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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   ally2311 says:
    Posted: 08 Aug 12

    Honestly, i can't understand why the colour of a person's skin matters soo much, and why they have to be identified as black woman with white man... I joined Interracial dating because, on this site, people from all walks of life are on here... I have dated a lot over the past 6 years, 90% of which ended in the restaurant..I have been out with men from all over the globe..South Africian, Egyptian, Indian, a Russian, Lithuanian, Itlian, African..Canadian, Irish, Middle eastern...I see people, i see men, i don't see the colour of anyone's skin.. I've had 3 serious relationships, My ex fiancé is black, from Jamaica, First bf is from Jordan, and dated one English/German guy...and each person had their own struggles... My ex fiance, who's black, felt like he needed to prove to the world that he's an educated, accomplished black man, and acted like he was the only "brilliant black chemist" ...Jordanian, mommy had to choose his bride, and at the end of the day, i was just an experiment...and german/english guy, two timing son of a ..... was married, never told me, disappeared and went back to wife .... Point is, the colour of a person's skin doesnt make one better than the other, and i wish people would stop.... I am a mixed race person, A great grand mother from Scottland(father), and a great grand and grand parents from India(mother), some strict Indian grand parents, ( father) a dark skinned half black grandmother, and a a light skin, half black grand father... i am a light skin mixed race woman, and it's so hard dating these days... Black men wanting white women, White men wanting Asian and black women, what happens to the folks in-between ???? i am neither a white woman, nor am i a dark skin/black woman... I can't understand what the hell is wrong with people and this obsession with skin colour.... You go out there, mix, mingle and creat mutts like my self, but there is no one who's saying i love mixed race women....Again, WHAT DOES A PERSON'S SKIN COLOUR HAVE DO DO WITH WHO YOU ARE ON THE INSIDE? and with all this being picky about your race and colour, you end up turning innocent people insecure because they don't fit the skin race/skin colour you are looking for.....

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    • Indigo0110 says:
      Posted: 10 Aug 12

      Ally 2311, I hate,to say it but what's wrong with everyone one is we've been socialized by America. As much as I love America , this country is The most color conscious Country ever. There is still so much racism in this ciuntry still. White men who are very successful really have a lot to lose when they make a decision to seriously love a black woman. America is still very much run by white men. Let's be honest. Some of those attitudes about race, can come back to haunt him. This is a reality. I've travelled to many countries and I felt could not feel the tension of interracial dating. Let me point out another fact. In America the most negative reactions are when the iinteracual couple is white and black. I believe that is because of the negative history between the two races, and some are still battling that in their lives.

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      • Indigo0110 says:
        Posted: 10 Aug 12

        I sumitted the previous before finishing or spell checking. Year's ago there was a man from Hungary who really adored me. He had a very high position in an International Organization here I n the U.S. . He had only been here for two years. We were very compatible and always made each other laugh. One day some White American colleagues saw us together having dinner. When I saw him the next day he was,. very upset. He was,told that it may not be good for his career if he were seen dating a Black woman. He could not believe someone saying that. I told him as unbelievable as it seemed, that's how it is here. I decided to stop seeing him. I was born here and used to catching hell, but I did not want that to happen to him.. He was,really hurt that I broke it off, and I must admit I cried many nights. Even to this day I think about him. I believe at the t ime it was t he right thing for me to do. There has been some discussion about white men possubly looking for a fantasy. On the flip side, knowing how this country still is about race, ladies let us consider what they may be giving up to be with us. Readcthe hate in Barbie's post. The reality can be much harsher when the interacial couple is black and white. Both have to be very strong in their love for each other. My friend and I had been going out for two months. I had and still do have this 3 month rule. The most we did was share very Passionate kisses and cuddled. I am positive that had we taken it further and the breakup would have been so much more difficult. I stoic think of him. I wonder how he is.t w .

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    • tonyrodg says:
      Posted: 15 Aug 12

      Times are a changing. BW/WM marriages is the fatest thing gong in 2012.

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    • SoldierNick says:
      Posted: 03 Nov 12

      ally, you are sooo right. Yours is one of the most sensible comments I’ve read on these pages. I am hopelessly in love with a beautiful African woman (we live in South Africa, where it ain’t easy) and we are going to get married. We’ve both been married before - she to a violent Zimbabwean, me to an ice-cold English girl - and neither of us were looking for an IR relationship. We just happened to meet, fall in love almost at first sight, and decided on our second afternoon-out that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Because she is black and I’m white? (I detest both terms) No. Because she is just a wonderful loving woman and I’m ... well, she must see something in me - I’m not sure what. With luck we’ll have us some feisty, intelligent “mutts” like you, though I’ll make damn sure they don’t think of themselves as that. Please don’t despair. One day, a really nice fella - be he black, blue, purple with pink spots, or whiter than Arctic snow (who cares?) - will find you and make you happy. Of that I’m sure. All the best, Nick.

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    • amri5819 says:
      Posted: 04 Nov 12

      Well Ally2311, I agree with your sentiments about people just being people. In a Utopian society, that would be the case. However, from my experiences of just being a "pure blooded African American female" (whatever that means); I have found that African-American men absolutely LOVE racially ambiguous women. I'm sure you'd find a lot of appreciation there.......

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  2.   sweetgina91 says:
    Posted: 08 Aug 12

    All I can say is I <3 white chocolate, I'm single add me lol

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  3.   rjobby8148 says:
    Posted: 07 Aug 12

    How do you get to meet a nice black girls. Can not find any iny area

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  4.   Sexislim11 says:
    Posted: 07 Aug 12

    Wow. Well Reese is so right. My name is Harmony and all I date is white men. Wow Im just shocked at Barbie's comment.

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  5.   Indigo0110 says:
    Posted: 07 Aug 12

    Detective 115, I reallly love your post and the Really sound advice. Sounds to me like you really would take the time to get to know a person, and it would not be all about the sex. I think there is something very Romantic in taking "time".

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  6.   Detective115 says:
    Posted: 06 Aug 12

    Wow what an interesting article and responses. I never imagined myself chiming in but here goes. First off i have no idea what causes the attraction to black women. All that I can say is that it has been with me since an early age. I grew up in a small rural town and there were not any african americans. I didnt attend school with any or have any personal contact with any. With that being said I vividly remember having a mad crush on Thelma from Good times tv show. I thought she was something. That attraction has always been there. I have always thought that black women were the most beautiful, sexy women in the world. I never had the opportunity to date a black girl and married a white woman. After 22 years of marriage I found myself divorced. I have dated black women exclusively since. I find them beautiful, smart, classy, and confident. They take pride in their appearance second to none! I also find that black women who are serious about their faith in God are all in! Yes there are white men trying to fulfill a fantasy but ladies they are easily identified. Make them get to know you and you them. Make the relationship have substance and dont just give it up! Even if there is a strong sexual attraction immediately it is not the basis on which to start a lasting relationship! If you would like to discuss this further get at me! In closing I just want to thank you for being you and being open to dating us white men even if its not always easy and popular. You bring great joy and happiness into our lives by opening your lives up to us. Hopefully we will be respectful and do the same for you!

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    • write4fun says:
      Posted: 11 Aug 12

      I like your honest reply.

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    • helulev39 says:
      Posted: 18 Aug 12

      I can only imaganie how many replies u have gotten from ur post. I dated a white male in high school but the relationship didn't last because of our parents. They felt that we were to young to be getting into something the world wasn't so freely accepting of, this was in the 80's. We departed but not by choice. His family had him sent away because of running away from home wanting to stay with a black family so that we could be together. He use to sneak and call me during his free time while getting evaluated. Those phone calls stopped because his parents caught wind to what he was doing. Any way after bad relationships with black men my mom looked at me and said maybe I should have let u and Chad give it a shot but if u cant be accepted by his family then it never would've worked. Well here I sit and wonder what ever happened to him becz he was my 1st love! Now am here 2 failed marriages to a black man and I can say that I've thrown in the towel. I am officially looking for my king and I prefer him to be white. I think white men are very sexy and they do not have a problem with communication!

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  7.   stevemcc0322 says:
    Posted: 06 Aug 12

    I am from south central texas where there a lot of small towns and bigotry still runs deep. There are even cousins and other relatives that think that any race other than white is a race lower than dogs. That train of thought disgust me. Especially since most will consider themselfs christans and will stand up at church and want to be heard the loudest. That is one more thing that is truely innumerate. Within ourselfs and others we find true beauty unrestrained. If you self reflect and do not like what you see then how can one truely see the beauty with in others? From high school to present day my I have been with just as many non white women as I have white. The best lovers, friends, partners, and companions have been other than white. In all honesty I could contemplate the various reasons as to the magnetism towards women that are not white however it would be like trying to explain what love is. I know I will continue to date black women and embrace the soul warming, heart fluttering, passionate beings that they are. With nothing but love.

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  8.   ChocolatLadi says:
    Posted: 06 Aug 12

    Hi Sarah and Scoffy! It's been a very long time, glad to see that you 2 are still on the site. I think that some of the younger crowd may benefit from your story. Some are discourage and think that they cannot find love with a person of the opposite colour. They think that they have found them when they are in their teens but may lose they just because of life in general. But lo' and behold they may find him or her later on in life (during retirement). And that is a good thing. Take care, keep posting and you are loved!!!!!

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  9.   Natalieray36 says:
    Posted: 05 Aug 12

    Cant wait to meet my 1st successful white man I never date a white man and it is not a fantasy for me. It is a change and something new and different. I do not wear weaves or makeup either. i am a plain Jane who is educated and work hard to keep things I have and want in my life. Im just fed up with zeros and looking for heros...My sex life dont consist of those of the white women i do not do some of the things they do sorry.

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    • Brine01 says:
      Posted: 06 Aug 12

      Wow, this is very interesting but in Delaware I have not seen to many white males interested in Black females. Hearing all of the comments makes me want to relocate. But I am very much attractive to white male. I just haven't been lucky enough to fine one

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  10.   Steffie65 says:
    Posted: 05 Aug 12

    I searched on this site after dating a white male for almost three years. I was upset at the way we broke up. He moved back to his home town in Arkansa. Without telling me anything, he just stopped calling. I really thought we would settle down after all of the drama we had went threw. I was receiving hate phone calls from his ex-wife and his exgirlfriend. It wasn't until later on, about a year, that I found out that he was living with the girlriend and dating me also. I was so much in love with him that I forgave him but never fogotten the harassment and decitfulness. I have met another white male on here and guess what he is living with his ex wife and kids. Before it started up, I put a end to being with him. Don't worry ladies I have not given up. My heart desires a white man because of the way that they traet their woman. I know I have had bad luck, but with the Lord on my side I know he is out there for me. I do have to admit I have wanted a white man in my life for over 30 years. Hopefully on this site I will meet him. God Bless and Love to all.

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  11.   cagneynlacey says:
    Posted: 05 Aug 12

    All comments were very interesting. People are people and look for certain things in a possi ble mate

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  12.   rjobby8148 says:
    Posted: 04 Aug 12

    i like black women looking for one in upstate ny

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  13.   Inspired13 says:
    Posted: 04 Aug 12

    Well, I personally think it is a matter of choice and what you prefer. I have only dated interracial because I dated late in life, and I feel comfortable and happy. So what, if people think bad thoughts about other African American women and myself, because at the end of the day, they don't have to live my life, I do. I think that African American women are beautiful and loving and should be treated with kindness. Yes, our physical attributes are a bonus, but with that being said, we have a lot to offer and should not be overlooked. Every race has someone that makes things look bad on the others, and if someone says that is not true, they are lying. I am at a point in my life that I want to be happy and my response is look the other way, go down the other street, because even if you happen to look back, I will still be approaching your direction and I am not taking an alternate route, just because you disapprove. We only have one life, so live your life, and let the MAN UPSTAIRS do the judging, because frankly his opinion in my view is all that will matter in the end.

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  14.   Ponyboy56 says:
    Posted: 04 Aug 12

    Here I am SouthernNC !! LOL I have been dating women of color for over 40 years simply because I am attracted to them more than any others. There is just something about dark skin and eyes that sets me off. Let me give you a brief history. At age 14, my best friend's sister had a huge crush on me and I teased her to tears sometimes. I know, what a dog huh. Well my buddy told me to lighten up because she really liked me alot. It started out innocently enough, I asked her out to a movie and dinner and as I got to know her, I started reciprocating the feelings. We dated for 3 years before it got sexual and wow, what a mind bender. Now, don't get it twisted, it wasn't the sexual part at all, I was sprung long before that lol. It was how she carried herself, her self confidence, her poise, her spirit, and trust me, she was very spirited. It was the way the sun played on her skin, how it created shades and shadows, I never knew a woman could be so beautiful. So, it isn't just a sexual fanasy for me, but much much more than that.

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  15.   Petpenny says:
    Posted: 04 Aug 12

    hello to everyone,,cant speak for everyone,, happness is my point.i lone to be happy i care less what others think about white men they treat me the way i like to be treated.if their a possibilitie im wrong so let it be,nothing like a charming gentleman.white men open the doors when i enter the building,black men shut the doors in my face sometimes i fight back the tears,im sry i must tell the truth all circumstances is not the same..yes i look forward to being in the arms of a white men and im not bitter.i have love black men a long time with out any respect..my mind made up im ready to be love and i have much love to give..black berry is here to be love..

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  16.   LatinSami says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 12

    Hello how are all a pleasure to share this with you, as you can see I'm from Venezuela a multicultural country as there are several types of cultures here, therefore we are of the least racist in America. Here do not judge others by a simple color, how important are the feelings inside, and if that person truly loves you everything will be perfect. I'm attracted to white guys for a relationship, are very cute and romantic, this may come from family and my mother is black and father white. My mother always liked the white, I think that inherits it. hahaha I also add that this world is different now, many multicultural relations, interracial, gay. Just enjoy life and the person who put us infront and always follow the heart. Kisses and Greetings. Sami Se feliz y disfruta al máximo la vida. Paz :)

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  17.   ThomL says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 12

    It is truly extraordinary how much colour of skin matters to Americans. Frankly it has about as much relevance as the colour of someone's eyes. I'm thankful that I no longer live in America but back in the UK where I was born. In the UK we pride ourselves on our multiculturalism as demonstrated by the Olympic opening ceremony which showed us as we are....warts and all. My first wife was, or rather is, white and now I happen to be dating a woman who lives in Scandinavia and has Nigerian born parents. Before that I was dating a Latvian. That's the reality of the world today. Get over yourselves and stop patting yourself on your own back for your 'bravery' in dating someone from a different background. It is no big deal, if friends and family don't like it who cares, they are clearly small minded bigots and not worth a light. Just find someone to love, whatever colour they are.

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  18.   emanredwing says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 12

    I would like to say this about african american women. I really like what alot of them stand for and alot of them know what they want in a man. If I was dateing a african american woman and we are meant to be together I would not let a great opprotunity like that pass by. I have a friend of mine his wife is african/ american and they have a great marriage and his parents and all of his family members love her and their kids to death so people need to watch how they talk because that does not set a good example for todays kids growing up. We need to teach people love comes in all colors,shapes and sizes and that love will always defeat hate and racism

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  19.   emanredwing says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 12

    I would like to say this about african american women. I really like what alot of them stand for and alot of them know what they want in a man. If I was dateing a african american women and we are meant to be together I would not let a great opprotunity like that pass by. I have a friend of mine his wife is african/ american and they have a great marriage and his parents and all of his family members love her and their kids to death so people need to watch how they talk because that does not set a good example for todays kids growing up. We need to teach people love comes in all colors,shapes and sizes and that love will always defeat hate and racism

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  20.   emanredwing says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 12

    I would like to say this love comes in all colors,shapes and sizes and that we are all gods people and that racism is wrong.There is nothing wrong with people of opposite colors falling in love and dating a marrieing one another and if there family members do not like it shame on them and if other family members think opposite colors should not marrie they are not chistians.

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  21.   antoanto40 says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 12

    How do you know if a white gentleman is only after fulfilling a fantasy? I've read all of the comments and I would like to say thank you for all the comments left, it really helps persons like myself who is serious about finding their happy ever after! Please continue:-)

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    • alourl130 says:
      Posted: 04 Aug 12

      The men that I have encountered so far on IR do seem to be interested in somehow fulfilling some sort of interracial erotic fantasy. I have had statements/questions such as, are IR sexual encounters more erotic and fulfilling to conversations only being about sex. What happened to values and trying to get to know each other? To answer you question... I believe As a woman, keeping true to your innate values and keeping sight of why you're on this site could guide you into a more positive relationship. In regards to my experiences thus far, I am keeping an open mind that Mr. Right will be a few heartbeats away. In regards to some of the posting and there reference to if a WM prefers a darker tone BW or the mare fact that most white men do not respect BW. I strongly believe that if we can bypass the outer layers of someone and genuinely look at the individual heart, then there is where one will truly find love. The last time I check, Love will take place regardless of skin, hair, the color of one’s private parts or socioeconomic status. I'm not in denial, we all have preferences... my motto is...good things come to those that wait...be patient and the ideal guy will find you (lol, I think I said that more for myself LOL) Men that prefers the curvaceous woman where art thou? Happy finding everyone!

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    • Neco110 says:
      Posted: 04 Aug 12

      yeah i hear ya... for a while I was worried with dating white men that for them it was just living out a fantasy sexually or "trying something different". but lets be honest! you will find that in every guy of every race may do that! if a guy just wants you only sexually, no matter what the race, he's just fulfilling a fantasy. And that means he's not the guy for you, regardless of race. Wanting a "hot girl" to have sex with isnt exclusive to wm/bw relationships. you see that across the board.

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      • CrazyCool1 says:
        Posted: 12 Oct 12

        I agree Neco110. I have had very indecent proposals on this site, but was living my life with a bm that made the choice not to let me know I was sharing the relationship. I don't hate him nor any other man. Men are men, some have standards that would not allow them do behave in this manner, and other don't care. Women have to know what they want out of a relationship. What I do love about this site is that at least you know up front what they want if you take time to ask, and then block away, no matter how cute the guy is. It takes all types to make the world go around. Best of luck everyone.

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  22.   BerryCel says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 12

    I'm Black but only date white guys. I find them very loving,honest and romantic. Anyone looking,please check me out

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    • tonyrodg says:
      Posted: 15 Aug 12

      If I was 50 yrs younger I would be on you like a fly on honey. You look very beautiful.

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  23.   subbob says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 12

    wow, there is always a hater in every group!.....to echo what others have said, i find not one grain of truth in her vile post.....i am 68, and my first crush on a Black female was when we were in grade school....there is nothing NOT to like about Black ladies.....i have dated Black ladies exclusively since 2005, with one exception, and You ladies possess every endearing quality i seek....so, MissBarbie, take Your hate elsewhere, along with your "find out later" profile.....subbob

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  24.   res8t633 says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 12

    I havent read all the posts so I dont know if this question was asked and answered already...but I want to know do white men prefer darker skinned black women or doe it not matter? me and my friend were discussing this the other day and she says that statistics show(i dont know where she found these supposed statistics) that white men prefer darker skinned women than lighter skinned women. she says that is the reason they are not attracted to her.

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    • dave_74 says:
      Posted: 29 Jul 12

      @ res8t633, your friend is absolutely correct! After intensive studies conducted by my friend Prof. Dr. Dunkelhaut of University of Gaborone Botswana as well as my own personal surveys taken in 54 African countries, 27 European countries as well as Canada and the USA, it was found that amoung the 100,000+ white men surveyed in Interracial relationships, 67.4% prefered a Sudanese black, 24.1% preffered a med brown and just 3.2% prefered a light Beyonce type brown. (Ok, I made that up.... but my preference is darker, my wife is 1/2 sudanese) it's like they say , the darker the berry...the likelyhood of the berry being more sweet is higher

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      • Neco110 says:
        Posted: 04 Aug 12

        lol! cute!:)

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      • Indigo0110 says:
        Posted: 07 Aug 12

        Dave 74, see those expressions " the blacker the berry the sweeter the juice", ti me is stereotyping again., although I know it's meant to be a compliment. Personally I do not want a white man will choose me based on the shade of black I am or am not. Hopefully I would be more than that.:). This is why it is so important to be patient ladies. Read Detective 115's post. Very good advice to all the ladies on this site. Dave, I do like most of what you had to say also, in particular, that you like what we stand for. That to me shows that you really do pay attention to our character.

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    • tonyrodg says:
      Posted: 15 Aug 12

      When I was younger I had a crush on Grace Jones.

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  25.   sam says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 12

    I love black women for many reasons. Obviously, I find them attractive, but also I admire their strength of charactor, their honesty and their grace. I hope I will find the one special black woman to share my life,

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  26.   Switiling says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 12

    Im all for whiteman loving a black for her personality.It all boils to love and nothing else.kudos for those who have been blessed so far,and white men please im single.

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  27.   Tish.W says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 12

    Lol, you're terrible for saying this. I used to live in Hamilton and many if not ALL of the white guys liked me and my BLACK girlfriends. The black guys liked the white girls and the white guys liked the black girls. Ever heard of the saying "Opposites attract"? Not all black women have black pussies or smelly weave. Maybe the white men you are reffering to were messing with prostitutes or something because I've never EVER meet or seen a black woman with smelly hair or body odor. Most black women smell like some kind of lotion or bath soap. Because we KNOW how to clean ourselves. We use soap just like everybody else and we can WASH our weave, so smelly weave is out of the question. Therefore, your argument is irrelevant and you were trying to spark an argument.

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  28.   Lolo says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 12

    I just luv everything about a white man, there sexy, polite and knows how to treat a woman. Hoping for the best on this site..

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  29.   trainer7 says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 12

    Preach reese lol

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  30.   BarbieM59 says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 12

    To be straight up: A MAJORITY OF WHITE MEN ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO BLACK WOMEN. very rarely do you see a whiteman of modest to wealthy means that is trying to hook up with a black woman. I've had several secret and deep conversations in my life with white men who find that touching a black woman, being intimate with one is revolting. They are disgusted by the touch of a dark black woman, a dark vagina, and the smell of a black woman not washing her head and neck for the purpose of preserving her tracks/weave. This is also true for light skinnedblack women. The fact that you're still black is still disgusting to a majority of white men. Don't get me wrong, there obviously are white guys thy date black women but these are very very very few.and I'd they do, usually the white guy is a wigged or just an exception to the rule and most likely is not of good financial means. Tell mr when you have ever seen a white doctor, lawyer, executive, or business owner ever dating or married to a black lady. NOT NEVER. because not even black men want them. Black men love Asians, white girls, and Latinas. Black men constantly say that black women got attitudes, they're too loud, and don't know how to act in public. It the personality and character of a black woman that's the first turn off, even if a white guy likes black women. He surely won't want to bring her loud ass to his family gatherings. This is not to piss anyone off. It's just a reality the way I've known and seen it and lots of ppl would agree. Most white men, actually a majority of men in general, do not find black women attractive. The find them kind of yucky to touch.

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    • Reese says:
      Posted: 11 Jul 12

      Barbara you are wrong there are alot of wealthy and well off white men married to black women. The majority of bw do not have weaves. In fact the statistics show that bw marry higher end white men on average than white women who marry bm counterparts look it up. Also bw are least likely to be divorced from wm and bm. We have the highest success rate with wm in the nation and higher with bm than wm so maybe your theory is off. And 2nd wm have always been attracted to bw even in times of slavery because we all know they couldn't keep their hands off of bw then even presidents. Also the fastest growing ir relationships include bw/wm, bw/am. What some men say to you and what they do are not the truth. Let me clear up other misconceptions. Bm date bw at a higher rate than almost any other race. Asian women have the highest ir relationships. The highest % of men dating/married to IR is native american not black. There is more white men with a Asian wifes than all the bm married and dating ir together. But if it makes you feel better to say so go ahead. But bw who marry wm almost always marry up actually statistically they make more money and are marriages are more successful. Bw won Miss Universe, Rihanna was voted sexiest woman in the world and Biance most beautiful all in 2012.

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      • QTpie1968 says:
        Posted: 23 Jul 12

        Reese, thank you so much for your wonderful replies to such an obviously narrow-minded and highly misinformed person. Of all the black female friends I have who are either married to or involved with a white man, EVERY single one of them is successful and loves his BW unconditionally. It's sad to see such hateful words from someone on an interracial dating site!! Hmmm....could her real issue with black women/white male relationships be her own jealousy of such beautiful and strong unions?

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        • Butternut08 says:
          Posted: 29 Jul 12

          Well said ladies. I admired your ability to respond with such class and equipped with the facts. Obviously, that young lady is intellectually challenged (?) but definitely misinformed. Yes, her words were hateful and sprayed graciously with venom but the facts are the facts as Reese so eloquently educated us with. It strongly appears to me that Barbie has some unresolved resentments that she may need someone to talk with as to experience freedom and release from such strong hatred. My heart goes out to people who suffer from the disease of ignorance.

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      • Indigo0110 says:
        Posted: 07 Aug 12

        Reese thank you for breaking it down to Barbie!

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    • Reese says:
      Posted: 11 Jul 12

      The creator of ‘Star Wars’ left his wife of 15 years for a black woman. The creator of ‘South Park’ and black wife are expecting a baby. The creator of ‘Norton Anti-Virus’ left his college sweetheart for his black wife. (5 kids) That Russian Billionaire left his wife and kids for Naomi Campbell. The Prince of Monaco cheated on his wife with a black woman who is now the mother of his kid. The Prince of Liechtenstein dumped his girlfriend and married a black woman. Are some of the ones I could think of besides Robert Deniro, Dirk Nowzitki. In Canada 50% of bw are married ir.

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      • Butternut08 says:
        Posted: 29 Jul 12

        Lol! Go ahead Resse w/ your bad self! I can tell you this; If only Robert Deniro was about 15 years younger, I'd be walking down the red carpet hand in hand w/ him!

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        • Reese says:
          Posted: 29 Jul 12

          My girlfriend has a mad crush on him too. I like Italians in general.lol

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          • QTpie1968 says:
            Posted: 31 Jul 12

            I totally agree with you ladies about Robert Deniro. I have loved him for as long as I can remember!!! Not only is he a terrific actor, I would say he has EXCELLENT taste in women lol! :-)

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      • tonyrodg says:
        Posted: 15 Aug 12

        The Baroness of Austria is a BW.

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    • Reese says:
      Posted: 11 Jul 12

      Oh, two of my bw friends are married to white attorneys, one friend is engaged to jewish docter, and one a Asian docter so maybe it is just your circle.

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    • NaijaBabe11 says:
      Posted: 16 Jul 12

      LOL....leave it to a face-less troll to spew this kind of rubbish...so cowardly!

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    • Nylia says:
      Posted: 17 Jul 12

      BarbieM59 you sound very bitter. What you are saying is not a reality check. It's your opinion derived from your environment. I'm very interested as to why you are on this site because you seem to have some issues to work out on how you feel about black women. You have painted all black women as "loud and yucky to touch". Tell me, when have you met all black women? Or, "The majority of men in general"? So for the record, I have or my friends (who happen to black) have dated white men who were lawyers, CEO's, doctors etc... There is no threat here. People like who they like, whatever their color. That's what makes life so interesting. What you have said is very crude, ugly, and untrue. Again, I urge you to look into yourself and deal with those issues.

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      • Indigo0110 says:
        Posted: 08 Aug 12

        Nika23, I have to agree with you on all points. This woman Barbie, obviously knows nothng about Black Women. We have been so stereotyped that most other races don't realize that many Black Women have naturally very long hair. Not all want to, or have to wear weaves. I was born with very long hair. As I've gotten older, I wear it very short. As far as cleanliness is concerned, this woman really needs to check the history of America, and educate herself on black women and cleanliness and habits. That's the one thing our parents, and grandparents stayed on us about. To Barbie, when I was in college, my roommate was white, and two suite mates were white. Believe me when I tell you, their personal hygiene was a shock to me. It had never, ever questioned my mind that white girls would not be clean. I had no reason to beleive otherwise, as I expected basically we were all taught as young girls how to keep ourselves, toilets, etc. clean. These girls got up in the morning, put on clothes without bathing. Sometimes did not change their undergarments, and definitely did not like cleansing the bath tub after use. It was a serious point of disagreements where I was concerned. As far as weaves are concerned, White women have always worn extensions. They used to call them "Falls". The tips were secured by tiny combs. White women also wear weaves, Brittany Spears for one. I would say to Barbie, please don't think Black women are as uninformed as she is Honestly, this type of person, is a waste of time. She MUST feel comfortable believing these things. Ladies, we will never, ever meet her, and she's actually not worth the time in our days.

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        • Ruth116 says:
          Posted: 30 Apr 21

          Dolly Parton wears wigs and Cher sometimes do, but Barbie doesn't seem to mind. Some orthodox Jewish women wear wigs, (called "sheitels") for the rest of their lives after they marry; I know such a lady. Lastly, human hair wigs are made from hair produced by East Indian/Asian hair, particularly Korean hair. Barbie needs to get out more and see that not all BW live up to the misconceptions she has about us. There are some WW that are socially awkward and obnoxious too. Women who conduct themselves with the utmost class and grace are the most beautiful, be they stunning or Plain Janes.

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    • nika23 says:
      Posted: 21 Jul 12

      This sounds like a white woman whose circle includes racist white men or she wants to turn off black women from pursuing white men. Most black women don't wear weaves and many white women wear weaves, so the white men should be turned off by their weaves too. And what makes you think black women don't wash their "head and necks", such bullshit. Black women aren't the only race with dark skin so if dark skin turns them off then they wouldn't date Asians (including Indians who are usually darker than blacks) and Hispanic women who often times cannot be differentiated from black women unless they are native looking. Spewing stupid racial stereotypes that fit very few black women to all black women shows your racism. Why are you on an interracial site then because if you have a daughter with a black man all the negative things you say about black women would apply to her? Besides what the hell is a "wigged"? Maybe you should stick with your racist group of friends because your hate is yucky. Well I see Reese has already made you look like a fool so I won't bother to add much more.

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    • rk1 says:
      Posted: 31 Jul 12

      Barbie, I am not sure what side of the planet you're on. However, I am an upper income white male who exclusively dates black females. As a matter of fact, here in Tennessee you would be suprised to know how common this is.....To tell you the truth, I believe the white women are the ones who have the attitudes. Seems to me that you are one of the Attitude white women who will remain single. Lastly, Black, Brown or Ebony skinned women are more beautiful than any other color God has made. Soft to touch, sweet to taste, and aromatic to smell. Good luck !

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      • QTpie1968 says:
        Posted: 01 Aug 12

        Rk1, you are very astute. Thank you for speaking to the highly "misinformed" poster as an upper income white male who loves and appreciates Black women.

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      • Neco110 says:
        Posted: 04 Aug 12

        so sorry! i meant to check and see who put a thumbs down lol! it suppose to be thumbs up! well said and I agree! <3

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      • helulev39 says:
        Posted: 18 Aug 12

        rk1~I must say that your compliment of a black woman is divine! I would like to thank you for speaking up with what you know and feel. As far as the attitude that's a personal thing with any race of woman. Continue to love black women, we need more out spoken men like you! <3

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    • eanad0976 says:
      Posted: 02 Aug 12

      Haa......I have to agree. I rarely have a situation when a young attractive white male looks at me. I go to the club with my friends and I'm the only one left out. I blame it on NY though. The white guys I have dated were not quality men, not stable financially and most of the time interested in "trying something new". The relationship does not last for long. I may have issues but I've experienced these situations so many time... I'm watching the shows on TV dreaming about this young white stud meanwhile in real life he wants barbie girl! I don't have the bouncy hair and if I do it last for 3 days at the most. Yes, I wash my hair once a week to preserve the moisture of my scalp, yes my vagina is black and not pink, and to add to that I don't have pinky toes. I have to say no on the neck though. I could see why white men would want to date their own kind. It all starts at the younger age; a black and white little girls playing, the black little girl automatically like the white girls hair! I was in the park the other day and I saw it in my own eyes! Don't even start telling me about education, loving your own hair and all that stuff. yes, we will tell our kids to love themselves for who or what they are, but as a kid everything is new and different. having said that why do I date white guys? not sure really.. I certainly reached a level of confidence with them. and I do find them attractive. Also, Reese, I'd like your stats! lol. In regards to your 2nd point, you are omitted so many facts though..slavery, another opportunity to experience something new! From what i understand, Barbie59, who is probably a man, who knows.. no pic, no stat, was giving her general opinion of what she experienced. Leila Lopes, Rihanna, and Beyonce have all wealthy black men in their life. I can see Leila going for a mature white man at some point though. Anyway, we're all looking for love. I wanted to share this link too. You're stats kind of derived from this web link. http://justlikemecouples.blogspot.com/search?updated-min=2012-01-01T00:00:00-08:00&updated-max=2013-01-01T00:00:00-08:00&max-results=31

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      • Reese says:
        Posted: 12 Aug 12

        It is there choice, but white men are attracted to them and even bw who bm generally are not attracted too like Whoopi Goldberg. Best of luck in your pursuits and hope you know you don't have to settle for someone who isn't bringing something to the table. Go get him girl.

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    • Lamw77 says:
      Posted: 17 Aug 12

      Poor Barbie, If ignorance is bliss, you must be in 7th heaven. Who raised you? Do you have any black female friends? If you do, they couldn't possibly know the real you? Why are you here anyway? I don't think I need to comment any further. I see you have been put in your place by other members already. Why don't you do an experiment and pose as a black woman on this site , see how many eligible, successful white males show interest and prove yourself wrong.

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    • ladyafrika says:
      Posted: 18 Sep 12

      Miss Barbie, I'm new on this site and i just have to say, I'm very shocked and disgusted with your comment and i think its a shame as a human being that is the way you would talk about another race. I mean you write in such anger as If black people are dogs, trash and disgusting to be touched? and not to mention, these" white men" that talk about black women like this, how do you find them as good people. What makes you better than a black colour?? Just cause its dark? I mean wow , lady. Every race is beautiful, every individual in each race is different, nobody is ugly. I was born in Africa and live in Canada (THANK GOD AM NOT WHERE YOU ARE). I have faced this kind of hate and negativity while living here, i talk to white guys everywhere i go and they are not afraid to ask me out. But honestly, wow! You've just blown my mind in how negative and ugly people can truly be. I'm a black woman, I'm not allowed, i'm friendly, all my friends are difference races, i'm friendly and i am a good person LOTS AND LOTS of time WHITE MEN COMPLIMENT ME! You go to Africa and even there White men date lots of black women, lots of interracial couples. TONS. I was born this way, and i'm proud to look this way, So how dare you, you talk about my race like we are garbage. Be a human being, think before you say stuff. May god have mercy on you. Wow!! The hatred from people like you is soo sad, even my white gf's are all shocked you wrote something like this.

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    • SoldierNick says:
      Posted: 03 Nov 12

      Barbie (I take it you’re some kind of man, and a sick little nerd at that) having been around the block a few times, I have to tell you that your comment is about the most ill-educated, disgusting and offensive garbage I have ever read. Only in such a fundamentally racist country as the US of A could you get away with it. In some places in Europe you would, quite rightly, be locked up for spouting this sort of hateful drivel. As a former member of the British SAS (special forces), let me just say that you are extremely lucky not to be within physical arm’s reach of me or any of my former comrades-in-arms. We did not risk our lives time and again in defence of Western democratic values in order to give freedom of vile speech to the likes of you. Part of our code was that women, of whatever race, colour or creed, were inviolable and worthy of respect. Real men understand that, even if you don’t. Now crawl back under your filthy little stone, and stay there.

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    • rosej8 says:
      Posted: 05 Feb 16

      youre either a jealous black male or a jealous white women whose upset and mad because she wasn't born with black women features so she has to pay for it and mad because your race is the highest for surgery. go away.

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  31.   Mikeman82 says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 12

    Good morning lovely people on the site. I have only dated "women of color" since my divorce from my white wife in 2006. I did not begin dating black women to fulfill any fantasy, obsession, or "bucket list" thing. My rational was very simple. The "women of color" that I had met and interacted with through the years professionally always impressed me with their charm, always "squared away" with their dress, confidence to talk and interact and willingness to make good eye contact. After my divorce, I asked a lady to dinner and she said yes, I was smitten from that day to the present. I recently met a wonderful woman, on this site, and we have been seeing each other for about 3 months. I could not ask for a finer friend, companion, lover, helpmate, whatever term one wishe's to use. People are people, however, I do urge people to open their minds to different possibilities, get out of the sterotypes and look into what this wonderful world has to offer us. Best wishes, Michael

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  32.   scoffy60 says:
    Posted: 09 Jul 12

    Attraction is hard to explain, in my youth any female that had the looks would set all sorts of thoughts going thru my system. I will say as I have aged physical appearance still is part of the attraction, but not the main catalyst to start any sort of interaction. Sarah and I have discussed this topic numerous times as we meet and see inter-racial young couples very frequently, and yes often we wonder if one of the pair or maybe both are just exploring some type of fantasy or satisfying a curiosity concerning romance with a person of a different race. Understanding what is in a person's heart is not an easy task. In all races, we have seen the good girl chase the bad boy, or the good boy chase the bad girl.....So in the end just have to take a person for what they are, and trust me you will know when it's the real deal. God Bless Scoff/Sarah

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  33.   MauiGnome says:
    Posted: 09 Jul 12

    I feel the same way about Black women, so full of loving kindness and exotic beauty.

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  34.   Cocodip20 says:
    Posted: 08 Jul 12

    White men are so hot, and romantic I can't help myself when it comes to them.

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  35.   SouthernNC says:
    Posted: 08 Jul 12

    I would love to hear caucasian/"white" men that are on this site or have been on this site speak on the subject. I believe there are caucasian/"white" men that are interested in "black" women because that is who that are truly attracted to "black" women. However, I think are a WHOLE LOT of caucasian/"white" males on here are just here to do to fulfill a fantasy. Gentlemen please prove me wrong.

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    • jrebs43 says:
      Posted: 17 Aug 12

      I loke you attitude. I love black women more than anything. I wish I could find me one.

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  36.   scoffy60 says:
    Posted: 06 Jul 12

    Just dropping by to say hello, yes I still follow most of the post as I find them very intresting. I know that most of you are not famliar with the background behind Scoff and myself due to our long absence from posting. To keep things simple Scoff is white and I'm black, both of us are from the same small town in southern Alabama, our relationship started back around 1964 when we both worked on a truck farm packing tomatoes. (That's the short version) Reminiscing the other day I happened to think about an incident that took place my junior year at Florida A& M, concerning a picture I kept on my dresser. Again to briefly catch you folks that are not familiar with as I say our saga for lack of a better term. With the separation of me going off to A&M and Scoff ending up getting drafted we had not had hardly any contact, so our romance was rather cold. Although we both still harbored heart felt feeling for each other. After our chance encounter at the Trailways station in Mobile he did get my mailing address and promised to write. So back to the picture on my dresser, an 8 by 10 of Scoff with a black soldier standing close with some kinda of military vehicles behind them. At the bottom Scoff had wrote never stop thinking about you my first love and my first real kiss love Scoff. When I first put the picture on the dresser my room mate commented or inquired as she pointed to the black soldier. Is that your old boyfriend that you talk about occasionally? With out thinking I said no that's him on the left, she kinda of looked at me like are you serious, as she commented he looks white. Then she started laughing, as she stated Sarah you always have had a sense of humor. Gosh it must of took at least 30 minutes to convince her that Iwas not joking. Just a thought from the past (1969) as how the social structure has changed from the ol'days.... Love and God Bliss Sarah

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    • 1960rolf says:
      Posted: 18 Jul 12

      Well, I'm here to prove you wrong :) I was never really interested in dating black women. On the street for instance, I'd sometimes give white women a second glance, but I'd never look at black women that way. That all changed when I met my (black) ex girlfriend. I fell in love with her because of who she was, and I never saw her as "black". Except when I woke up next to her the very first time. Her black skin and the white sheets - then I noticed! Even though we have broken up a long time ago, that image of her blackk skin and the white sheets still sits razor-sharp in my mind. Since then, I have only dated black women. On the street, I'll never look at white women but I do give black women a second glance sometimes. To me, it has, and had, nothing to do with fulfilling a sexual fantasy. I hope I proved you wrong :)

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  37.   CinnamonTee says:
    Posted: 06 Jul 12

    Let me just say that I adore white men. I have to be honest though, Until I turned 40 I had never dated or been intimate with one. I went to school with them, they have been some of my best fiends but never had I dated one or even thought about it until recently. My experiences have been just as amazing as dating a black man. Allbeit, it was definitely something to get used to but overall, it was great. Happy hunting.

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  38.   Eireland says:
    Posted: 05 Jul 12

    I have dated interracially for most of my life. I am simply more attracted to women with darker skin. I also have experienced that women of color are more appreciative of the love and attention I have to offer. I think internet dating is so incredible . It allows barriers to fall, doors to open and wonderful possibilities to present themselves. I have met people on dating sites that I never ever would have met in the normal course of my life experiences. How cool is that. Cheers everyone and send someone from a different race a message tonight:)

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  39.   lx47009 says:
    Posted: 04 Jul 12

    I too have always been attracted to caucasian men. I grew in up a predominately caucasian area in the Midwest. When we were kids, not one of us saw color. We saw one another as basic human beings. My desire is for all of us to experience that kind of sheer acceptance again as adults. Mixed marriages and mixed couples are BEAUTIFUL!

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  40.   tomp7 says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 12

    Wow! You women are deep. I love intelligent conversation as well as insightful. I love black woman, and that's that. Physical attraction is a must, but if your weak minded it can be a problem. Stay beautiful.

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  41.   justmeintn says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 12

    As a white man who appreciates the qualities that a black woman has to offer, I would like to share this: I have approached several black women and consistently get the same reply, “you seem like a great guy, but my family would disown me if I dated a white guy!” This breakdown needs to start in our homes. With white men, black men, latino men, asian men, white women, black women dating white women…the “available” white woman is a small percentage of the relationship possibilities that exist. Fathers and mothers have got to STOP telling their lovely black daughters that they have to be with men of their culture. Why is your black daughter not allowed to date someone who is financially secure, with a great job and a good head on their shoulders. Why is your black daughter not allowed to date someone that will treat them like a queen, will respect their differences, hell…will love that the differences have the potential to make the relationship that much stronger. I personally love the passion, tenacity, forthrightness, family bond, whole hearted love, non-game playing potential of the black woman. These are the traits that attract me to a black woman. Good God, each of the black women that I have approached are so strong, convicted, spiritual, and family oriented that I instantly attracted to them. But to hear that their family wouldn’t allow them a chance with someone who would put them on a pedestal and be there for them like they were the only person on earth is ridiculous. Moms and Dads…tell your lovely black angels that it is ok for them to be happy, pampered, loved and well taken care of…even if that person is of a different color!!

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    • tranquil27 says:
      Posted: 04 Jul 12

      Interesting you should say that. I don't know why, but in my experience, it seems more acceptable for black men to date out of their race. It it possible the the reason for encouraging black women to date black men may come from a desire to protect them - history has taught black women they are at the bottom of the racial totem pole. I can understand why parents or families would encourage black women to lean towards that which is familiar. The irony is that so often it hinders success rather than encourage it. It really is baffling to me that in today's society anyone would't be encouraged to find love, respect and appreciation where ever they can. I just seem to have less in common with black men, yet I have no success with white men or men of any other race. I'm still hoping though.

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  42.   glwadia says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 12

    hello just to let you guys know that all these comments are really interesting. i ve been here not too long ago in search of a good Caucasian guy who ll be strongly interested in me. a friend of mine referred me to this site because this is where she found her husband. i must tell it is not easy at all. i m easily getting along with them i think. my ex was a white dude. just that now i wanna settle down and think about building a family. i know i would find my husband on here. good things are not easy to get but all i know is that what is yours is yours.

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  43.   Shee91 says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 12

    I find myself being attracted to white men now as well but it seems hard to meet one. I try not to think about it because I'm only 21 and in school but it is a thought that crosses my mind from time to time. Also because I'm a christian I think that makes it a little harder.

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    • justmeintn says:
      Posted: 03 Jul 12

      Being a Christian should make it easier!

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    • jrebs43 says:
      Posted: 03 Jul 12

      Shee91, I would like to date a black woman in a second. Age does not matter.I am 43 years old and happiness is all that counts!

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  44.   CaribDee says:
    Posted: 01 Jul 12

    I am not necessarily attracted to white men only, but they seem to have the same interest as me. However, I do feel like they will only approach me online. Can anyone explain why? I have been at the same gym for the last three years, five times per week and the same guys stare from the corner of their eyes, but never try to approach me.

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  45.   bethis says:
    Posted: 01 Jul 12

    i swear they make it so easy let's me real for a minute i have went thru in 4 yrs a billion profiles where is my man

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  46.   bethis says:
    Posted: 01 Jul 12

    why does it have to be a white or black thing why can't it just be love

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  47.   tolgacekcen says:
    Posted: 29 Jun 12

    i am looking for a black woman, features : very big boobs, big buttocks, big lips, and lovely and faithful and sincere, i am waiting now :) kiss everybody

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    • rosej8 says:
      Posted: 05 Feb 16

      you are a disgusting man if thats how you see black women.

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      • Ruth116 says:
        Posted: 24 Aug 23

        He's no man, he's a pig! A REAL man appreciates a woman for her heart, soul, intelligence and the love she has to give.

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  48.   uniqchocladi says:
    Posted: 28 Jun 12

    I'm still not hearing enough of why white men want to be with a black woman. And furthermore, What's the problem white men have with white women? Are white women good women? We are always hearing about a black woman's strength. What are white women known for?

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    • HotWillyT says:
      Posted: 29 Jun 12

      Uniq, I think you are missing the point. Attraction isn't something you can logically explain to someone for all women of all races are different. yes there are some stereotypes which may carry some similarities in one race or another. Frankly I am attracted to women of all races. Truly Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and hopefully the feeling is mutual. This is the great fact for us!!!

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    • jrebs43 says:
      Posted: 29 Jun 12

      uNIQCHOCLADI-I have benn attracted to black women for a long time now. I want to be WITH a black woman because they are more laid back to me than white women, look better and I am just attracted to them.

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  49.   nik20009 says:
    Posted: 28 Jun 12

    Ok I am a White 54 year old English guy living in the USA, I have only dated Black Women for the last 32 years, Just got married to the sweetest most beautiful Lady I have ever met, Met her here on Afro Romance always said would never get married again and within 2 months of meeting married her, So love is out there JNK_1 understand where you are coming from, a lady should be asked out its about how you were raised, the Desperate comment is from a person who does not understand that not everyone is the same, Not everyone is a grab the bull by the horns and hang on, but this is what happens, lots of guys will not approach a beautiful women for fear of rejection, its "she wont go out with me she is to good" but stick to who you are and trust me there is a person out there who will love the values you have, when you least expect it, it will happen...

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    • jnk_1 says:
      Posted: 29 Jun 12

      Thank you so much for your kind words nik20009, and congrats on your marriage! I don't know why that comment was made towards me but it's all good, I thought we were all here to talk about our interest in love. But you will always find one who feels the need to try and down someone, I'm glad that you found love and I wish you and your wife nothing but happiness!

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  50.   jnk_1 says:
    Posted: 27 Jun 12

    Was this addressed to me? First just let me say I'm not desperate and thank you for your unwated comment I'm just here talking with everyone else so I don't see the need for your comment. I have been with white guys before in the past but they approached me. All I was saying that I see white guys that I wouldn't mind talking to but just don't know if could approach them. But thank you for your comment any way Nairobi28 says: June 25, 2012 at 15:36 You sound desperate!! White men are not afraid to go after what they want. Maybe its just you.

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