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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   tomsdee says:
    Posted: 21 Nov 11

    I have been reading the posts and find that I am really not missing anything having left America to live in Europe. Here it is not so much of an issue and it is wonderfully freeing being a Black woman. The men here are ok with my curves, brown skin and natural hair. I have had men stop me on the street, try to talk to me at the swimming pool, strongly encourage me to come visit them while riding the subway, etc. No one asks what are my motives, what are the motives of the white men that cross the color line (and believe me there are tons of the them!), no one looks at me twice or funny or anything. It is not a social statement, political statement or anything. And it wasn't until I moved here that I realized--emotionally and mentally--just how freeing such an experience actually was. Peace

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  2.   sexyp1 says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 11

    I see BM and WW together all the time and i always wonder how the BM feels about BW, does he think we're all b$tches, mean lazy etc., so I always go out of my way and smile at the couple. I know its silly but I know its difficult at times dating outside your race and I don't have an issue with BM/WW couples. I hate that so many people feel black women hate it. I have always been open to dating all races of men and I'm attracted to WM but they rarely ask me out. When they do its usually creepy what i mean by that is while asking me out they may say something like I've been watching you for a long time a couple of months(one man said a year smh) one man followed me home from the store so usually I end up saying no or there is no chemistry at all. At times I want to give up on dating but I'm not one to quite I still have hope I'll find the one for me no matter what his race before I start collecting social security lol.

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  3.   luvableme says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 11

    I was married to a bm for 13 years, he didnt treat me well but I chose to stay. I've dated White, Hispanic and other ethnic groups of men and find that some white men (not all) feel bw are promiscuous and sluts in the bedroom. Even though I have encountered those type of men it hasn't stopped me from dating wm. I say that to say people need to stop generalizing. All wm aren't good just as all bm aren't bad. Every man should be judged on his own merits and wherever and with whomever you find love just embrace it. Life is short so live, love and laugh like everyday is your last :)

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  4.   phebe3255 says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 11

    I am the first to admit that ituse to upsetme whenI saw black men with white women.Then I realized I needed to check myself and ralize it was not a problem with them and their love but with me and my love. I have always been attracted to white men but I was so nervous to approach thinking thinking it was way to taboo, I love the charm of a mid 30's to 40"s white man and can not wait for my strong handsome white man to come my way.

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  5.   liam358 says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 11

    and it always will be woth it

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  6.   liam358 says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 11

    it is well worth it

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  7.   Leshalee says:
    Posted: 04 Nov 11

    I don't even no what this site is but I came across it and this is a subject I love to talk about whether it's to my parents friends or whoever. I'm a black and Asian woman. And I do not discriminate, however I just happen to be extremely attracted to white guys and I truly believe that love has no color. I don't see color at all. I think black women with white guys are beautiful it looks beautiful. I don't even understand how some ppl can be racist. I get along with everybody. And most of my Friends are white and some of my family are white. I say date who you want to date..I think interracial dating is amazing

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    • EddyReady says:
      Posted: 05 Nov 11

      @ Leshalee I really liked what you said and the way you said it :) ! Very cool ! This site is the best dateing site you will find anywhere ! It is well run and straight up.They really want people to talk and meet and hook up :) ! EddyReady cares !

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    • EddyReady says:
      Posted: 05 Nov 11

      @ Leshalee I like what you said and the way you said it,very cool :) ! This site is the best dateing site you will find anywhere ! It is well run and all the messeage's get where they are suppose to go and they want people to talk,meet and hook up.That's what this site is,baby girl :) ! EddyReady cares !

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    • liam358 says:
      Posted: 06 Nov 11

      le it is

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  8.   mikki9 says:
    Posted: 02 Nov 11

    I don't believe love as a colour, if you're happy and treat each other right, does it actually matter? I have dated both black and white men, my preference is the man that loves and cares for me, makes me laugh and feel special. When we're together and nothing else matters, that's great, so if you're out there...... let's fall in love. xx

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  9.   mspearl69 says:
    Posted: 30 Oct 11

    Love is found where it should be,in the hearts of those it chooses.I have been dating white men for the past 15yrs.And honestly woudn't stop even if you were to give me a billion dollars! lol

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    • EddyReady says:
      Posted: 01 Nov 11

      Why i like black women so much ! It's all been said once before,check out my blog on Dec.23 2010 :) ! EddyReady cares !

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    • liam358 says:
      Posted: 06 Nov 11

      your funny ma

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  10.   soreal27 says:
    Posted: 29 Oct 11

    it's forbidden for me to be with a white man ( i mean family and society)!!!!!! but i'm attracted to white men, so i'll keep looking for one, a down to earth and family oriented one!!!

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    • liam358 says:
      Posted: 06 Nov 11

      follow your heart and your gut feeling ma if it feels right go for it if it dont keep waiting ma

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  11.   misslovely7 says:
    Posted: 28 Oct 11

    That's so true no one should have to explain their taste in men or women to anyone, everyone has a right to be attracted to whom ever they feel no matter their race. My taste can be all over the place as far as who I'm attracted too so I have never been someone who dates exclusively one race just because they have the same skin color as me. My girlfriends in school used to laugh at me sometimes bc when I was younger I would be head over heals for Juelz Santana and also just as crazy about Brad Pitt or Travis Barker. lol I'm still that way today and I'm glad I'm not closed minded when it comes to race, I just like what I like and I give no reason! lol

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    • liam358 says:
      Posted: 06 Nov 11

      youve heard the old saying for whites once you go blk you will never go back im not closed minded but i like your saying ma i just like what i like and give me no reason lol

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  12.   MackRT says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 11

    This is where it should come down to the old rule most of us were taught but apparently forgot...it's called, "Mind your own business!" The fact that my relationship is with a Black Woman is NO ONEs business but ours....Not societies, Not the Black Race, Not the White Race, and NOT the governments. It's ours...our choice! I've read eveything here today from, The white race wants the Black race to lighten up and let them in...the black woman was called a sellout from the black man because she dated only white men...and oh by the way..that same black man was married to a white women. If you choose to date/marry only in your race ....GREAT...if you choose to date/marry outside your race...GREAT. BE happy...I will be happy for you......give me the same please. Don't judge either of us .......I promise you, neither of us will ever judge you....we don't care what you, society or anyone else thinks. OURS HAPPINESS TOGETHER IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS! Have a nice life everyone!

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  13.   charity90 says:
    Posted: 18 Oct 11

    I freaking luv white men. The sight of a white guy freaking turn me on. I love goin to places where white guys hang out, there is a club called Gypsies full of white men, I luv goin there cz I get to meet many white guys.xxxxxxxxxx

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    • liam358 says:
      Posted: 06 Nov 11

      you go girl lol

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    • indheart54 says:
      Posted: 15 Nov 11

      Charity90 I am a BW, you go girl. I'm with you while everyone else is being philosophical, you just put it on the line. I am 57 y/o and I was married to a beautiful BM for 15 years before he passed away with cancer. I am at a point in my life where I broadened my horizons. I am open to whoever respects and cares for me.

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    • stahrr says:
      Posted: 12 Apr 12

      Charity, I agree with you. I am totally attracted to white guys and I am seeking to marry one. I will have to go more places to meet them thoug because I haven't had a date in a while now. So any white men out there looking for a young looking 54 year old, send me a message!

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  14.   aubryb83 says:
    Posted: 15 Oct 11

    Iam a black female i love dating white men and i feel there are a lot of guys who would love to date interracial but afraid because of ego family friends or feel that theres no where for us to go with out the stares thse are the ones that are curious to do it but not go all out with it my last relationship with a white guy was horrible the family was rude tio me behind his back but love me in his face and he was one of those fake it half in and half out but that didnot make me change my mind about dating white guys maybe a good honest true one will come my way all the way in for it all

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  15.   Eireland says:
    Posted: 14 Oct 11

    I have dated women of all races in my life. Its hard enough to find a perfect partner. Why would you want to disregard a huge slice of the dating pool before you even start?

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  16.   ashly87 says:
    Posted: 12 Oct 11

    Still waiting on that one special guy to share my life with through the end of time. Wish everyone much success and happiness during our unique journeys in life...xoxo

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    • jcarolina says:
      Posted: 05 Apr 12

      Ashly, I wish you the best of what God has to offer. I've only dated one black lady, her children loved me to death, I think because I treated their Mom with the respect all women deserve, & maybe that was because their dad was in prison, no stereotyping, just true. They had an obvious major part of their lives missing, & it was obvious.

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  17.   trina-3012@msn.com says:
    Posted: 10 Oct 11

    I have to say that i didn't start dating white men until i was in my thirties, not because i didn't want to. Being from the South it wasn't and still isn't that easy! But i have to say that ever since my first encounter i've never dating any other race except white. I've always been attracted to white men. Growing up with very few black actors on tv, i gravited to the blonde hair blue eyes. The first white man that i dated was blonde hair and blue eyed, he was a beautiful man inside and out. He thought me what real love is. Even though i'd been married before to a black man and had 2 kids. I didn't know love until i fell for him. I would love to find that again. To be able to love again would be amazing. Still looking for my blonde hair and blue eyed prince. I applaud all that have the courage to date the people that they are attracted to and are happy with. Love is Love no matter the color!

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  18.   llefty121758 says:
    Posted: 06 Oct 11

    if you want to date a black woman go ahead and do it, i am dating a black woman and she is the best thing to happen to me, but by all means date her for who she is and not just for color or sex, be with her for all the right reasons, those who have a problem need to mind there own buisness, each and every one of us was given the right to choose who we are with, would you let the real deal pass you by because of some silly reason, myself i refuse to be alone and anybody else who has something to say just needs to but out, and stop living in the past

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  19.   JDigriz says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 11

    I guess I'm not that deep, I just think BW are pretty.

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    • Lucky2B says:
      Posted: 03 Oct 11

      I have always been attracted to black women. Until recently I had never had the chance to date anyone. Now after dating a beautiful black lady, my only regret is not following my heart 35 yrs. ago. I love to give love but I had never received the tender loving this lady possesses. If I could love all of you.... I WOULD.

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  20.   ross13 says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 11

    black wemon are beautiful and should be respected i hope to merry a black woman if i can find one to love me the right way and see past my disabillity

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  21.   olovly1 says:
    Posted: 29 Sep 11

    I have always loved and dated white men, not that there is anything wrong with black men. I just have an higher attraction to the white male. I love the way I get a heart throbbing rush when I get near he that is gorgeous.

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  22.   nickthecop says:
    Posted: 24 Sep 11

    ALTHOUGH THIS SOUNDS GREAT, THE PRIMARY ISSUE IN THE COMMUNITY IS THIS. WHITE MEN WANT THE BLACK COMMUNITY TO SOFTEN UP TO THE IDEA OF STANDING CLEAR OF A WHITE MAN TO INTEGRATE, INTEGRATE, INTEGRATE INTO THE BLACK COMMUNITY. HOWEVER, IMPORTANT RESOURCES ARE NOT VIEWED WITH THAT SAME WELCOME ARMS MENTALITY WITH BLACK MEN INTEGRATING WITH WHITE WOMEN IN WHITS COMMUNITIES. EVERY MOVIE YOU CAN THINK OF WHERE A BLACK MALE WAS INVOLVED WITH A WHITE WOMAN, WHITES CREATED CHAOS AND TURMOIL. CANDYMAN WAS GIVEN HELL ON EARTH FOR IT AND THERE ARE MANY OTHERS BUT IN CONTRAST THE RECENT MOVIE "SOMETHING NEW" A COMEDY WITH BERNIE MACK AND ASHTON KUTCHER, IT SHOWED AN EVENTUAL ACCEPTANCE BY THE BLACK COMMUNITY, ATTEMPTING TO MENTALLY CONDITION THE AUDIENCE INTO THIS WAY OF THINKING. HERE IT IS PLAIN AND SIMPLE, BLACK MEN WILL NEVER ACCEPT IT UNTIL THE WHITE COMMUNITY TREATS BLACK MALES AS EQUALS. AND FOR THE RECORD, I AM BIRACIAL SO I HAVE NO PREJUDICE, I JUST SEE WHATS GOING ON AND I SEE AN UNFAIR SITUATION. THE KEYWORD GOES BACK TO GRADE SCHOOL, SHARING. YOU SIMPLY WILL NEVER GET THIS GENERAL ACCEPTANCE IF CORPORATE AMERICA STILL TREATS BLACK MALES AS FIFTH CLASS CITIZENS. THE MINUTE WHITE AMERICA IS TRULY OK WITH BLACK MEN WITH WHITE WOMEN IS THE MINUTE BLACK MEN ACCEPT WHITE MEN WITH BLACK WOMEN. REMEMBER, A BLACK WOMAN IS VERY FAMILY ORIENTED, MEANING, HER FATHER, GRANDFATHER, UNCLES, BROTHERS, COUSINS, COLLEAGUES ALL HAVE VALUED OPINIONS AND MORE TIMES THAN NOT, SHE WILL NOT ALIENATE HER ENTIRE COMMUNITY FOR A WHITE MALE. IN REFERENCE TO THE COMMENT IN THE ARTICLE ABOUT WHITE MEN ADMIRING A BLACK WOMANS ABILITY TO HANDLE ADVERSITY? BLACK WOMEN THAT MEANS WHITE MEN SEE THAT YOU WILL DEAL WITH ALOT OF NSGATIVITY

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  23.   vakdra says:
    Posted: 23 Sep 11

    Really, the question shouldn't be "why do they?" but "why not?" I don't mean this in a pompous way but history has shown that men in general have been attracted to and linked with all kinds of women, esp exotic women (women who are physically different they their used to). All men have a preference (blonde, dark skin, green eyes, dark eyes, petite, tall, slim, curvy). The real issue is that in modern times, b/c of high racial issues and the media celebrating only one kind of beauty, some people's human nature to be attracted to all kinds of beauties has been veiled.

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    • nickthecop says:
      Posted: 24 Sep 11

      I agree so why do black women immediately attach a negative message about white women dating black men saying white women are weak and black men only wish to control them. In contrast. when referring to white men and black men, its love should see no color. The point is clear, black women are flattered when a white man pursues them and insulted/disgusted when a successful black man chooses a white woman.

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      • Babigurl says:
        Posted: 17 Oct 11

        @ nickthecop First, I want to say using all caps in a discussion area is considered yelling !!! helllooooo. Second, if you are biracial and have no prejudices....why the display what seems to be a noticeable issue or distaste? I for one as a BW, have never attached a negative message in regards to WW dating BM...more power to them, Swirl is the best . To add, you kinda generalized this particular statement. For I can care less about the characteristics or outward appearance of someone else that I do not know on a personal level. Neither am I flattered when a white man pursues me, for he may be pursuing me for the wrong reasons...my first kiss was by a WM, my first crush was for a WM...and it was a little bit annoying growing up in the South and defending my choice, my preference...at the age of 13 my mother accepted the fact that my future relationships and marriages will most likely be with a non-black man, my world as i knew it then and now has been all good. Some people are just drawn to people of different races, no matter what. Now, I will admit, that over the decades men and women tend to treat interracial dating as a fad....which makes it difficult for those of use that truly love outside the color line. Those of us that marry..........not just date, or call each other gf / bf for countless years, or just have sex with others of different races or looking financial/materialistic gain....but those of us that marry and bring children into the world and are positive, productive citizens of our society...we exist. I too have a son that is biracial, and I knew as soon as he was in kindergarten and the girls went out of their way to be around him, he would have no problems finding a woman to eventually marry regardless of his chosen mates skin color. Yes, society and government impacts our personal relationships. If race was not an issue...regardless of what the racial composition is...and to my understanding there is only 2, regardless of how many selections there is.....if all was harmonius...and there was no racial conflict....there would be an issue with something else to keep conflict going. I am just amazed that an interracial site has so much negativity in regards to what it is promoting....interracial love. Thank goodness, I have been fortunate enough to meet a man on this site that has a lot in common with me and we have the same outlooks/ goals for lives. We even share a childhood background of hardship, lived the ultimate school of hard knocks...in more than one way. His struggles with dating/marrying BW and mine of dating/marrying WM was the same...so I am feeling truly blessed. I want to share with you a personal experience- I was in the military and pulling a 24 hour duty shift. While working a black non-commissioned officer came into my building and he gave his daily report....then out of no where ...he says to me...I hear you only date white men, why won't you date a brother? My reply was, it is my preference and perrogative. In return, his statement to me was that I was a "sell-out ". A short time later, my childcare provider had to go out of town and gave me a referral. I took my biracial son to the providers home as arranged in the morning, she was a WW. Later, that evening, when I went to pick up my son...as I was walking out the door, I ran face first- dead smack into the same guy that called me a "sell-out ", his wife was the provider. I had never seen a person's jaw hit the floor literally.......At no point in time was I insulted/disgusted that this man chose a WW. First thought that came to my mind was ...how did this man have the audacity to call me a sell-out when he was in a interracial marriage .....WTF Overall, one should make the best out of their life, and their life alone and not permit generalizations or others. If you let the burdens of society prevent you from finding true love or being happy than the decision is yours and yours alone..no one elses. Life Life to the fullest wherever it may take you. Much success.

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      • onetreehill says:
        Posted: 29 Oct 11

        I have a feeling that some of your information is not correct. However, it is your opinion and you are entitled to it. Peace !!!

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    • nickthecop says:
      Posted: 24 Sep 11

      Correction, 6th sentence, White men and Black women.

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  24.   lita2010 says:
    Posted: 23 Sep 11

    @toolateforit, did you marry a white woman, sounds like it, does she makes you happy? i guess that us what you were looking for after all, race does not matter to many of us....you sound like a great guy, i guess it is too late for you and me....lol

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  25.   lita2010 says:
    Posted: 23 Sep 11

    All i can say is I love men and in particular white men, am so attracted to them, it is all about chemistry forget the race thing.....

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  26.   NKengee says:
    Posted: 22 Sep 11

    I have never dated outside my race. As a matter of fact, I said I never would. What has changed my opinion is my desire to love. I love to love and want to be loved. Most of the black men I know, even the one I was married to, have a hard time dealing with my independence, confidence, and ability to stay the course. I have noticed over the years that white men seem to appreciate these qualities in me more. I always narrowed it down to their culture of exploitation. They know how to get the best out of a good thing. I never once thought I could have a loving relationship with them. I'm slowly changing the way I think and it all has to do with the fact I want to share my life with someone who can appreciate and respect me. If he is green, I want him.

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    • odel68 says:
      Posted: 23 Sep 11

      culture of exploitation. culture of exploitation. that bothers me. no matter how many times i say it. i can't deny that my race has exploited other races. is that why it bothers me? if i say we are not the only race to exploit people am i being defensive? trying to justify my race's actions? Nkengee certainly has the right to her opinion, and the right to give it voice. but is it a race issue or a human issue? i certainly don't feel that my race is more evil than any other race. we live in a time where the descendants of an exploited people have the stories of their ancestors passed down only a few generations and the stories of grandparents and parents who went through the struggle of the civil rights movement. is my race viewed more harshly because the exploitation is so recent? i am a wm in a society that has been in my favor since the beginning of this country. i may brush against racism in a few isolated cases,but i don't live with it 24/7 so i can't understand it. when i was married my wife would get upset over something that she perceived was racist. i didn't see it. she would have to explain it to me. the way i looked at it is we had a bad waitress, it happens. but she would say look at her, she has checked with all her other tables but she keeps ignoring us. and she was right. she was the only black person in the restaurant . the simplest answer is usually the correct answer. be blessed everyone, james

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    • liam358 says:
      Posted: 06 Nov 11

      lol

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  27.   odel68 says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 11

    i don't know why i prefer bw. my first love was black. she was beautiful, intelligent,funny,caring... everything i could imagine. but her parents told her she could not date a white boy. i have dated every race but mostly bw. i was at work one day when someone mentioned my girlfriend was black, my co-worker said you would touch one of them? at first i thought he was just making a joke in poor taste. when i realized he was serious i said if you mean am i dating a woman that is beautiful, smart, treats me right ,who i am in love with, and who just happens to be black then yes i am dating one of those. do i love bw? yes. is the color of a woman's skin the deciding factor? no. thank you, james

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    • MsDivaTW says:
      Posted: 21 Sep 11

      I am so sorry that you had to experience such racism, but I do realize that in order for someone to love others they must love themselves. Self hatred is the root of hating others. It's such a bessing to see that we are moving past some of the negative comments that have long determined our relationships and choices in live. Be encouraged, to each of you.... :-)

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      • liam358 says:
        Posted: 06 Nov 11

        well put ms diva me and my wife experinced from both races the whites dint like us and neither did the blacks like us but we were married for 26yrs a lot of my white friends who said that it wont last were divorced yrs ago and blk friends to we stayed the course and were still in love

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    • liam358 says:
      Posted: 06 Nov 11

      well said odel

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  28.   toolateforit says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 11

    My take on this subject is this: the sexually attractiveness and the physical masculinity of men naturally takes it's place; and white guys unfortunately for me, take second place to that. We do how ever take 2nd place to reliability also, which make us the man in the middle. I'm off to watch some more chapelle show.

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  29.   toolateforit says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 11

    I've always had an attraction to black women and have only had one relationship with one. Besides that one girl, which was the summer after graduating high school, I've always felt that most black women didn't have any attraction to white dudes. Still, at this point in my life it's rare that a black women "checks me out". And I know it's not because I'm an ugly fuck. By the way I found this site because I was searching a different matter and saw this. My user ID say's it all "too late for it" becasuse I married one of the sweetest girls I've ever meet, but still had enough intrest in the subject.

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    • liam358 says:
      Posted: 06 Nov 11

      you know the old saying never say never it can still happen

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  30.   Quiero says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 11

    I agree with honestand40. You can't help who you love no matter how hard you try to fight it. It is what it is. Don"t let love pass you by because of silly issues like race and distance. Love always finds a way. I know I will find exactly the kind of love I need.

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  31.   Deenea says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 11

    I am over 60 years and I realized a long time ago that love does not come in a color and this is the way I raised my children. I married the love of my life 10 years ago and we were very much in love. I had never experienced this kind of love before and I had been married twice before to two Black men. When I was young it was not OK for a Black woman to date caucasian men, it was a rule of the race and family. I had always been attracted but it was a no, no. But in my forties I decided and the Lord helped to understand that love does not come in a color. All you people that say you are a Christian and can't bring yourself to believe that God don't want Interacial Relationships is wrong. There is nowhere in the Bible that addresses this subject. This is a man made rule that was taught to us from childhood. I am positive that on judgement day the Lord is not going to ask you what color was the person you married. But He will ask "Did you love your fellowman as you loved youself". The love of my life passed away three years ago and I still miss that love everyday and am trying to find something close to that love again before I leave this earth. I just love to love and be loved and I know from experience that love does not come in a color.

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    • Dannyco56 says:
      Posted: 14 Sep 11

      @Deenea I am sorry for your loss. I know that there is someone out there who will love you and cherish you and you will find him. I grew up in the 50's, 60's ad 70's and relationships between a man and a woman who did not have the same skin tone was taboo. I am so happy to see that we are moving past that flawed way of thinking. God Bless! Danny

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    • liam358 says:
      Posted: 06 Nov 11

      first of all you have my condolences for i just lost the love of my life just 4 months ago we wre together off and on since we were me 16 her 15 this is really the only woman for me but the lord took her she was very very sick so i have to belive that she is in a better place no more pain as mary j blige sang ty lord no more suffering but i will miss her everyday for the rest of my life i also would like before i leave this earth would like to find something close to that kind of love and you have that right deenea love does not come in color its what we have in our hearts

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      • LizzyR says:
        Posted: 17 Nov 11

        @Liam; God will surely help you get over the loss of ur loved one. have courage.

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  32.   LovBlkChcks says:
    Posted: 11 Sep 11

    Being a white male who is sick of being constently rejected by "stuck-up" white women. In high-school there were a few very pretty and very sweet ebony girls who I would have loved to ask out, but my racist father would have beat the hell out of me so I landed up marrying a white woman I was just OK with. I'm not nhappy that I had to marry someone based on being acceptable to my racist white father. If Sylivia and Cheryl read this....this is Tom from back in high school in Milwaukee.....I really regret not being able to date either of you...I som adored both of you..... : ( Never got to go on a date with either of you too..........

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    • liam358 says:
      Posted: 06 Nov 11

      tom i went thru the same shit thats why i wasnt married for 35yrs

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  33.   captonpaul says:
    Posted: 10 Sep 11

    I agree with honestan40

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  34.   honestand40 says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 11

    I feel you should always be with who makes you happy color should never matter . but if you like it better with white so be we are all people . i love my brother but i just don't date them anymore .

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  35.   Humor2u says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 11

    I commend the white guys for being honest about us and I would love to meet a nice lovingWM for my husband. He can be from another country as long as we make each other happy and be there for one another. Humor 2U.

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  36.   Grotty says:
    Posted: 21 Aug 11

    I love black women especially the darker variety,I also love their features,and they seam to have a far nicer shape and personality than white girls and I also find the smell much nicer as well.

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    • liam358 says:
      Posted: 06 Nov 11

      very well said i am a widowed wm 50yrs old soon to be 51yrs old nov 27 i was married to the lovned e of my life for 26yrs we were together off and on for 9yrs before that i went out with her i was 16 she was 15 we were married 2-16-85 we have 4 children together my wife was dark skinned but i do find blk women much more attractive i can honestly say that i havent been with a white girl since i was 17 the darker the berry the sweeter the juice ladies dont get offended that only a bullshit lie lol but like i said their are a lot of whitemen who want to be with and sleep with but dont wanna make no commitment i did and thank you lord for the 26yrs and 35yrs that you gave us together liam & paula like heatwave sung always & forever that was our wedding song godbless

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  37.   28italian says:
    Posted: 17 Aug 11

    good job sevenseas0 me my self i wound have just told hem off but that wos tastfull and well put

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  38.   shanelle23us says:
    Posted: 17 Aug 11

    I love this, page I have dated white men, and love them. It hard to even date them.

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  39.   Denilson2000 says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 11

    Maybe I'm biased But black men are the only men on the planet. All other races of men are boys. If an Alien came down from another planet and he put a White, Asian, Black, Latino, Native American, Arab all in a row and he was asked who is the real man in the line up. The most dominant looking man He would go for the black men. The black men looks the most dominant, most alpha of all the races, now relax, he may not be the most dominant economically, but that's not the point, the black man is a bit like the great boxer who everyone knows is the best, but the champion is scared to give him a shot at the title because he knows what would happen. The black woman is the most attractive of all the races of women. White men LOVE black women, don't believe their lies. And you know what's funny ? You tend to have more respect for a black women when you know she's with a black man and black man with a black women. I can't take black man seriously when they are in a serious relationship with a white women, especially if they start chatting about race.

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    • sevenseas0 says:
      Posted: 12 Aug 11

      Man, What's up with the alpha thing . Are you experiencing a rush of testosterone ? in all seriousness It is affimation upon affirmation. I don't see any argument. It's a parody of afrocentric speech. because afrocentrism is way deeper and articulated than that. It might be funny if your ravings didn't imply that there's a superior race. This is what you say. All your " theory" exaclty works the same way than Nazis' ideology. you can disapprove interracial dating and I'd be ready to know your reasons. I'd listen to you respectfully. but are you ready to debate ? your whole speech consists of saying " black women are this way, white men are this way etc..." you know that it's called essentialism and essentialism is exactly the mental attitude - combined with economical predation - that lead to colinization, slavery and all the crimes that white people comitted against black people. all I'm saying is that you may deduct certain traits from someone's ethnicity, but at the end the day, the moral value of a man is determined by his acts. peace from France

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    • kissme18 says:
      Posted: 13 Aug 11

      Some of this is accurate in my book mr.black guy yet some isn't but that's just my opinion

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  40.   BlackGirls says:
    Posted: 24 Jul 11

    I have recently wrote a book, which will be published this summer, called "A Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men" By Niki McElroy In the book I answer all questions as it pertains to finding, dating and marrying white men. All done with a comedic undertone. You can follow the development of the book on Facebook, and "LIKE" for updates on the book's publishing. http://www.facebook.com/Ablackgirlsguidetodating "I think many women limit themselves to dating only within their race. I believe we should be opened minded to all races. In dealing with white men, I've found my self thinking "either this guy isn't into black girls or he's assuming I don't have interest in white men. From reading Niki's book, I've realized sometimes its neither and just maybe we could all use a little help. I believe Niki's book delivers that help in a hilariously honest way" -Meagan Good (actress)

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  41.   HONESTY says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 11

    I DATED A WHITE GUY FOR ABOUT 7 MONTHS, AND WE STILL KEEP CONTACT. BUT TO SHARE MY EXPERIENCE B/TWEEN ME AND THIS WHITE GUY, I'LL SAY THIS TO MY SISTERS THAT ARE WITH A WHITE GUY OR CONSIDERING. U MUST MAKE SURE THAT THIS WHITE GUY IS OPEN MINDED CULTURALLY, BECAUSE UNFORTUNATELY BLACK WOMEN ARE NOT PLACED ON A PEDAL STOOL LIKE OTHER RACES OF WOMEN. I KNOW WE MAY BE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL, CONFIDENT, .STRONG, ETC... BUT WE ARE LOOKED UPON AS WHORES, AND FOR THE SISTERS THAT HAVE EDUCATION/CAREERS WE ARE STILL CONSIDERED TO BE THE LESSER OF WOMAN IN SOCIETY." JUST BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR EXPERIENCE DATING WHITE MEN!! " AND YES," IT WILL BE A NEW EXPERIENCE B/CAUSE WHITE MEN ARE VERY GIVING, ESPECIALY, "WHEN THEY WANT, WHAT THEY WANT WHATEVER THAT MAY BE....." " JUST PAY VERY CLOSE ATTENTION AND TAKE YOUR TIME B/CAUSE U HAVE TO GET TO KNOW ANY GUY NO MATTER WHAT COLOR HE IS , BUT EVEN MORE ATTENTION AND OBSERVAION WITH A WHITE MAN. HOPE THIS HELPS, AND PLEASE TAKE MY ADVICE SISTERS. I SAY THIS WITH LOVE.

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    • bigeyes31 says:
      Posted: 05 Aug 11

      give us more details about your experiences. I want to hear more! :-)

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  42.   coolkitten says:
    Posted: 19 Jul 11

    I will begin by saying that classicshock sounds alot like my late husband.He passed away 4months ago after thirty-five great years of marriage.We decided early in our rlationship not to worry about what opinions others had we would have enough difficulty being married! He was agood Christian man and was very loving and kind.He was atrue gentleman and treated me accordingly.We loved each other unconditionally and with respect. He loved me for who I am not my brown skin. He was a true romantic flowers chocolates etc. I don't know if there are any more men like this. I always said the mold wasthrown away! We had similar beliefs many common likes ; we were soulmates. I am not ready to embark on another relationship,too soon.But friends are nice.

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  43.   ThomasS1 says:
    Posted: 19 Jul 11

    That was an outstanding article. I can relate, I am a whiteman that is very atractive to blackwomen. I am atractive to blackwomen not only sexualy, but also very much romanticly as well. There are so many attributes that atract me to black women, it is there bodily shape, there inerstrength, and the hue of there skin. Black women are the most beutiful women. I am planning to join this datting sight. Looking for that special someone that luminate like the preciouse stone ONYX. Not only from the outside, but from the inside as well. That special someone I am looking to love in endless way through romance, respect, and understanding. Romance well never be out of style.

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  44.   Redandready says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 11

    SO TURE IF SHE HAPPY LET HER BE I'M ABLK WOMAN WITH AN GREMANY DAUGHTER=IN-LAW,MY YOUNGEST SON WIFE ,MY OLDEST SON ONLY DATE WHITE WOMAN SO LADY AND GENT.I HAVE NO TROUBLE ACCEPTING THE NEW WAY OF LIFE.WHATEVER MAKE YOU HAPPY DO IT.BE BLESS IN HIS CARE WE ARE ALL OF ONE GOD LIVE ,LOVE,LAUGH BE HAPPY

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    • Prettydoll32 says:
      Posted: 23 Aug 11

      I THINK THATS SO NICE, YOUR COMMENT SHOULD BE READ BY MANY...BECAUSE I AM VERY ATTRACTED TO WHITE MEN ALWAYS HAVE BEEN, BUT LIVING IN THE SOUTH YOU DNT KNOW HOW TO GO ABOUT IT HERE. BUT I HAVE LEARN THAT SOME WHITE MEN DONT SEE US LIKE YOU....ALOT OF THEM WANT TO JUST TEST OR EXPERIMENT. LOL...HELLO WE NOT SCIENCE PROJECTS WE ARE WOMEN. I LOOKING TO MEET THAT SPECIAL MAN THAT LOVES ME LIKE A WOMAN AND NOT A SEX OBJECT. BE BLESSED

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  45.   Ms.Ohio says:
    Posted: 06 Jul 11

    ~~~I am just going to keep this 100%~~ I remember when I was much younger i had an attraction for the appearance that most resembled a Latin or bi racial background. I'm not sure where this stemmed from, it could have been location, or something else. As I grew older my preference was based on who accepted me, and that's when I discovered the reason truly, as to why I was appealed to the men of my earlier years. Things changed later in my life, I adored dark skin men, and I did not know what to attribute that change to. At this point in my life I am seeking acceptance for who I am, and I want to share myself with someone who is rue to themselves as well, because I believe until you learn who you are~~~meaning what you need to be happy~~ you can't collaborate with no one. I once resented my male associates and friends for inter-racially dating. Now here I am wondering/ curious........ There are many factors as to why people chose to seek outside their nationality, and the most profound I believe is to appease the heart/soul overall. I will admit, when I see my sistahs with someone (even if that someone is of another national background) and their at peace and I am so happy for them, because I know my sistahs as well as myself need love and loyalty. We can't limit ourselves where it is beneficial in our quest. Love peace and happiness!

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  46.   Lokita says:
    Posted: 04 Jul 11

    “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?” Every male I date will find me to be sexually conservative, but to my future husband I will be a slut.

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  47.   tomcruz says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 11

    so many good comments,(sorry about my english i am foreign) i am glad,but lets not forget most of us in here are ok poeple, the rassists are not on the site.I agree with most coments like love sees no color ,we are all one and so on,but as the Title implicates WM love BW ,we are forced to generalize a bit. therefore i like to shere some of my experiances too. Tho world seems to changein a positive direction. As a WM of 55 years i lifed in different Times. I meet my African Beauty when i was 18 and she was probably the only one in the whole of Switzerland at the time. So i would hear the bad coments of my Compatriots. but i dident care and thats what counts. Or the B Brothers that shouted out of the Cars in Brixton-London "liefe the black Girl alone" they even tryed to persuade that lovely ebonyGirl to leave me and not get in contact with a WM. now that was a different Time,but still as probably any WM will experience when you step into a club or Restaurant full of BM and you are Arm in Arm with your sugarbebe. it is allways a special tension,still today.* i mett a Africanqueen in Bangkok thanks to this site and we went to eat in a African hidden hangoutRestaurant .And the BM s look is allways strange. Usualy you finde one nice Guy that will talk to you the rest is pissed. Why i dont know cause the BM love white femals to. So i just say dont care if you love that woman just go for it. Dont let the society influence you. There is another point i like to mention, as opposits atract each other. I always felt strange with WW because they remaind me of my Sisters or Mother. you know what i mean,its just strange,its like insest.I had relations to all kind of woman from any race,but pls let me point out the beauty of BW. in general: I think that it needs a WM to see the beauty of a BW -(of course i generalise and many of my good BM friends do so too)) but listen to Lou Reed:: "and the colored Girls go "dip,dip dip", or Michal Franks on down in Brasil: "and they are just aimed to please." i mean all women are Godess but BW s selfconfidence espesialy the Africans is special, the way they walk, and move, the dark Eyes, the different shades of beautiful skin ,their smile,their open Minds their Humor and Temperament, dont even mention the way the make love (its Stereotype i know) the Lips and Cheeks,the lovely Nose ............ its the Vibs, its dificult to explain but there is so much beauty ,poeple dont seem to realise. just look at the countless Black Divas and exeptional strong Women on the Planet, from Nina Simone ,Billy Holiday Tina Turner to Asha , Jill Scott or Byonce. or thousends more. how can we not admire them.? Or top Models like Iman or Naomi Cambell.? they are all so gorgeous. But the attractive BW are all over, travel through Africa.and you will see.Take the Metro a Paris or the subway in NuYork, walk along the CopaCabana, have a rest in Jamaika,or even go to Montreal.and check out Amsterdam. But Girls pls take my advice, stop that Hairproblem and check out your wiggs. pls give me a brake. What is more fascinating than a BW with short natural Hair and big Earrings . ?? thats why WM love BW at least thats what i admire. If you need some red Lippstick to feel Sexy ? ok why not ,but pls forget your Hairproblem, listen to NinaSimone. smile

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    • essence321 says:
      Posted: 14 Jul 11

      thanks tomcruz, ur words are really encouraging. As BW, we should appreciate what we have, our natural beauty is something we dont acknowledge. i use wigs though !!

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    • kissme18 says:
      Posted: 13 Aug 11

      Lol thanx big daddy your beautiful also

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  48.   davidits says:
    Posted: 30 Jun 11

    I believe we are distracted. For any man who is honest - you cannot quantify a woman. I was married to a black female for 13 years. After a time, you realize that she is not defined by race; and the same issues any man faces with a woman will be the same ones you face with this woman. (albiet, other people try some racial prejudice attitudes - which I consider control issues) Leave the toilet seat up and you are in trouble / drop you clothes on the floor - you are in trouble and don't even try to lie - a woman can hear you "talking to the fellas" two blocks away and around the corner.) Just realize you have chosen someone you are attracted to. Someone you have something in common with and someone you "want" to be in love with. Quote:"Those most deserving of love are seldom made happy by it." All men seek the LOVE a a good woman. For those men who know, there is nothing like a woman that loves you. As for me, I have always been independent to the "statis qoe", Don't care what the others think. Made my own living and did very well. I have given myself permission to love a black woman, and dam the Mississippians for thinking that they have anything to do with someones personal life. (Californian - Note: California was a name of a black amazon woman taken from a novel) I have had the best of experiences with black women and would not change this for anything.

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    • kissme18 says:
      Posted: 13 Aug 11

      Its always great when a man can say what's in his heart nice message well written . I've only been with latino men but I might open my options up 2 white and asian also

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  49.   Lovin43 says:
    Posted: 27 Jun 11

    Surely, I find it very natural - there is one thing I know, love has no boundary. Whether black or white, each one of us has something that drives them to someone. For example, one might just like the colour of someone, I have a brother who says he does not care who the woman he is to marry looks like provided that person has long fingures! I grew in an African family (extended) where I have many nephews but each of them had a different taste. One talks of a waistline, another one of long legs, another of hairy body, another of a drak skin, another of black gum with white teeth. One said I do not want one wearing makeup another me I love one who wears make up. To the point of whether black or white, I do not think one marries because of color! What I know i.e. from my country, most women are very concerned about public opinion thus once you marry them no matter what happens they will stay, at times no matter how abusive the marriage is, they will stay. There is one thing I had about white women, that they do not believe in abusive love. There is something that attracts someone to some interracial marriage.

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  50.   Frickels says:
    Posted: 24 Jun 11

    As a Black and Native American women, I am glad to read the replies from White men. I've often wondered how some White men felt about Black women. I sometimes worry if a White man can relate to me. I have not had an easy life, and I'm ambitious. I worry that what is very important to me such as securtiy, independence and self reliance, may cause a conflict for most White men, not to mention my curves. But, I think I too have been caught up in a lot of stereotypical thoughts about White men. I appreciate the positive and encouraging feed back from the men who are in love with their Black women.

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