be more prevalent in the white race but all races have their racists. Hopefullly they will become fewer! God Bless!

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      • EddyReady/BigTen says:
        Posted: 28 Mar 11

        @EbonyGeek Thank you for educating me on how the white man looks at things ! That was so kind of you. EddyReady/BigTen

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    • Dannyco56 says:
      Posted: 22 Mar 11

      @yoyo I hope hope that day comes sooner rather than later! I also hope that you find a man that will treat you like the keeper of his heart, because he should give you his heart and should love you more than his own life. God Bless!

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  20.   julius says:
    Posted: 09 Mar 11

    Dear redryder44 Do you have white female relatives,a mother, sisters, daugthers, aunts; are they less loving because they are white women, do your female relatives all have hidden agendas. Basically what iam trying to say is, just because you and your white friends have not met a genuine white woman does not mean they are not out there. They are but you just have not met them yet, Believe me i know of plenty of black men who complain about black women and also black women who complain about black men. iam sure white men and white women are the same. To sum it all up quality has no colour and love has no colour; never say one colour love better than another, that insults your own. Remember the females in your family.

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  21.   redryder44 says:
    Posted: 07 Mar 11

    Again to AMOURMOR- different handle, but same man. It isn't easy to approach a black woman for me--I'm not a male model, and not young. I DO have a loving heart, and most white women seem to have their own agenda without regard to a man's feelings. I've had white guys tell me that the black women that they knew were far more loving than anyone they knew.

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    • jw says:
      Posted: 09 Mar 11

      I am a 55 yr old white male, divorced and have been attracted to black women since i was 13 yrs old.I find black women far more intresting that white women.At least to me Black Women as a whole is far more loving, caring, and home bound than a white woman. I am currently in a romantic relationship with a truely beautiful black woman.

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  22.   slowhand says:
    Posted: 07 Mar 11

    This to AMOURMOR74--I would DEFINITELY treat you with respect--I was raised to be a gentleman and respect ALL women! Don't have time for guys who mistreat women--and I like being treated with love and respect as I treat a woman too! There are too many men who don't deserve the woman they have because of how they treat them!

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  23.   veryberry22 says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 11

    life is truly to short not to be happy with the one you love regardless of their race.

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  24.   AMOURMOR74 says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 11

    It takes a lot of brain cells to sift through the color of the skin and what goes with it.[steriotype] I mean. Just tell me if this man is going to treat with respect as I will treat him.

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  25.   slowhand says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 11

    I'm a 67 year old man and have been attracted to black women since I was in my early 20's. Where I lived, there were none, but the photos I saw drew me as they were beautiful--not because they were black women, but because they were BEAUTIFUL AND SEXY WOMEN!! I wanted to marry a black woman then, but at that time it wasn't the cool thing---now I still do, but I'm not too many women's choice. The two black women I met were very sweet ladies, but weren't available. They treated me royally as a friend--wish one of them had been free!

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  26.   HollyM says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 11

    The way the dating scene is these days, the more open people are to finding a good person (regardness of ethnicity), the better. Period. Best of luck to everyone!

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  27.   Winnimz says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 11

    I think everyone has the right to love whoever they feel attracted to. Love has no boundaries. For me, dating a guy of a different race aint a problem koz i look into someones personality and how they present themselves. I feel attracted to white men than black men and am hopinf to find the guy of my dreams.

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  28.   XALA says:
    Posted: 25 Feb 11

    White Guys tend to be a little more sexual and romantically creative than most black guys and Black-woman are a little more equipped to accommodate this creativity, this being in the sense of a little more submissive, and tend to hold more values of male superiority than most white women. If u look at little deeper ud kinda understand the fit, its like a near perfect match. Not sure of the reverse though

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    • Dannyco56 says:
      Posted: 22 Mar 11

      @XALA I do not agree at all with your premise that Black women are more submissive and I don't think they are attracted to white men because they hold more values of male superiority. There may be a few black women who feel that way but I do not believe that to be the majority. I think it is more that they are looking for equality and respect from any man they may date or marry! I think most are looking for commitment in a relationship as well as honesty.

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    • eddyready/bigten says:
      Posted: 26 Mar 11

      @Xala Honey,i like what you said.Every word of it is true 100% ! You really know your white men,cool ! EddyReady/BigTen cares !

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      • Diani7 says:
        Posted: 01 Apr 11

        I know what Dannyco56 said is "politically correct," but as a black woman dating a white man-In my case-what XALA says is pretty much correct. Now the "male superiority" thing-hell no. Neither sex is "superior." But the kind and level of respect I give to a man is sort of how XALA described. And it's sacred. When me and the guy I'm dating were just sleeping together, he actually told me that he thought I was too "submissive." Or too "compliant." As a person. Whaat??? I thought. Because we liked each other and there was great chemistry, that was the roles we naturally played-like the way XALA described. When we got to know each other, and our relationship grew outside the bedroom, he saw that that is NOT exactly the case. Not at all, really... Personally, I have a quiet strength. I'm cool, but I don't take no s---. A man has to earn my respect. And this is not ego or a conscious decision for me. It's natural. Automatic. So... If he can make me like giving him the allowance of assuming the traditional male role in my life, than he gets it. It's automatic. And I want him to be there. And that kind of respect for a man, to me, is sacred. And that being "sacred" to me-on the other side of the coin, to me, there's nothing worse that a sorry ass man. No respect. I have high standards.

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  29.   chrishibbert says:
    Posted: 25 Feb 11

    I just find their attitude and looks intriguing and attractive, those big brown eyes are to die for!

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    • Ebonygeek says:
      Posted: 17 Mar 11

      If the first thing you think about is Viagra, when you see a black woman. I feel sorry for the black women you date or screw.

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  30.   951HONEY says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 11

    I think that people should be able to date who they like and who they are attracted. I love men and the color does not matter. Since my family has embraced the fact that race is not an issue I not feel like I have to date people who only look like me. I love all types of music just like I love all types of people. Hey all people want in life is to be with their soul mate and that is all that matters to me.

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    • Dannyco56 says:
      Posted: 24 Feb 11

      I agree with you! People should be able to date who they like ad who they are attrated to and I think that is happening more now. I think skin color was more a taboo in the past but I see that changing and I think for the better. Love has no boundaries! We just need to be open to getting to know one another.

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  31.   RoVeL999 says:
    Posted: 17 Feb 11

    I have no problems with dating a girl of a different race. To be honest I have had crushes on girls of several different ethnicities and never thought about it like: "Oh hey, I have a crush on someone of a different race". It should not matter and it does not for me. If a girl just has that spark in their eyes when they smile and makes me feel happy, then I want to know that girl better regardless of her skin color. Hope to meet a girl like that one day.

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  32.   Dannyco56 says:
    Posted: 15 Feb 11

    Thought I would drop by and see how this thread is doing and to say hello to friendly13 and all of the others from August 2008 through now. It is good to see there are new voices supporting love between a man and woman with different skin color. Love will blossom if given a chance. God Bless! Danny

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  33.   Arimah says:
    Posted: 14 Feb 11

    I have no problems dating outside of my race. My preference is a man that is good for me. I don't look at the race I look at the character and type of man he is.

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  34.   EddyReady/BigTen says:
    Posted: 13 Feb 11

    @Sexymaxi35 Cool,liked your profile,you look very sweet ! Take care,baby girl ! EddyReady/BigTen cares!

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  35.   sexymaxi35 says:
    Posted: 11 Feb 11

    I am ready and waiting to meet the man of my dreams, and to make all my fantasy come true with a white guy that is.

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  36.   Shawn76 says:
    Posted: 11 Feb 11

    I've been with a black woman since Oct of last year. It was hard for me at first since it's the first time I dated outside my race,but our relationship has really grown in a short time. We both have kids from previous relationships and they are fine with how things are and get along just fine. I didn't set out to find a back woman and we met by luck I suppose and things went from there. I never really thought about dating outside my race since I'd never done it before but never ruled it out either,just didn't think of it. I'm glad I have gotten to know my girlfriend as well as I have and I'll say that she has been one of the better women I have ever dated. My family was not so keen to the idea but they know if I me and my kids are happy,then what they say really doesn't weigh to heavy on my mind. They'll either like it or stay away. Something I do get kind of a kick out of is people who make comments about us in public as if we were deaf.I've called a few out and asked them to speak up and talk a little louder so everyone can see how big of an ass they are making themselves look like. Around here,there are not to many wm/bf relationships but many bm/wf ones. If something were to happen to our relationship,I'd likely look for another black woman. They just seem to take things more serious then white women do.

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  37.   Keke1212 says:
    Posted: 04 Feb 11

    I personally love all men but because I went to school with all white males my entire life they just seem to have a bigger affect on me! How knows why!!

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  38.   Hotlizie1 says:
    Posted: 01 Feb 11

    I have dated black men most of my life, because where I grew up I was taught that's just what u did as a black women and did not dare go outside ur race to find love or a good relationship. Now that I am wiser and more knowledgeable I realize that love comes in all colors, shapes and sizes and I'm not afraid to step outside the ritual that I was taught that only black women should date black men. Since then I have moved to a place where interracial relationships flourish, especially with black men being with white women and when I first moved to this place seeing all the black men with white women I thought something was wrong with me, I thought maybe I was ugly or too dark and actually developed a complex. I had to learn that it wasn't any of that because I have been told that I am a beautiful dark chocolate woman, with a great sense of humor a good heart beautiful attitude and awesome body. As I've lived in this place 11 years I have noticed that the type of black men that these white women are with, strong independent beautiful black women will not have them. They r rejects. Also the black men here are very intimidated by independent black women but I refuse to step down a notch for any of them. Most if not all of my white girlfriends have been mistreated financially, emotionally and mentally sucked dry by these black men. I have dated a few white men and I'm luvin it!!! They treat me like the woman that God made me to be and my mother raised me to be. They r better listeners, not cheap and always so needy. They r not egotisic and are always complimenting me and appreciating me. That's the type of man I want and need, and I in return compliment him. The white men I have dated are more open and honest than black men. There has never been anything superficial or fake about my relationships with the white men that I attract. They love that spice that I have and am more than willng to share with them.I will always speak to my black brothers and treat them with respect when they do the same for me but I figure if they can step outside the color line, why should we as black women short ourselves out of love, good companionship and happiness by waiting on that man of our same race that may never come because he's too busy chasing women of other races. I have black girlfriends like that who r so lonely and unhappy waiting on their black knight in shining armour. Whereas here I am dating outside my race and opening myself up to happiness , oblivious to skin color and having the best, sexiest, most sensual time of my life!! I tell 'em ... sista's betta get wit the program cause the brothers sure have no problem ignoring us.

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  39.   ChocolatLadi says:
    Posted: 29 Jan 11

    Congrats to you Friendly13, Good Luck to you and your Man:)

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  40.   kissime says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 11

    Hi Sarah, thank you for keeping us in mind. I hope you two love birds have a great Valentine's day. I'm sure you & Scoff ,.♥., express your love for each other every day...but theirs just something special about Valentine's day...Rose Petal Bath to enhance a beautiful morning. Unfortunately for me, Cupid's fickle self, has not shot me with his bow to inspire romantic love. So celebrating Valentine's day is foreign to me-I've even boycotted love movies...HA!! I think I'm going to buy a PIÑATA & beat it that day (joking) : /

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  41.   Scoff/Sarah says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 11

    Thank You Ms. Chocolatl: Again I'm flattered that you took the time to find that last post. I hope all is well with all our friends as we get through this winter, and await the Spring, to all of you love birds don't forget Valentines Day, just a card or a little not can mean so much. Recently I came across one of the best books I had ever read about dating white men, I highly recommend it, of course you can read it on line, (at least the introduction) (free) Karyn Langhorne Folan a Black Southern Lady from Jacksonville,Florida. OH OH and the Title Don't Bring Home a White Boy. Ladies this is a must read, I'm not into pushing books but this touches on so much of what we discuss on our blog. Well some updates on us we have found an interracial church we now attend together, “that is” one that we feel completely welcome as well as comfortable. I know that sounds weird, but I can't really explain all of it, the preacher is white man (a retired Army Chaplain) and is just a lovable fellow. Love and God Bless All Sarah & Scoff

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  42.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 11

    @ amonteiro You tell the truth sista.

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  43.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 11

    @ Empress26 I apologize for the error. @ all I wanted to share that I finally met my love on the site. He really loves me and I him. We have been dating since November and he is certainly a quality man. He goes the extra mile to let me know that his intentions are sincere. I love being made to feel like a queen. So for all of you sisters who are looking for your "White man who love the black women" they really do. He lavishes me with attention like I have never had before. He even offers to pay for the sitter. When we go out he doesn't pay the haters any attention because he is happy to be out with me. Because of this it is as though they don't even exist. He takes me to really nice places and is very thoughtful. So sisters, don't ever let anyone make us think we are not worthy and that it could never happen because it is not true. I will say that I did take my time and had a lot of fun blogging and dating on the site. But I am moving on because he keeps me so busy a long with my other daily activities. So ya'll be encouraged.

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    • kissime says:
      Posted: 26 Jan 11

      friendly13, ~I'm so happy for you. Congratulations to you both~ ,.♥., ,.♥., You deserve the best,.♥., ,.♥.,

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    • EDDYREADY/BIGTEN says:
      Posted: 27 Jan 11

      @Friendly13 Way to go,i'm happy for you too! Yes,move on and enjoy!!! EddyReady/BigTen cares!

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    • Empress26 says:
      Posted: 29 Jan 11

      Friendly am happy for you and your love now hold on to your man girl and don't let no one try to steal your joy you deserve happiness...

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  44.   amonteiro says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 11

    I believe that racism was a construct devised to separate people into categories. We are divided economically, politically and spiritually. Love is love no matter who it is or what it looks like.

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    • EDDYREADY/BIGTEN says:
      Posted: 27 Jan 11

      @Amonteiro You are so right dear,love is love and nobody can change the affairs of the heart.Love cross all battle lines! Take care! EddyReady/BigTen cares!

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  45.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 11

    @ express26 Amen.....you speak the truth.

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    • Empress26 says:
      Posted: 24 Jan 11

      Hey Friendly it's empress 26 lol.... and not express 26, thank you my dear. Let the love flow

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  46.   nafahamu says:
    Posted: 20 Jan 11

    Why do white men love black women..... That's like asking why men like women or why some men prefer blondes etc. You can't pigeon hole it, but I'm sure it's the same reason why black men like black women, they're simply beautiful.

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  47.   ChocolatLadi says:
    Posted: 20 Jan 11

    God Bless you All, it a good thing to have friends on a Blog:)

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  48.   ChocolatLadi says:
    Posted: 20 Jan 11

    Hi Sarah and Scoff I finally located your Story, and it was wonderful. It was a job to locate each post but I found it from the beginning and it was so enjoyable. I'm so glad you had so much support from the Kings and the Queens on this site to complete it. You 2 kept me going for a while, some parts were sad and some funny but nevertheless it was very much enjoyable. Scoff you are the MAN, you don't kiss and tell. I like the segment when your daughter said that Scoff was checking you out.... Ladies and Gentlemen you did a wonderful job in supporting them back in 2009 when met with opposition in telling their story. I felt their pain and I felt your respect, support and encouragement. You guys are the greatest, I know that many eyes, ears and hearts are more open to IRR BW & WM.

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  49.   Empress26 says:
    Posted: 17 Jan 11

    why white men love the black woman? why white women love the black man? why the west was won? why slavery was abolish? why the hell you ask why?....... isnt it enough pressure from society on interracial relationships? ..... the question should be why is that people of this world cant just let one another love who they want, who cares about the color of the skin or where thyre from i don't. With all the crimes and evil of this world i wish everyone can feel loved and be loved no separation of the skin color or religions or culture.... am a black proud woman and i dont care what shape ,color or form loves come in as long as it is real am down for it. True love so darn hard to find who cares about the color love has no color we all were created equal in the eyes of the most high Lord. Let me ask don't we all have the same red blood or is it in many colors? like the great pop singer Michael Jackson said God rest his soul ' IT DONT MATER IF YOUR BLACK OR WHITE".. people let love flow.... cha nah watch no face, everyone needs love.....

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    • EddyReady/BigTen says:
      Posted: 18 Jan 11

      @Empress26 So true,baby girl,it don't matter if your black or white/Michael Jackson! Can't we all just get along/Rodney King Two different people,two different siturations,but words so true! Let the love flow! We are the world,remember the song!

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      • Empress26 says:
        Posted: 18 Jan 11

        Thank you Eddyready/big ten, i really hate it when people make an issue about color love should be able to conquer all.

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    • fixin2 says:
      Posted: 18 Jan 11

      Well stated. This is the same point I was making a few weeks back in this blog. I Don't owe anyone an explanation or excuse as to why I am dating someone. In reality, I have no problem explaining why I only date black women. The problem is the minute you answer a question posed in an accusatory tone, you are on the defensive. And I have no reason to be on the defensive about someone I'm with. If your white dating white, black dating black, or black dating white, do your own thing. It's nobody elses business.

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    Posted: 13 Jan 11

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